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After peeping my boy ATLiens` page, I just had to steal this testimonial for my page. If a lot of women out there would think like this instead of judging us by how we look or what we have/what we drive(or in my case, don't drive), maybe I wouldn`t be single. But that`s another story....
*disclaimer* Please don`t think I`m not a nice guy, romantic, and the like. It`s just how I feel when I see all these women asking for sexy/fine guys and all I want is some chat. If anything else is going to evolve, then so be it.
Good Black men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can`t see because we don`t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn`t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lex. He might not have a "body like Arnold with a Denzel face." But, as you mature, you realize it`s better to find someone who`s got your back than someone who turns your head. A good man doesn`t agree whole heartedly with everything you say. He doesn`t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn`t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada yada he is (he wont have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and you may clash, but he doesn`t have to degrade you to prove he`s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same. A good man is not going tomeet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with allof his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. Heneeds to feel that you don`tlive to "catch" him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!!" A good man doesn`t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine`s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don`t judge him by TV standards. No one is living that fairy tale for real. You`ll miss out onyour own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It`s just not true. Black Men, we salute you, and thank you for who you are and all you`ve done.
Update(11/16/08)....I ran into this on toohot2hndle's page and thought I would add her version to my page....for the most part it's the time, but with some additions.... Ladies and Gent this could be true but I can not tell who is a good black man from just passing him in the street, so I will have to take others word for it. Have you met a Good Black Man; but failed to recognize him. Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head. A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say.He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada, yada, yada he is (He won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same. A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, Aha! I knew you were a dog!! A good man isn't insecure about his women having great achievements. In fact he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or just want to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, good woman will bring her good man right along with her. A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy-tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It's Just not true. Black Men, I salute you, and thank you for who you are and all you've done. Pass this along to some of the "Black Men" you know and a few women that need to read it.
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