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UPDATE 12/5/09: I am not looking for a date or a hook-up. Trying to become my FRIEND first would be ideal!

UPDATE 9/5/09: My goodness! It has been a while. I have been in the Magic City one year and four months. I have yet to figure out the logic of some people in Alabama...Birmingham in particular. I like to hang out at my favorite release and relaxation spot on Thursdays...STEEL. You can always find me there around 5:30! That's where I have the most "Well, I'll say..." moments. Church is great! My son is super! Work is good. I was hemmed up for a minute with a really nice guy...but he had some major drama with the ex-wife and the kids. That means I am on the dating scence, but...I am finally finding my identity post-chaos. It feels good to be me! UPDATE 11/28/08: It's month 8! Where should I begin? The job is great. I have connected with some really great people. I am finally learning my way around the city. Still no luck with the male species. I think I must have a repellant attached to my forehead! Oh well...no worries. I am growing and getting better by the day. Maybe Birmingham wasn't a bust afterall.

UPDATE: Whew! What a ride! I am approaching month 5. Alabama is being a bit kinder. I have closed the last chapter of my life and now I am ready to write the next. School is great...work is great...church is great...my son is great! I am SO looking forward to what's in store in the future. I'm still chilling...not looking for anything. I am still looking for truth and conversation. The only difference is that now, I am enjoying myself so much right now, it may be hard for you to get in! Ciao!

UPDATE: I have been in Birmingham, AL for almost 4 months. I must say that the people here are a different breed! I am, however, growing and learning a lot about myself and my surroundings. I am still waiting to meet some cool, laid back individuals that share my dreams and aspirations...likes and dislikes. Thus far, I have come across a few extraordinary individuals, but their lights faded fast. I am still bombarded with one word e-mails and friend requests from people who have never even given me a simple "hello"...but it's cool...I'm patient. I am not here looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now. All I really need is truth and conversation...I'm already handling the rest... If you send me a note that says "What's up sexy?", "What's good shawty?", or some other atrocity, this is indicative that you never read my page. Please be advised that I put my name on my page because I would much rather be called that than another other term of endearment by a total stranger. People don't go to the trouble of sharing a piece of their soul just to be messaged because they have a nice pic. If you don't have time to peer into who I am, you don't have time to chat with me...period. "Don't let people, problems, and the pain in your past, pause your present, punish your person, prison your potential, and paralyze your progress." 2008 has taken me through some major changes. After just a few months into the new year, I have learned a valuable lesson: love and be faithful to those that love and are faithful to you. It's time to stop investing major time into minor people. If you send me a message or a friend request and I don't reply, don't take it personally...I'm just doing something else. WAIT! Before you send that message, read it. Is it something you would want someone to say to your mom OR would your wife, girlfirend, or significant other be upset if they read it? Please don't send me friend requests and you have never sent me a message. If I read your e-mail and it says something awful like "what up shawty let me holla at ya"...I am deleting it. Thanks for stopping by! ALRIGHT...ALREADY... It's been a hellacious year. I think that the events of this past year have been a perfect example of bought sense. I learned who my real friends are...the people who I could call and just cry on the phone and they had time to listen. I learned what I will and will not accept in a relationship. I learned that everybody that says "I Love You" doesn't mean it. I learned that there are people who are just BAD people...no ifs, ands, or buts about it. I learned that I trust and believe people too quickly. I learned that some men and women can only love on their terms...whether good or bad. As time passes, the scars are healing and the pain is subsiding. Every now and then I reminisce and think about what was and ponder what might have been....then the reality of what really was and is sets in. I'm getting there...it's a process and a struggle but I am making it. In my mind I see that things are alright already and I just need to let myself let go. I used to say "I'm hurt, I'm mad, I'm angry, I'm confused" but now I can say "I was hurt, but I'm healing....I was mad...but I feel better....I was angry, but it's getting getting easier to smile...I was confused, but I have some peace". I have heard people say that it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I never really understood what that meant until now. I don't regret any of the things that transpired over the past year...at the time it was exactly what I wanted. Right now, I am so ELATED to be in a new place, around new people, and finally getting to know this chick named Jasmine. It's been a long time coming...pardon me while I do me for a while. So tonight, I raise my glass and offer a toast...live, love, and learn! This is dedicated to MDR in BR, BAD in MS, and all the rest of you that rode this wild ride. Thanks for the bumps on my head and cracks in my heart. You got a few good licks in...but these wounds are healing and I'm STILL STANDING.