ILLUSIONS AND DELUSIONS
Let's spend a moment to really consider what this means. Illusion, a self created imaginative state. Delusion, an self-inflicted and deceptive perspective on your circumstances or environment. We all have or are experiencing these. If you think you haven't or are not experiencing them, you are more deeply entrenched in this state of being, causing you total non self-awareness.
I want to address relationships, and I can speak from personal experience. I would never share anything that I do not have experience with. Who would want to listen to that!
Relationships: We enter into relationships either with the intent of just "playing", "getting what we want out of someone", or even being in love...but the illusion is we are in "love with being in love". Self questioning of motivation is the key here. Imagination and optimism is great, but illusion and delusions are quite harmful for many involved, yourself, your companion, your family, friends, and children.
Why? Because they are simply LIES....Lies, never acheive the desired result, no matter if you believe they are white lies to spare the others feelings. While you are living the illusion or delusion, they may not be, and your actions are clearly seen by all, causing chaos, despair, pain, and irreparable discord of your relationships. You lose respect as other's witness the selfish actions done within this state. You may have buddies who cheer you on because you are seeing six different people, but ask them to introduce you to their sister or brother, and you will be met with instant hesitation, because while you think they are applauding this behavior, they are not, and they are losing respect for you. Your children, also, will model after you, lacking respect for the institution of marriage, honesty and integrity. When you discipline them for their behavior, because now they are showing signs of disrepecting you, their authority, understand this....They are your mirror. Look at it....look at yourself...do you like what you see.
If you are truly interested in just a booty call, say so. Make your intentions clear. There are many who enjoy this same philosophy of life, so you won't lose out on opportunities. If you are unsure of whether you like a person enough to make a commitment, speak up...They may be unsure too and find relief in your honesty. At worse case scenario, they will allow you the time to find out your true compatibilities.
If you are married, I have a strong word of caution.
Women are highly INSTICTIVE....! You have no idea, how they will figure you out, and when they do, you best have better, left the house, drawn up the separation papers, and licked your wounds. Like the saying goes: "Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned." While I am very traditional in my own personal relationship theories, I think it is better to suggest an "open realtionship" rather than cheat. Why? Well..chances are while you feel like you are unhappy, and unfufilled, and tempted, she probably is too. Therefore you can share in the security of home life, splitting bills, etc. and get your sexual and intimate needs met, if there is agreement on this matter.
ANOTHER NOTE OF CAUTION: Never steal another's love. Since I am speaking truthfully, I will admit, I did this...At the time, I was living my illusionary and delusionary life, thinking that this man, left his curent relationship because I was unique, special...That this would have never happen before. He assured me, "he has never cheated before", adding to my delusion, that we were just wo soulmates who fell in love at an inconvient time and unfortunately because our love was "fated" another person served as collateral damage. HA! On me. No, not really, now I have seen the light and I owe her the deepest apology that one can muster. It was not right, but blinded by my delusions, I deceived myself and justified our actions. I do not need to state the outcome of this relationship, I'm sure you can already guess it.
Karma...Karma....it doesn't always come from the one you hurt, it comes from the universe, to be inflicted anytime, anywhere and through anyone it sees fit...So while you think you "have gotten away" with your dark deeds, you haven't. Should you look over your shoulder? No...why? Because you just know its coming, so you might as well enjoy the lack of pain while it exists, because Karma is like death, inevitable.
We use people...We play games with their emotions. One day, we fall in love, Karma spins its wheels, and we find that the one person we finally felt the desire to truly love and settle down with, has deceived us, and that we are their pawn. Their feelings do not match our own and we have been deceived the whole time by this person. This is one version of the Karma in which I speak about....Do you really want to feel this pain. No...you don't....So make a decision NOW to understand that your actions will bring reactions by some unseen higher universal power and the pain you inflicted, now has you as a target.
Life is about inspiring for personal greatness, and since we are all over the age of 18 on this site, we are adults. As adults, we share the burden to learn from our mistakes, to progress, transform, seek the truth of living. Unless of course, you are a complete idiot...there are many...If you are one, chances are you haven't even read this far, so you won't be offended by me calling you out.
I am not always proud of my actions, but one thing I can say, is that PAIN is the strongest motivator of change....Despair, gets you in touch with what you truly seek and desire. Whenever we say, "I don't want that...." you have begun the transformation into self-discovery of "what you do really want"...Pain brings you closer to ultimate happiness.
So my friends, take my hand, as we journey together, this life of ups and downs. Let's make Black Planet a more progressive and positive place, sharing ideas, weakness and triumphs. Let this platform serve as more than a free "booty call" site.
We are all truly the same, and we all have the same true desires. Let the veil of your illusions and delusions fall, face YOUR facts, take responsibility, and your desire will come...Like I said, I wouldn't share anything I haven't experience.
