How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Aries: Here, we are mixing Fire (Aries) and Earth (Virgo - you!). It's not an easy combination, for certain, but it has its merits. One of the most noticeable differences between you and your partner is his/her need for stimulation and excitement contrasted with your desire for safety and security. You can be quite active together, and pour some energy into activities, but your partner's impulsive and competitive nature may leave you feeling insecure. Both of you are simple in your needs, but those needs are markedly different. Your partner isn't the most flowery of lovers, and neither are you, but he/she can be downright insensitive at times. You are a sensitive soul, although not quite as delicate as one might think. You will put up with so much, just to make a relationship work, but you do want some appreciation for all your efforts. Both of you value honesty, and you'll generally get it from each other. Your partner will likely appreciate your willingness to please, in the moments when he/she notices this trait. Money matters will most certainly bring some conflict, as you are more cautious and a natural worrier and your partner can be the classic impulse buyer. Shared interests are important to you, and this may also be a problem, as you and your partner are really quite dissimilar!
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Taurus: You and your partner are both Venusian Earth signs, which means you definitely share some common ground. You want to build a workable partnership, and so does your partner! You look for security and safety in love...ditto for your lover. One of the main differences in your temperaments is your willingness to make adjustments. Your partner is a more stubborn soul, possessing staying power, for sure, but not the flexibility that you so gracefully offer any partnership. This issue may be the most difficult of your problems together. Both of you are sensual lovers, appreciating the simple pleasures of sex. Sexually, your partner is more capable of calming your nervous nature than most lovers, helping to make you feel whole and scads more comfortable in your own skin. You appreciate the aura of safety that quite naturally surrounds your partner. He/she senses your commitment and integrity in partnership, which is very pleasing indeed! Shared interests and projects are important to you in terms of satisfaction derived from partnership, and this may indeed happen with your Venus in Taurus partner, although you might be the one doing more of the hard work.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Gemini: Because you tend to value intelligence and communication, there can be quite a bit of mental attraction between you and your Venus in Gemini partner. Both of you are somewhat restless and curious people. Although sharing ideas is important to you, your partner may be less discriminating than you in terms of who he/she communicates with. You come alive in an established relationship. Your partner, on the other hand, requires a little more freedom and may often turn to other people in addition to you for mental stimulation. This is healthy for your partner, but it may be somewhat intimidating for you, as you prefer to be the most indispensable person in any partner's life. You also tend to be more sensitive in matters of the heart than your happy-go-lucky lover. Your partner thrives on variety, and tires easily of a love relationship that becomes too predictable. You are restless as well, but you are at your best in an established, rather predictable, and safe relationship. Both of you are flexible people, although your partner may take this to an extreme that makes you feel uncomfortable. You may begin to question the sincerity and constancy of your partner over time.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Cancer: This pairing is one of the better combinations in practice! Care and nurture will be a strong theme in this relationship. This is most likely to be a low-key relationship?perhaps not as exciting as some, but fertile in a quiet way. The physical and sensual aspects of love are important and emphasized in your relationship with this loyal and nurturing partner. Your partner's mood swings in love may spark an occasional problem, and he or she might find your approach to love a tad dry at times. Both of you, however, crave security and dependability in partnership, and you are both very capable of delivering these things to each other. You and your Venus in Cancer lover come alive in a safe environment?exactly the kind of atmosphere you enjoy creating. You value the sincerity of your partner's approach to love, and he or she senses your willingness to put effort into making your relationship work. You may find your partner lacking in the communication department, however, simply because he or she places higher value on non-verbal expressions of love. You need to understand that your partner is very sensitive to criticism, and what you might consider constructive criticism might result in some feelings of rejection. With understanding and tolerance, however, your partner can help you see the forest for the trees, and you, with your gentle ways, can stimulate your partner to open up a little more than comes naturally to him or her. More than likely, there is a lot of respect between the two of you, and a feeling of security that is enviable.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Leo: You are the worrywart in love, focusing on what will come of your relationship in the future. Your Venus in Leo lover, however, lives for the moment, fully enjoying the delightful passion and desire that is often characteristic of the first stage of romance. You worry about the practical side of the partnership. Your partner expresses his/her love for you in a lavish, showy manner. He/she is consumed with the romance of your relationship, and might expect you to feel the same way. You easily feel threatened by your partner's apparent "experience", but do remember that your lover is given to brag a little, and he/she is trying to win your favor?perhaps the wrong way! In his/her desire to be viewed as irresistible, your partner may inadvertently make you feel insecure. You express your love by laying solid groundwork for your partnership. This doesn't sound exceptionally romantic to your starry-eyed lover, but the practical side to your relationship is important, and somebody has to do it (Venus in Leo would prefer not!). Try not to feel intimidated by your partner, and enjoy his/her generous love nature. Your partner may be so lavish with praise that it seems insincere. It's not! Don't overanalyze it. Virgo and Leo are side-by-side signs?they don't share the same element nor do they come from the same modality. The result is a lack of understanding between the signs. Do not despair, however! With a healthy dose of tolerance, this relationship can be handled. A conscious relationship is what Astrology can help with. Being aware of the different personality traits and needs of each partner is the first step to greater understanding.
