3. Residing with my family (REASONING: Both of my parents are going through some SERIOUS health concerns that need a family member/home health aide present, so I moved back home to assist when the home health aide isn't there).
4. Two parent family (my parents have been married for 40 years). They're very educated, college graduates and post grad, graduates (both possess their Master's Degrees). They are very proud people (in a good way, however, and not in the slightest way haughty). I'm very proud of them. They raised me very well, with morals, values, responsibility, accountability, maturity, honesty, integrity, culture, and civilization.
5. I'm a college graduate (Rutgers University-College of Arts & Sciences. I posses a BA in English & Psychology and currently, I'm in graduate school, pursuing my Master's of Arts Degree in Adult & Continuing Education. After I've completed my program of study, I will be applying to school again to pursue another Master's Degree in School & Community Counseling.
6. I'm a very friendly, easy going, generous, helpful, kind, and a goofy/silly person. I love laughing and just having a great time in life. I'm naturally interpersonal; I really enjoy interacting with people. It makes me happy & feels good to be able to help people and possibly have an impact on their lives. I am driven, motivated, tenacious, & determined to achieve my goals and dreams.
7. I love to write (poetry, prose, & short stories), I also love to sing I don't think I can sing like an American Idol finalist, but I can hold a tune and interchange my vocal cords with ease lolol.
8. I have a brother who is three years younger than me. He's one of my very best friends. Growing up, we weren't as close as we are now, but thank God life experiences and maturation shaped and molded into the wonderful people we are today. Now we're able to interact as true siblings should.
9. I work full time in Delaware County, PA at one of the Head Start Early Childhood Education Schools as a Family Service Coordinator. I like it very much. Human/social service is what I love to do. My reward and compensation comes from helping others achieve their goals and dreams for themselves and their families.
10. I like to go out and have a good time when time permits and when in the company of great friends.
11. I am a Christian and am in the process of looking for a Christ filled, Bible based, teaching church fellowship. I have been saved since 8th grade, but like many Christians, I back slid & stepped away from God. I'm no where near perfect and now I'm in the process of coming back and doing the right things. I want to be like Jesus, and do things that I know God will be pleased with and proud of me for.
No longer have a "type of guy" I have "requirements" that I have when it comes to selecting who I chose to share my time with. Some of those requirements are listed below:
a. Single (this means: non-committed, & non-involved)
b. Not on the "Down Low" (The propensity of men to hide their home sexual behavior/lifestyle - Men who are interested in women and portray that lifestyle out in public and to those who are not in the DL inner circle but who secretly have sexual relations/relationships with men Being on the "down low," is a term for people who secretly have sex with members of the same gender. The first mainstream media account was reported in the L.A. Times on Feb. 7, 2001. The term is predominately used in African-American and Latino populations. It is a way for African-American and Latino men to admit to having sex with other men, without identifying as "gay." For many in the African-American and Latino community, the term "gay" applies only to white people.)
c. Absolutely No Children (I don't have any, so why would I want someone with a pre-made family?)
d. HS Diploma + College Degree (preferably in the process of attaining Master's Degree or already in possession of a Master's Degree)
e. Legitimate Full Time Job/Career
f. Own Place (but there can be exceptions to this, provided a valid, reasonable, & logical explanation can be provided)
g. Own Car (financed or leased with valid insurance & registration)
h. No "Priors" (even the simplest of people know what this means)
i. Excellent personally hygiene and personal care
j. Physically appealing (nice teeth straight, white, plaque free, gingivitis free, nice hands & feet clean, trim nails, well taken care of skin/no ashy-ness, well groomed don't have to be clean shaven, but neat & put together, up to par physical stature not too thin/skinny & not to large/over weight, fashionable dress, pleasant aroma/fragrance)
k. Mentally appealing (good conversation, intelligence, able to speak on events going on in one's personal community, and global community, mentally sound not "throwed off", possessing a lively sense of humor)
l. Socially appealing & appropriate/Behavior and Swag must be on point (MATURE not about playing games, cultured, gentlemanly, civilized, suave, charismatic, charming, debonair)
m. Receiving regular checkups & making appointments when necessary to visit one's family physician(s) (physiological, mental, dental, auditory, visual)
n. Confident, Self Assured, & Secure within oneself, Self Valued, Self Esteemed (Positive attitude & demeanor) o. Responsible in all areas of life
p. Accountable for word & deed
q. Great rapport with family, friends, acquaintances, associates, employers, community, etc.
