"Don`t cry over anyone who won`t cry over you."
Good Black men are indeed all around us.
We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work.
Most we can't see because we don't know what a good man
really looks like.
He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our
heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not
have a "body like Arnold with a Denzel face." But, as you mature,
you'll realize it's better to find someone who's got your back
than someone who can turn your head.
A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you
say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the
opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere,
yada yada he is (he won't have to because it shows).
He has his own opinions and you may clash, but he doesn't have
to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to
being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.
A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist.
He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his
wonderful, strong attributes.
He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't
live to "catch" him doing something wrong so you can declare,
"Aha! I knew you were a dog!!"
A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or
Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are
comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one
is living that fairy tale life for real. You'll miss out on your own
fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good.
It's just not true.
(quoted by RYCEAKA2)