How You Relate to a Partner who also has Venus in Virgo: Both of you value the same things in love, which is a good starting point. Shared interests are important to you, but in this case, when two Venusian Virgos are together, it would make a little more sense (a word you both love!) to have different projects and interests. Why? Because you both tend to want to run the show when it comes to pet projects. In the love relationship in general, however, you are flexible and attentive. It may be difficult to choose a leader! There doesn't always have to be a leader in a relationship, of course, but the relationship might become a little bogged down in details. Ideally, you have some strong Water or Fire signs elsewhere in your chart, helping to infuse some energy and heart into an otherwise somewhat dry combination. You need to establish some far-reaching goals for the partnership, something that doesn't come too naturally for either of you, simply because you are too busy taking care of the business at hand. You can be somewhat nervous in love, and your partner is inclined in this direction as well. Be careful not to pick each other apart, and enjoy the fantastic conversations you will inevitably share.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Libra: You and your lover share a love of balance and harmony, which can be a major point of attraction between you. One of the problems that arise between Venusian Air (Libra) and Earth (Virgo) temperaments, however, is a fundamental difference in styles of loving that can lead to misunderstandings. You are certainly a thinker, but your partner is more given to sharing flights of fancy while your ideas are more conservative and practical. Your partner might find you too skeptical in matters of the heart; at the same time, you might consider your partner to be too idealistic. Your Venus in Libra lover has a somewhat detached manner, and you might interpret the "airs" that he/she puts on (read: charm!) as a lack of sincerity. Loyalty is of utmost importance to you, and your lover is certainly capable of giving a lot to the partnership. In fact, he/she lives for partnership! But your partner's detached manner might make you feel somewhat insecure and threatened. Both of you, however, are very willing to make adjustments in order for your relationship to work. You can enjoy very stimulating conversations, especially if you appreciate each other's different styles of expression. Both of you are very willing to bend and adapt in order to keep the relationship alive, and this can make all the difference when two dissimilar personalities pair up.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Scorpio: Trust doesn't come extremely easy to either you or your partner, but put you together, and the atmosphere feels quite safe. Your partner is passionate and intense?perhaps even provocative. If he/she senses passion and commitment is missing or waning, your lover may go to any means (often subtle) to keep the relationship from becoming boring. This is because your partner can be somewhat addicted to emotional excitement. You are usually receptive to your partner's wishes and needs, and you tend to bend your ways accordingly. You work hard at making your relationship work?something that your partner senses and appreciates. Neither of you is frivolous about committed relationships, and if you and your partner are committed to each other, this pairing can be hard to break. This pairing combines Venusian Earth (you) and Water (your partner). When you understand each other's different styles of loving, the combination can be very fertile. Problems generally arise between the differences in focus. Both of you are committed to making your relationship last, but you value practical expressions of commitment, while your partner values emotional ones. Subtle control issues may be the source of problems over time. If your partner senses any emotional distance on your part, he/she may use various means to regain some sense of control. Generally, you only appear "distant" because you are busy tending to the cogs in the machine of your relationship. You may find your partner's silences frustrating, as you are always willing to talk about your relationship and don't always understand why your partner resorts to giving you the silent treatment! Your partner is skilled at knowing how to push your buttons, however, and this may be one of the more potent ways he/she has discovered to get your attention! As long as game-playing is kept to a minimum, this relationship has many strengths and much potential.