r. Social life that extends beyond me (friends, interests)
s. Mature friends with similar attitudes, actions/behaviors, interests, and upwardly mobile things going on in their life
t. Good conflict resolution/problem solving skills
u. NON-LAZY (Motivated, determined, creative thinking, forward thinking, driven for more and better in life)
v. Talented in something outside of oneself
w. Personally endeavored in a self-fulfilling task
x. Civic/community involvement, a registered voter & an actual voter
y. Enjoys going out to socialize (to eat, get a drink, dance, mix & mingle, movies, etc.)
z. Able & willing to love (this includes: liking, respecting, caring, trusting, giving, adoring, cherishing, admiring, elevating another with word and action, honoring, self sacrificing, valuing, openness, good listening skills, good advice skills/wisdom, humble, considerate, courteous, honesty, trustworthiness.
Some of my dislikes:
1. I can't stand hater females who enjoy talking about other people just to life themselves up and feel better about themselves. That's so corny & extremely childish
2. I can't stand hater females who automatically and instinctively get an attitude & start acting and feeling all tight & overly protective/guarded just because another female(s) come around or walk past them. What I really feel like saying is: "Calm down already! No one is out to get you! Stop always feeling ill-feelings toward other females unjustifiably. They probably aren't even thinking about you. Everything isn't all about you. Get off of yourself already!"
3. I can't stand hater females who feel the need to deliver mean, rude, & nasty non verbal communication to other females. What's that all about? Your insecurity is so evident and pronounced that individuals on the other side of the globe can see your feeling and detect your true emotion (low self esteem, & low self worth). No need to show off and try to pump your chest up. You're not better than anyone, and no one is better than you. Everyone has wonderful and gorgeous qualities about them, so don't walk around trying to show and prove that you're the %#&@$!. Because you know what, your %#&@$! stinks just like everyone else's... Get your confidence up so that you can turn away from your destructive, antisocial ways that push people away from you and make you unapproachable. Everyone wants to be loved, liked, appreciated, cared for, and sought after. I mean, seriously, don't you want people to like you & find you to be a kind, open, easy going, welcoming, and approachable person? Don't you want acceptance among others? If not, continue to be the way you are - no one probably liked you in the first place - all you attract are people who are fake, frauds, & phonies all of which you can't even trust.
4. I can't stand fake, phony females who act like they're your friends one minute and then front on you the next. If you're fake and fraudulent, stay the hell away from me. I don't need nor do I appreciate the unnecessary bull%#&@$! in my life. I'm way too nice and cool for people like that. Stay over there & do whatever it is that you do.
5. I can't stand snobby stuck up, snobby females who practice being mean, nasty %#&@$!es to other females. Y'all are simple and gauge your value and worthiness on materialistic things that have no real significance in life. Grow the hell up & chill out.
6. I can't stand sneaky %#&@$!, conniving females whose only motive in life is to take another female's man. What the hell is your deal? Are you that insecure & with such low self esteem that you can't attract a man of your own and bag him? I guess not, or else you wouldn't be tricking and smutting around the way you do. Here's a word of advice: Get your own man, hoe, & stop always trying to sleep with another female's man!
7. I can't stand loud, boisterous, ignorant females who have no home training by someone who ACTUALLY knows what class, couth, & manners is. You don't have to be loud, rude, & crass to get attention and be noticed. You must have not had a lot of attention when you were growing up Aaaawww poor baby!!! You know what, silence & a little shyness can be very alluring & mysterious to people. How about you try being poised, demure, & ladylike for once? People will be more attracted to you more apt to want to be around you, rather than being completely and utterly turned off.
