JayKelz

Listen,

If you’ve never had it, you may not know how to handle it so give yourself grace for your first or second time.

Whether it’s something healthier than what you’re accustomed to or it’s a new opportunity in a leadership role, a goal in which you may not have reference of how far you’ll go? Guess what-
You may fail, you may trip & stumble, it may even trigger a fight or flight but you MUST give yourself permission to bask in the newness.

WHENEVER you find yourself in unfamiliar territory or in a position where you’re uncomfortable?

Congratulations!
It’s your graduation, you’re growing. 🎉

Stop forcing it with them.

Reevaluate the situation you have or are in with said friend / foe / lover / etc and see if what you are getting out of it, is suffice. If not, please remember, you and your efforts won’t be enough for the wrong people. Having company is nice, companionship may keep you from intrusive thoughts when lonely but don’t give others permission to NOT give, to you.
It’s not enough to have a circle of “bland” and not those who are beneficial..

What’s up BP, it’s been a while…

You have every right to fend, for your NO.

Your NO:
No to this, no to that.
No to him, no to her.
No to making that decision, no to participating.
No to faking what doesn’t please you.
No to bending backwards to impress others.
No instead of, “I’ll think about it.”
No to anything that’ll take away from your quiet time and your healing.
No to whatever and/or whoever, WHENEVER you
feel the need to exercise it.

Whenever your no is appealed (please understand,) you have every right to defend it and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for it. You don’t have to “appease” with a lighter answer..

MAKE SURE YOUR NO, IS TRIED AND WON OVER, unless you see reason to surrender it. Other than that? Know, that your NO, is final (period.)

#YouHoldThePower

Dear bro | sis,

You may have bruises and welps and abrasions from fighting your way out of some tough seasons and trials in your life, and sometimes you may of even contemplated giving it all up..

But I just want to remind you and A L E R T you that..

..you’ve made it out.

You’ve survived.

Dear lover and/or friend:

The scariest thing you could do, is to weaponize my vulnerability, thinking you were a safe place.

Don’t bury me in a coffin, with my own courage .

You can’t say you love a thing, and not dedicate yourself to learning it. Invest in what you love. Take time, intentional time away to even put it in practice. Figure it out as much as you can, (if you love it like you say you do).

Commit to what you love.
It has a language you need to become acquainted with. Simple.

Minding your OWN business, is the best business you can be occupied with...

Bro..
Sis..

Right now I need you to be paying very very very very, VERY close attention to who you’re loyal to, because sometimes our loyalty can Lead us into the wrong direction if we don’t censor and assess our leadership..
It’s vital that you acknowledge where you’re going | who you’re either taking with you, and/or who’s tagging along behind you as you’re in front.

So understand who you’re allowing to LEAD you,
And who you are LOYAL to, because you never want to hand over your keys, to a reckless driver..

#SomethingToThinkAbout

The realist friend you could ever have in your lifetime, is the same one who you see looking back at you in your reflection.
They Know all of your secrets | flaws | frailties | scars | Insecurities | recent changes and results & beyond, and yet will always be there for you and won’t ever leave.

Don't give up on the Man | Woman you see.

#DontGiveUpOnYou
#LovingYouIsaRelationship

~JKelley