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This Woman's Work - Maxwell

The true gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe. -John Walter Wayland

Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings. -Anais Nin

The Measure Of A Man

The worth of a man is not measured in worldly possessions but by the attributes of his character

great wealth does not constitute a great man nor does poverty lesson a man's worth

the greatness of a man is contained within his spirit for a man will soar as high as his spirit will take him

True greatness is not measured in great fortune but by the richness of a man's character

for it is character that defines a great man

above all a great man is defined by love

for it is only through love that true greatness can be achieved

****Note**** A great man is not measured by the amount of money he has, the kind of car he drives, the size of his biceps, or outward appearance.

****** TURN OFFS ******
(I HATE BOTH OF THESE EQUALLY BY THE WAY)
1. SMOKING
2. IMMATURITY

Ladies, which man would you choose? The one who can offer you a mortgage-free, financially worry-free life, annual vacations and stability? Or would you choose the one who'll offer you total love, devotion, respect, and the opportunity to build a life together through hardships? Stop basing your relationships on what Keyshia Cole, Mariah Carey, Jazmine Sullivan, and Mary J. Blige say a man is. If you use your common sense then maybe you should learn that taking advice from celebrities isn't smart because they can't hold a man themselves. Women swear they have this magical "intuition" with men. A woman's instincts are not always correct. A woman's "intuition" is based on her personal experience and information provided by others. Then you have these shallow women that won't date a guy unless he has a car and a perfect body. Shallowness isn't gender-specific, age-specific or class-specific. It's just something that's gotten progressively worse over the years and unfortunately in a lot of cases it starts at a young age when parents start caving in and start their kids on the road to "having everything they never had". Between the media (TV in particular), their peers, and society, they are nurtured to believe that looks and money are more important than honesty, character, integrity, and morals. It's pretty sad really, because in the end they miss out on the most important things life has to offer while they search for what they perceive to be perfection. If you expect to find love in purely superficial characteristics and physical qualities you will most certainly experience extreme disappointment and heartbreak. That alone is proof that women and logic don't mix. It is my argument that women in American society have become so ignorant that they don't know what a good man is and when they do meet one, they don't know how to handle him. I'll take this argument with anyone and be able to win.

Hmmm, where are all the good men? Hell, where are all the good women?

Good men are indeed all around you. You pass them on the streets, in the malls, and the halls at work. Most you can't see because you don't know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have the perfect body or extremely good looks. But as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head. A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same. A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale.

Good men are getting more and more rare, in a society that where basic values such as integrity, honesty and good character are quickly fading. Those very same qualities are what set apart a man from a good man. A good man knows what he stands for, what he ought to do, what he will never do, and the principles that he will use to guide his life. His vast learning teaches him how he should treat himself, and the others around him. He loves himself, and has a genuine care for people, and is willing to help people all the way. A good man is willing to give of himself, in return for greater friendships and bonds. A good man shows what he is outside, and that is the same as what he is inside; he is a true character and is transparent. These characteristics are hard to come by. And when bravery is found in a good man, a hero is born. When you meet someone you really like, it is important to know the characteristics of a good man. so that you can quickly identify them, and not waste time on the wrong person. The first thing that you should look for is integrity and character. These are traits that are essential in a lifelong partner. Characteristics of a good man will tell you what he stands for, the values he lives by, and the morals that shape his behavior. This determines how he treats you and how he treats himself. His personality is important, however, do not mistake his personality with his character. His personality is the way he presents himself to the world, the way he expresses himself on the outside. His character is what he is on the inside, his substance. In order to know how to recognize characteristics of a good man, you have to get to know him and had serious conversations with him, and this comes with time. If you find a man who is committed to growing and improving himself as a person, that he wants to learn everything he can about being a better person, this is a characteristic of a good man. If he is open emotionally and open with his feelings and he expresses those feelings to you. You should feel that the door to his heart is open. Is he mature and responsible? This means that he has grown up and does not act like a child, and expecting you to take care of him. Being responsible means he does what he says he is going to do. He keeps his promises and shows up on time. Does he have a positive attitude toward life? Does he see good in the world in you and himself? He should make you feel good when you are with him. Steer clear of the man who is a negative person who is always complaining. This type of person will drain all your energy and bring you down. Does he have a high self-esteem? Does he feel good about who he is and how he lives his life, and takes care of himself? A man can only love you if he loves himself. He does not allow other people to mistreat him or you. Does he have integrity? Can you count on him to be truthful with you at all times? Is he honest with himself and you? Honesty and integrity are crucial for a long term relationship to last. You want to respect the way he treats other people. In order for you to know the characteristics of a good man, you need to possess these same qualities. It is important to love a man not only for exterior appearance but for who he is on the inside as well. The ultimate dream of a good man would be to find a woman who feels like he feels, and has his attitudes towards life and people.