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Sagittarius: This combination is one of the more difficult ones. There can be considerable attraction at the beginning, but some major disconnects in terms of values and relationship styles are likely over time?nothing insurmountable, of course! The common ground you share is a desire to learn through your relationship and a willingness to talk things over. Your partner values your keen insight and you can have some wonderful conversations. Your Venus in Sagittarius lover, especially, gets off on the sharing of ideas, and enjoys philosophizing. You are certainly the more practical partner in this pairing, and your partner may find you a bit of a stick in the mud at times. You may complain of his/her blind faith in the relationship, preferring that your partner live in the here and now. You value effort put into the relationship, and you can't help but see all of the "little things" that make up its whole. Your partner, on the other hand, prefers to think of your partnership in grander, larger terms. This can be very annoying for you! You will likely disagree on how to spend money as well. Your partner is not a save-for-a-rainy-day type of person by any stretch of the imagination (unless Saturn is aspecting his/her Venus)! Your lover needs space and at least the illusion of freedom. He/she is very threatened by any attempts to confine him/her. Needless to say, your partner will be much happier if there is a strong feeling of growth in your relationship. Making plans and defining goals may help, but attempting to control or cage your partner in will have unfavorable results.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Capricorn: Both of you have Venus placed in earth signs, and the similarities between your needs in romance and partnership will be obvious. Security in partnership is a shared value, and each of you takes responsibility for their share of the relationship. Although pairing two earth signs sounds a little...well, dry...there is sure to be plenty of mutual respect and appreciation circulating between you! Your partner cherishes some moments of solitude, and that is something that you will need to understand and respect. There is no reason to feel threatened with this behavior. Both of you are somewhat reticent at the beginning of a relationship, perhaps more so on your partner's side, perhaps because both of you are responsible people who can be a little shy and cautious in matters of the heart. It may be slow-moving at the beginning as a result. However, this is a commitment-friendly combination as you will find much to trust in one another. Both of you have a work ethic and are relatively conservative with money. You will work hard at making things work, and so will your partner. Each of you is concerned about putting down roots. Criticism tends to come naturally to both of you, so you will have to try to channel it into constructive areas instead of letting loose on each other! All in all, however, this pairing is an easygoing and stable one.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Aquarius: Your partner gets off on visions, possibilities, and opportunities. You, on the other hand, are most concerned with making a relationship work. Mentally, you and your partner might have much to share. Both of you enjoy having meaningful conversations with the people you love. What you prefer to talk about may not be compatible, however! You believe your needs are simple, and in many ways they are. You respond best to practical displays of affection, and because your Venus is in an Earth sign, you value your partner's physical presence. A partner who is always running off to see friends, for example, could make you feel somewhat insecure and decidedly unloved. Your partner values exactly that freedom, so this is an area in your relationship that you both will need to work on. Your partner's appreciation of you is paramount. Otherwise, you are prone to feeling like you have done something wrong. Your partner shows his or her love in different ways, and the independence your lover needs, if misunderstood, can lead you to worry far too much. Note that if you loosen up and be yourself, your lover will appreciate you all the more. Misunderstanding of each other's unique and different love natures is what is most likely to divide you. This relationship can be a little more challenging than some, but compassion and understanding can most certainly make it work.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Pisces: This is a case of "opposites attract", except that when signs are literally opposite in Astrology, they share a common thread that can bind them together. This is a magnetic combination. You sense in each other a common sensitivity, but you express your love in different ways altogether. The truth is that you have much to learn from each other. Relationships become challenging when the very qualities that attract you to one another in the first place become a source of friction later. Always remind yourself that your partner is just that--your partner, not an enemy. You will appreciate your lover's gentleness and sympathy, although you can find him or her somewhat evasive at times. This is because while you are happy to define love, your partner prefers to leave some things unspoken. Faith in love is something your Venus in Pisces partner can teach you, if you are open to it. You can help ground your partner, reminding him or her that order in a partnership is helpful for establishing a sense of purpose, when done in moderation. Moderation, in fact, is the answer to establishing balance in your relationship, and with love and compassion, you will find it easier than most couples to work toward that goal.
