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Queensbridge Projects Queensbridge Houses is the largest public housing development in the United States. Also known as the QB, Queensbridge which is located in Long Island City, New York in Queens opened in 1940. The 6 Block, 96 building, 3,142 unit complex is the largest housing project and is owned by the New York City Housing Authority. Very close to Ravenswood Houses. Queensbridge is one of the most corrupted projects in NYC. In 1986, Queensbridge had the most murders within NYC Projects. 40 side and 41st side refer to the 40th street side of the buildings 41st street side of the buildings. Home of Nas, Cormega, MC Shan, Marley Marl, Mobb Deep, Capone, Big Noyd, Tragedy Khadafi, The Bravehearts and NBA star Ron Artest. Other MC's from QB are Nature, Twin Gambino, Ty Nitty, Godfather pt 3, Lakey Da Kid, Nashawn, Bars N Hooks, Littles, Crime Fam, Blitz, etc... On a ratio, in Queensbridge, there are about 50 incidences in a year where someone was shot, stabbed, dead, locked-up, or kicked out of the hood! This is where I'm from, but not who I am... Or am I?

8 Hateful Things Black Women Do To Each Other (Don't Sleep on this ) It's become the silent emotional killer among women. Women who are downright mean, malicious and disrespectful with each other. This trend is creating havoc in our relationships with each other, for it strikes the core of sisterhood. Real sisterhood can only exist when respect and trust stand unshakeable. In this particular, most men are quite opposite. For a man, a brother is a brother. However, what is most disturbing about women malicious ways is that they are passing on a legacy of a broken sisterhood to their daughters. Girls that are mean and catty are usually this way because their understanding is that this is a normal part of femaleness. They grow up to become mean and catty women who perpetuate a diseased sisterhood. To break this cycle each sister need to make a conscious effort to validate all women. Be it friends or not. Otherwise, women will continue to find themselves moving within circles of female hostility, suspicion, and pain. Here is a list of the most detestable practices women need to discontinue in order to heal their sisterhood:

1. Talking about each other - You are really not her friend if what you have to say about her is so bad you can't say it in front of her. If you are a real friend you should be able to tell her your concerns for her life to her face. If you have the need to tell others, but you haven't found the time to tell her - red lights should be flashing. Believe it or not, gossiping is not an intrinsic part of being female. Women who gossip do it not because it's a woman-thing, but because they want to elevate themselves and put other women in a place of inferiority. Gossiping is just another symptom of deeper insecurities.

2. Fighting for men - One of the most undignified things that any woman can do is to fight, argue, or curse another woman over a man. It's a disgusting trend that used to be a school girl thing, but today adult women are doing it too. If both of you are in conflict - because his choice is not clear - then that means that he's really not into any of you. He's probably playing both of you. That man really does not deserve love or attention from either one of you. Let him go.

3. Joining female gangs - Women who make you feel unwelcome and unwanted within their circle of friends are not to be trusted. Women cliques have become common in the workplace, at church, in the neighborhood. Cliques are the dwelling place of insecure women. Women who join cliques are seeking refuge from their own lack of confidence by cocooning themselves within this circle of supposed exclusivity. Again, the need to belong to, or be part of a clique is also a sign of deeper insecurities. Beware, cliques are usually encouraged and thrive on a type of gang mentality.

4. Undermining each other - Beware of any woman who can never celebrate your accomplishments with you. It could be a new boyfriend, a promotion, an award, a new job, a new acquisition, weight loss. If she has nothing positive to say to you about it, does not show emotional support, or chooses to remain silent she is not a true friend. Real friends know how to recognize and genuinely rejoice all successes with pride.

5. Competing against each other - You need to get this straight. There will always be another woman with nicer hair, a more caring husband or boyfriend, better behaved children, a better paying job, a bigger house, a more fashionable wardrobe - there will always be some woman with more of what you don't have. Consequently, the only person that you need to compete against is yourself. Strive to be the best that you can be - for you. Competing against other women to prove yourself superior is a financial and emotional drainer. Because of this mindless competition women become mean, envious and hypocritical. It is pointless.

6. Disrespecting boundaries - To survive peacefully every relationship and every friendship must have clear boundaries. Good relationships operate within margins of respect. Within this level of respect, privacy and intimacy are keywords. Yes, you are my friend, but that doesn't give me the right to walk into your bedroom or your kitchen, unbeknownst to you, and help myself to your stuff. I don't do this not because you won't allow me to, but because I respect your privacy and your things. Consequently, we both need to know and respect each other's levels of privacy and intimacy.

7. Crossing boundaries - This is similar to the above, the only difference is that my respect of your boundaries should never depend on my friendship with you. Women need to respect women for the simple fact that they are women. If she is a woman she is a sister. Period. Therefore, from that understanding I will have the utmost respect for her children, her man, her opinions, her choices, and for her as a person. It amazes me how women are quick to disrespect another sister's boundaries, but feel offended if another woman does to them the same exact thing. Honestly, that type of inconsistent behavior can only be credited to some form of mental illness.

8. Exploiting friendships - This is a major one. Why are you friends? Do you only remember her being around whenever she could get something from you? It doesn't even have to be material. It could just be your time or your positive energy. Does she happen to be always on the receiving side, with you dishing out ton loads of yourself or your stuff? Or is she your friend because of what you represent? It could be that your husband's position or yours, your possessions, your talent, whatever, represents some form of achievement. Is she a friend because that link to you places her on a higher platform? In a real friendship appreciation, support, and loyalty must be reciprocal.

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Here's my Interview with Black Planet 05/01/2012

BP: What do you like most about intimate relationships?

FW125: What I like most about being in a relationship is
the companionship and having a partner-someone you can rely on and trust one hundred percent-someone who has your back completely.

BP: What do you like least about intimate relationship?

FW125: The thing I like least about relationships is all the drama..and there's all sorts of drama involved when you're dealing with someone on an emotional level. It can be very difficult because, ultimately, it's hard to control emotions.

BP: What do you think creates the biggest problem between men and women in relationships?

FW125: A lack of communication or, rather, having different styles of communicating and not understanding those differences in a way that actually leads to effective and clear communication.

BP: What major difference between men and women do you like least and why?

FW125: Ahh, that's simple. Anatomy. I like the differences in our anatomy. There is nothing better than a woman's body, especially when it's in proportion and topped off with a nice backside.

BP: What major difference between men and women do you like least and why?

FW125: The whole emotional thing...not that I want women to be hard, but, sometimes, women can be so overly emotional.

BP: Who do you think is the weaker sex and why?

FW125: Weaker sex? I think both men and women are equally weak and strong in different areas. I will say that it's extremely powerful that a woman's body actually carries a baby for nine months...if men had to be pregnant, the human race might end.

BP: What are the biggest mistakes men make in relationships?

FW125: I think the biggest mistakes most people-men and women-make in relationships is that they're not realistic about what it means to be in a relationship. The bottom line is that relationships take work...real work...and if you're not interested in working on your relationship, then, sooner or later, there will be real problems.

BP: What stereotypes do you think are the most damaging to men in the area of relationships?

FW125: All of them...there are so many false understanding of what it means to be a man...think of all the things men don't allow themselves to do because it's not seen as being manly things like being sensitive.

BP: What stereotypes do you think are the most damaging to women in the area of relationships?

FW125: Again, I think all of them are damaging. I always wonder, what if there were no stereotypes...what would we allow ourselves to do if we didn't have these ideas already in our head about what we're supposed to do or who we're supposed to be? It's hard because there are so many stereotypes out there and half the time, we don't even know we're influenced by them.

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