This blog is mainly for the gentlemen that visit my page. No, it is not a male bashing segment, so you may read on securely. Let's call it...FEMALE 101...and yes, I am saying all this for YOUR benefit, not mine..cause that's the type of girl I am...I just love to help! Don't worry, your bill will be in the mail. It is very apparent that men have various approaches to how they will attract a womans attention. But face it; there are millions of men at our disposal on the internet. We woman can view you as just another purse or lipstick, as we are shopping through the profiles (and for those of us that are extremely superficial) the photos (of not you, but your car). Every woman knows when she shops not to take the first choice, no matter how nice the purchase is..No matter if it is EXACTLY what we've been wanting for such a long time. Why? A better selection is just around the corner in the next store and the price we will pay will be much less there... So guys...what makes you the ONE that when we finally lay our hands on you we will say..that's enough browsing, enough bargaining, and finally enough shopping? How will we know that our investment in you will fulfill our need that brought us to this store (otherwise known as Black Planet) in the first place? What does attract us? It is not your hard six pack abs. It is not the lines that we have heard time after time. It is not your car or your clothes. It is not that you TOO are a "music producer". And even if we can get 7 nights of FREE Dinners (some of us will actually pay for ourselves) It is your heart which comes across with every word (careless or considered) you say. Men, your words, paint a very powerful portrait of the individual you really are. Clothes can be changed, cars can be traded-in, and jobs can be won or lost. But your words are a consistent testament to your inner values and perspectives of being a man and the way you perceive the world around you. A woman can instantly tell if your heart is a shallow, superficial one that says " I love you" with a meaningless air, or a heart that is defined by true character and integrity. Now a woman is great at the art of mystery and will not offer up the fact that she is on to you until, unfortunately it benefits her. Sorry, guys it is the truth. Whether you realize it or not, your pages instantly set a dynamic with the women who run across them. What you post initiates a response from us, whether positive or negative. If you say that most women these days want to use you for your money, a free meal and to get their nails and hair done, well consider this...Maybe you have signaled that this behavior is viewed as acceptable by what she saw on your page and what you have discussed in your email and phone calls. If you don't want her to use you for your money, why is there such an emphasis on your Lincoln Navigators, high paying jobs, expensive jewelry and the multiple of "baby mamas" that you support. I will say..to my Sistas...that grace my page from time to time. Let's get it together. We need to stop playing the victim; that men just are using us and they are dogs. No they are just being themselves. Do you blame a dog for barking or bird for chirpping. Of course not. We need to stop degrading ourselves, first with the pictures we put online. Being sexy does not have to be tasteless. In fact, a man's imagination is probably sexier than anything we can wear. Woman, accept that you need and want love.(I will never subscribe to the philosophy that I don't need a man) I do and I always will and I'm not embarrassed to admit it.He will complete me. Don't be fooled by I Love You's. You will know when it is real by the follow-thru of a man's actions. Society has confused us by making us think that all sex=love. No, many times it is just sex! So...let us put our clothes back on, put a smile back in our hearts and definitely on our faces (rid ourselves of that notorious "black woman's attitude") I have it too! Let's hold our heads up high. If a man doesn't want us because we won't post our butts online, let him keep moving.. As Keisha sings.."If he doesn't love you the way he should than let him go." Look in the mirror, see your beauty..it is there! So men, consider this...your approach may possibly need to be revamped. I know...I know..You are supposed to be tough and hard. But you need love too and you want love too...There... I've admitted it FOR you so you can remain so!.. Now...I invite you to communicate with me...c_stphard@yahoo.com...Now if you turn weird...YOU KNOW I WILL HAVE TO BLOCK YOU!
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