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When Venus or Mars is in Aries, sex is best when it's spontaneous and unrestricted. These people melt when their partner gives themselves to them innocently and purely. Some of them look for trouble in love, and are addicted to the conquest. Their heads are erogenous zones?they love it when you mess up their hair and grab their face when they are making love. They can be rather selfish in bed, and quick. They can get impatient with too much foreplay, preferring to get right to the point. Sometimes aggressive, and generally fast, these lovers are sincere and enthusiastic in their sexual expression, but not always constant. Their desires are powerful indeed. While other signs may be most aroused by the romance of the moment, both male and females with this position are especially aroused by their partner's sexual organs, plain and simple. These people fall in and out of "crush" easily?they only feel alive when they have someone to desire.
When Venus or Mars is in Taurus, the sexual nature involves all of the senses. Touch and smell are supremely important to these lovers. These are the most physical of sexual partners. No frills sex is quite fine, as long as the mood is right and there is plenty of physical contact. These lovers don't have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do nonetheless, simply because they are truly right there with you. Abstaining from sex is especially difficult for Taurus, so finding a regular sex partner is particularly important. Their sexual stamina during love-making is long-lasting and steady. Although generally patient, their style is natural and physical, and intellectualizing the sex act would only serve to baffle Taurus.
When Venus or Mars is in Gemini, use words in bed with them. Talk turns them on, and they love to kiss! Oral pleasures are extra special for these lovers. They love role-playing, as long as it is varied. They are generally fun in bed, if you can forgive their sudden bursts of speech during the act. To you, an intellectual conversation may interrupt lovemaking, but to them, it's just extended foreplay. Sometimes given to trying too much in one session, these lovers are enthusiastic and curious about all kinds of sexual expression. Still, many people with this position are not wanton lovers. The Gemini tendency to over-think brings up all of the "buts" and "what ifs" surrounding sex. They are less driven by their desires than they are by their intellect.
When Venus or Mars is in Cancer, you'll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. When they're not pouting, they are romantic and gooey with you. They are turned on by slave scenarios, and they may like it when you're a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know you love them. Some of them are turned on by the idea of making a baby, and others just love the idea of being all yours in bed. They are known as the sign most attracted to breasts, and they generally like their men rather masculine and their women feminine, at least in fantasy. They don't always let you know what turns them on, and expect you to intuit their sexual needs. Their style in bed is protective and soothing.
When Venus or Mars is in Leo, the fantasies often revolve around devotion and attention. These people are most turned on when their partner thinks they are gods or goddesses. Although they will take care of their partners in bed, their natural inclination is to get off themselves. Their pride in their lovemaking compels them to try to be the best in bed. While some want a mate they can show off, many prefer not to have two stars in the same household. They can be quite possessive and jealous, although they'll often try to hide this fact. In fact, they may put their partners to the test every now and again, and the more insecure ones will demand the world from their partners, if only to have them prove their love. They are prone to fibbing when it comes to love and sex, as they are out to impress their mates. They are attracted to inequality in sexual scenarios. However, they won't let you always play the knave?they are attracted to seeing you in the most regal of scenarios too. It is hard for these people to separate love and sex. Even their most erotic sexual fantasies are infused with love and affection. They can sometimes come on too strong, and get impatient when their needs are not met soon enough, but you may appreciate their direct sexual expression, and their openness in bed.
When Venus or Mars is in Virgo, there is generally a healthy attitude towards sex. Sex to them is a bodily function, necessary for health and general well-being. Everyday stresses and tensions are released in sex, whether it's with others or with themselves. They are turned on by people who have largely gone unnoticed. Simple and sweet is the way they like their bed partners. They also get turned on by the idea that they are your slave. They love doing little things for you, and get worked up when they know you appreciate all the things they do. They can be a little insecure about their own bodies, and they make up for it by paying close attention to their methods of turning you on. They are very respectful of your likes and dislikes, and focus on the things that have had the most success. Virgo is the sign of the virgin, and this aspect gives others the idea that they are very selective. Don't be entirely fooled by this, however. They are not as picky as they appear. In fact, they love imperfections and have the best time with a partner who needs care. They'll make a project out of you, and you will likely never feel quite so attended to with anyone else. Their fantasies often feature the downtrodden and inexperienced. They are insatiably curious about sex, although many don't take their curiosity much beyond fantasy. Voyeurism is especially appealing to these lovers. We are giving Virgo a little more attention than other signs simply because we feel this sign has been misunderstood on the topic of sex. They are generally not as picky and particular as their reputation says?and they are not as "virginal" either. In fact, they want to please and to be savvy in the lovemaking arena. They'll generally "do" more than many other signs, and they're not afraid of getting dirty either, within the confines of a healthy relationship.
