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Welcome to my little piece of the Planet! So much has changed
here since I first joined back in 2000, but then again, I've
changed (grown) too. I welcome all who cross this path, however,
please remember that I am a lady.
I`m keeping up the "17 things" list because I`ve gotten a lot of
positive feedback from it but I had to add one more. If it doesn`t
apply to you, but you know someone that it does apply to, please be
a friend and share....
Here are 17+ things that every woman (and men too) should
remember!
Women, let`s take a good hard look at ourselves and our behaviour
and start taking some responsibility for what happens in our
lives.
Men, if some of these things apply to you, then you need to take
heed as well...and don`t be offended by this list, there is
something for you at the bottom of the page! ;o)
17+ THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW!
1. Love, Love, Love Yourself. There`s only one of you. Love
yourself until death!
2. Stop Playing the Victim. Martyrdom is totally unnecessary for
today`s woman. Your first allegiance is to yourself. Without a
strong sense of self, there is no way that you can tackle the ups
and downs of a relationship or the rigors of motherhood (if you so
choose).
3. Stop Settling for Less. A piece of a man is definitely not
better than whole, healthy man. Your desperation is showing.
4. Stop Trying to Be a Savior. If a man (or woman)doesn`t have
their head together and is on the skids, it is not up to you to try
to save them. You are neither their mother nor their therapist. Let
them go and move on. People like this will bring you down if you
aren`t careful.
5. Learn to Exhale Between Relationships. In other words...no
transitional lovers. Someone always ends up being hurt and it could
be you...again, or that poor man. Neither one of you deserves to be
hurt or used. Give yourself some down time.
6. Learn the Difference Between Being Alone and Lonely. Being alone
is by choice and loneliness is only temporary. Get out and enjoy
yourself. Wallowing in loneliness can often make women desperate
for attention and lead them into unhealthy relationships.
7. Don`t Allow Any Man (or Woman) to Validate You. Allowing any man
to define who you are as a woman leaves you open to being
controlled and eventually abused. Why give a person that type of
power over you? Now, do you really want to bethe kind of woman who
thinks thather life is not complete unless she has a man in
it...any man? Where`s your self-respect? - This one goes for men
too!
8. Blessed is the Child that has Her Own. Handle your business
educationally and financially. Generally, needy, uneducated women
tend to attract men of the lowest character.
9. Small sacrifices now lead to bigger rewards later. Don`t let
good sex sway you. Sure, he may rock your world like no other man
has ever done, but don`t let the sex cloud your judgment. If he
treats you like crap, or like a convenient booty call or just adds
you to his harem then, eventually, you may come to resent him with
the same passion you displayed when he was between your legs. Now,
if that`s all you want, and that`s all you think you`re worth and
are willing to settle for, then be honest and protect yourself. If
you play, you will definitely pay. Don`t confuse lust with love.
And no fair trying to trap him with a pregnancy neither one of you
wants. That`s playing dirty! And why should an innocent child pay
for your stupidity? After all, you picked him.
10. Don`t Try to Buy a Man`s Affections. In the long run, not only
will you lose him, but you will lose your self-respect and any
smidgen of respect he may have had for you. Are you that desperate?
Any self-respecting man will never allow himself to be kept. Kept
meaning, letting him move into your place, paying his car note,
allowing him to use your credit, etc.
11. Stop Trying to Change Men. Men will usually tell you who they
are if you really listen to them. So try less talking and do more
listening and you will, most likely, save yourself some trouble. -
CAN I GET AN AMEN SOMEBODY!!!
12. Stay Away from Unavailable Men. If he`s married, separated,
having problems with his baby`s/babies` mama/mamas, not ready for a
commitment, not willing to commit, etc., he is off limits. Now if
you thrive on drama, then, by all means, go right ahead. Some women
are made like that.
13. Love Doesn`t Hurt. Women who say that they love physical or
verbal abuse from their mates have some serious emotional issues
and will continue to make up excuses until they get the help they
need. Don`t become a statistic. The life you save may be your
own.
14. Don`t Compromise Your Moral Values. Even if you don`t consider
yourself a particularly religious person, promiscuity will take a
toll on your self-respect and even your health, in the long run.
Sleeping around with men who don`t have your best interests at
heart tends to chip away at the very essence of you. Listen to your
instincts. They will never lead you wrong.
15. Respect is Reciprocal. If you want respect then you must give
respect, especially toward your mate. If you lash out in anger,
frustration, or whatever, be prepared to receive the same in
return. Even the most loving and gentle man can take only so much
of his woman`s funky attitude.
16. Keep Your Personal Business Between You and Your Man. Use
extreme discretion whenever you are tempted to discuss your
personal problems with family, friends and etc. Many relationships
have been broken up due to outsiders putting their two cents in
where it didn`t belong. Keep that mouth zipped! -
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17. Don`t Advertise Your Man. Whether he is "da bomb" in the
bedroom or a blessing sent down from heaven, try to keep it to
yourself. Actions speak louder than words. Most women can pick up
on this just by being around you and yours. Why? Because you are as
happy and content as a kitten with a saucer of warm milk. It will
definitely show. Now there`s nothing wrong with a little bit of
bragging about your man. But keep it low-key. No sense in
irritating those unscrupulous women who will try to "test your man"
and/or lure him away (as if they could)!
18. ATTENTION LADIES AND GENTELMEN!!! I feel the need to express
my frustration with those who have decided they are going to date
exclusively outside of their race. While I have no qualms with
those who are attracted to all races and cultures, I am really
referring to those who, because of their own funky experiences,
have decided that a whole segment of the race is worthless. So, if
you have a tendency to refer to all black men as "dogs" and all
black women as "gold-diggers" (or worse), step back for a minute
and take a long, hard, honest look at your past relationships. Nine
times out of ten, YOU'VE ALWAYS PICKED THE SAME TYPE OF
PEOPLE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH!!! If you pick the
same TYPE of person (not
race) and expect a different outcome, then who's the crazy
one???? Food for thought......
NOW TO MY FELLAS:
I want to take this opportunity (and this space on my page) to just
say "Thank You" to all my beautiful Black men. Thank you for being
strong and enduring everything that you`ve endured. Thank you for
being my warriors, my protectors, my providers, my confidants, my
refuge and when God blesses me, my covering.
He is my King
He is my One
Yes, he`s my father
Yes, he`s my son
I can talk to him
`Cuz he understands
Everything I go through
And everything I am
He`s my support system
Can`t live without him
The best thing since sliced bread
Is his kiss, his hugs, his lips, his touch
And I just want the whole world to know about my
BLACK BROTHA!
-Angie Stone (Brotha)
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-Perfect- You`re the perfect girlfriend. Which
means you`re rare or that you cheated :P You`re
the kind of chick that can hang out with your
boyfriend`s friends and be silly. You don`t
care about presents or about going to fancy
placed. Hell, just hang out. You`re just happy
being around your boyfriend.
What
Kind of Girlfriend Are You?
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(and no, I didn`t cheat on the test!)
