A man asked the woman he was pursuing the question, "What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eyes and asking, Do you really want to know? Reluctantly, he said, Yes.


She began to speak. As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position
to ask a man what he can do for me that I can`t do for myself.

I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"


The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, I am not referring to money.

I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.


She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection
mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don`t need a simple minded man.

I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually
because I don`t need to be unequally yoked. Believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don`t need a financial burden.

I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I am looking for someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive toa man who isn`t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive he just has to be worthy.

God made woman to be a help mate for man. I can`t help a man if he
can`t helphimself."

When she finished speaking, she looked at him. He sat there with a
puzzled look on his face. He said, You are asking a lot.



So brothers tell me something, am I really asking for too much?



Women are like Apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don`t want to reach for the good one`s because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. So instead, they just take the rotten apples from the ground that isn t as good, but easy... The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they`re amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along; the one who`s brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.


The ABC`s of Kin



A member of Your Family:

A-llow you to be yourself

B-rings out the best in you

C-ommands your respect by what they do, not only what they say

D-oesn`t draw conclusions about you based on hearsay

E-njoys your company

F-ills you with love, hope and happiness

G-aurds your privacy

H-elps you no matter what

I-s anybody you choose it to be

J-olts you back to reality when you need it

K-eeps their promises

L-aughs with you

M-isses you

N-otices changes you`ve made

O-pens you up to new things

P-rays for you, but never preaches at you

Q-uestions you when appropriate

R-eceives your unconditional love and affection

S-hakes you up when you need to be shaken

T-oasts to the strength of your relationship

U-rges you to do yourbest

V-isits you

W-ants the best for you

X-tends a tender, loving hand

Y-ieldsto their highest inpulses and embraces yours

Z-eroes in on your relationship



"Eric V. Copage, Soul Food, Inspirational stories for

African Americans"



I`ve learned that our background

and circumstances may have influenced who we are,

but we are

responsible for who

we become.




What`s up to my Black Planet family.



Captivating, intelligent,fun-loving sexy woman born and raised in MD but ole fashioned Southern at heart.


Some things to ponder......

The happiest of people don`t necessarily have the

best of everything; they just

make the most of everything

that comes along their way.



The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past,

you can`t go on well in life until

you let go of your past failures and heartaches.