When Venus or Mars is in Libra, extra care is taken to please the partner. These people can be provocative in a quiet way. Their need for balance and perfection in their relationships may manifest itself at all the wrong moments. In bed, these lovers want things to be balanced. They love working on getting things right, and are especially turned on by role-playing sex games. They have a strong need for change and growth in their sexual expression. They are givers in bed, but they fully expect you to give equally in return. Although they can be pushed around for a time, their lovers must be aware that the best way to keep Libra lovers happy is to keep everything fair. These lovers can be a little picky when it comes to mood and atmosphere while making love (Virgo is all too often assigned this trait, but our experience suggests that Libra is the pickiest of lovers). Make them happy, however, and you have a lover who is going to think about you and your needs. These lovers can charm the birds out of the trees when they want to.
When Venus or Mars is in Scorpio, the sexual nature can be quite complex. These lovers generally share a common intensity and depth in their sexual desires, but they vary in expression depending on their level of development. Some enjoy power and are attracted to breaking taboos. These lovers are willing to do almost anything, and they enjoy full-body pleasures. Others express their need for control by being unavailable and abstaining for long periods of time, giving in only when they feel their partner is deserving. Whatever their nature, they have a way that promises commitment and intensity in bed. They are provocative but private. Most will never kiss and tell. Sex is intimate and personal for Scorpio, but their fantasies are full-ranging.
When Venus or Mars is in Sagittarius, sex is treated rather like a sport. These lovers are direct and forthcoming with their desires and needs. They have an almost innocent frankness about them, and they love to have fun in bed. Laughing and roughhousing are huge turn-ons. They are actually a bit selfish in sex, and their need to "get off" will almost always be expressed. Games are acceptable for Sagittarius lovers, just as long as they are not too time-consuming or intricate. They have little patience with people playing hard to get or beating around the bush. The same goes for too much seriousness or romancing. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it, and then talk about it after the fact, if need be.
When Venus or Mars is in Capricorn, sex that is straightforward and simple is generally best. The reputation for Capricorn lovers is an attraction to experienced, and sometimes older, partners. They often prefer strong, powerful lovers who display some sort of authority or know-how. These lovers prefer a certain measure of discretion. Capricorn is an earth sign, and this earthiness shows up in love-making style?it's generally no-frills that is most appealing to these lovers. They can be quite happy with consistency, as variety is less important to them than is security in sexual expression. However, their sexuality is deep and powerful. They are often quite private about what goes on in the bedroom. Although some will want others to know that they are on top of things in their sex life, they generally won't get into messy details.
When Venus or Mars is in Aquarius, there is a "take it or leave it" style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience. They don't have a reputation for warmth in sex, although they may think the other way around because, at least in theory, they are open-minded. They give off an air of being savvy and cool in bed. Sex from a distance (when you are not actually there physically), or in theory, is often where they shine. That is why cyber or phone sex, or affairs that don't break up marriages, can be especially attractive to these folks. They are most turned on when you are not, as detachment can be a real turn-on for them. And, again, the idea of sex is generally more exciting to these lovers than the actual act. Their fantasies often involve getting caught having sex, and they are attracted to people who are a little offbeat or odd.
When Venus or Mars is in Pisces, a subtle approach to flirting and sex is taken on. These lovers are generally open to all of the avenues of sexual expression, especially the nooks and crannies. They are forgiving and bending, and they are generally willing to please. At times romantic and gooey, these lovers are actually a bit like chameleons. It's hard to pin them down to any one style. They may talk a lot one evening, and be withdrawn the next. In general, they prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice, compassion, and even religion can be mixed into their sexual expression. They're very sensitive, but will almost always forgive you. They'll even let you go if you so desire, and love you forever anyways. Although they can be shy and yielding, their lovers can sometimes find them maddeningly detached and spaced. Their fantasies are intricate and detailed, and they are attracted to the downtrodden or needy.
If a man's Venus is in Virgo, an appealing woman to him is usually an understated, rather simple appearance without too much glamour or ostentatiousness. Healthy, natural, and clean are most appealing physical qualities, and a certain amount of intelligence as well as a modest, sensible approach to life.
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