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ASALAAMU ALAIKUM WA RAHMATULLAHI WA BARAKTUH BROTHERS AND SISTERS

The Ideal Muslimah

 is proud of the great position that Islam has given her among humanity. She performs her duties knowing that her role is clearly defined and that her rights are still, even today, greater than any other ideology has provided. She is a woman of moral excellence, true to her nature, not confused by alien and morally bankrupt ideas. She preserves her self-respect and dignity through her piety in obedience to Allah (swt) and His Messenger (saw). She is the role model that every true believer hopes to emulate.

She is tolerant and forgiving

 The Muslim woman is tolerant and forgiving, overlooking any errors on the part of her husband. She does not bear a grudge against him for such errors or remind him about them every so often. There is no quality that will endear her to her husband like the quality of tolerance and forgiveness, and there is nothing that will turn her husband against her like resentment, counting faults and reminding him about his mistakes. The Muslim woman who is following the guidance of Islam obeys the command of Allah (SWT): ( . . . Let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? . . .) (Qur'an 24:22) Such a woman deserves to be the queen of her husband's heart and to fill his soul with joy and happiness.

 THE IDEAL HUSBAND

  The Prophet (saws) respect for a wife’s intelligence and understanding was also reflected in his readiness to consult his wives and respond to their good advice. An instance of this practice is recorded on the occasion of the signing of the treaty of Hudaibihiyah. Many of the Muslims were reluctant to accept treaty. They did not want to go home without performing pilgrimage and they considered some parts of the Treaty disadvantageous to the Muslims. They were therefore reluctant to obey his instructions to slaughter their sacrificial camels and shave their heads, which would symbolise that the Pilgrimage was over and the matter closed. The Prophet (saws) withdrew to his tent in perplexity, and told his wife Umm Salamah what had happened. She advised him: "Go out and speak to no man until you have performed your sacrifice." The Prophet (saws) followed her advice, and slaughtered the camel calling: "Bismillah, Allahu akbar" in a loud voice, whereupon the Muslims forgot their reluctance and raced to make their own sacrifices.

 THE IDEAL HUSBAND...

 1.Always emulate the behavior of the Prophet Muhammad [ ] with his wives

2.Treat her with respect, especially during intimacy:

3.Maintain personal grooming and hygiene

4.Your wife is a consultant, not a personal valet or slave

5.Take care of her during her pregnancy and breastfeeding

6.Help her out in the household work

7.Praise her small gestures or good traits openly, especially before your family

8.Remember that your wife will age and her beauty will die

9.Do not look at other women

10.Do not use the Qur'an and ahadith to establish your authority

11.Your wife's adherence to religious obligations and her education are your responsibility

12.Keep unnecessary jealousy in check:

13.Maintain her privacy from your family

14.Respect her family

15.Don't stand by mutely if your family members oppress your wife

16.Ditch the TV on weeknights:

17.Steer away from both extravagance and miserliness

18.Remember that the rib is bent

MAY ALLAH (SWT) BLESS THOSE WHO BELIEVE AND SHOW MERCY TO THOSE WHO DO NOT....AMEEN

Mujahid