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    Artilus

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  • Member Since:

    November 02, 2007

  • Sex:

    Male

  • Age:

    51

  • Location:

    Hoboken, NJ

  • Race:

    Black/African American, Native American

  • Zodiac:

    Capricorn


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Beatitudes

Then Jesus turned to His deciples and said,

"God Bless you who are poor,

for the Kingdom of God is given to you.

God Blesses you who are hungry now,

for you will be satisfied.

God Blesses you who weep now,

for the time will come when you will laugh for joy.

God Blesses you are hated and

excluded and mocked and cursed

because you are identified with me the Son of Man.

When what happens, rejoice! Yes, leap for Joy!

For a great reward awaits you in Heaven. And remember,

the ancient prophets were also treated that way by your ancestors".

 

Luke 6:20-23

 

Personal Disclaimer

 

Brothers I am not a "DOWN-LOW-BROTHER"! I extended an invitation to become friends because in becoming the REAL Man I am I have to talk to real men. So my request was based on me seeing something in your BP Profile that was real. So relax Brothers I'm cool. 'REAL' Cool!

Why you at it join my group here on BP: My Brothers' Keeper, we even have our very own Live Radio Show - WMBK Live Talk Radio premiering January 1st, 2008. So come join My Brothers, let's take it to another level on Black Planet.

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There is a myth that Black African American men today run from commitment. I for one believe this is nonsense or makes no sense!

 

Just as sisters do, more than ever; brothers want a long term relationship or marriage including for example brothers who have been in a relationship or married before. In fact, those previously married brothers typically don't stay single for long.

What has appeared to sisters as resistance to commitment in us brothers (like sisters) is a thin veneer of caution. Perhaps due to in part previous hurt and disappointment, we don't always express as openly.

Brothers today are just as eager as our counter parts to enter into intimate long term relationships and even employing traditional values (no sex before marriage, premarital counseling and collective monitorial commitments). We all desire a nest for ourselves in that relationship.

It has been my personal experience that one of the more poorly understood aspects of man's bond with a woman is his need for her. In our own way, we may attempt to hide it or even disguise our need for you, in hopes that you may not notice a dependency, both spiritually and emotionally.

In turn, some women feel discomfort with a man's dependency, a fact which may cause brother to disguise the intensity of his need for her.

The net result is that many women are not fully aware of male dependency and as a result do not realize the leverage and power she posses, and visa-a-versa. Thus, causing her to view his inability to communicate one's affections emotionally or built-in need for her, as weakness. To the extent that she may not be able to ultimately see the brother in her life as capable of adequately protecting her or their collective nest.

Men have at times and in my experiences disengaged themselves after being nagged, scrutinized or cajoled for weeks, or months on into making a commitment. And honestly; just as quickly fell for someone else.

Understandably, we all have to be firm in a way that comes from the heart and is felt not heard! And that this isn't a gender thing, a bother's thing or even a man's thing! Any relationship requires all of us (men and women) to view ourselves in it as a 'we' thing!

Honestly speaking, I've experienced one too many social misunderstandings. Likewise, I am here as part of a collective restoration process. I come in reconciliation.

For myself, I am not in the demolishing business when it comes to the matters of the heart. Those painful walls of distrust, fear and loneliness can only be removed by the Creator and a willing heart.

Finally, I've spent quite some time seeking as well as excepting every opportunity in posturing myself as best-friend, business partner and or husband. With the understanding that God has the ultimate hand and say in who we become in each others' lives.

In this I've also considered and respect the fact you are a child of the most-High God and because He loves me so much that he still honors me with a glimpse of my future wife with your presence here on BP. So my goal is to Love Him back by loving you.

If your feelings and aspirations are similar or the same, leave a brother a note or some acknowledgement on my Blog Page or in my Guest Book - thus beginning perhaps a life time of Friendship and Heavenly Love between us, creating a digital bridge between our mutual lost but now found beginnings, anew!

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