imikimi - Customize Your World!
Lupus is a serious health problem that mainly affects young women. Most people with Lupus first get it as teenagers or as young adults. People of all races may get Lupus. However, BLACK WOMEN are three times more likely to develop lupus than white women. You cannot catch Lupus from someone else. You cannot give Lupus to someone else. Lupus is not cancer. It is not AIDS.
First of all, I am not here to play
with emotions nor have mine played with, please respect that! I love to have fun and laugh as much as the next person but not like that.
Hello, I`m Kim37 and Blackrose63. I am divorced with one child. I have been called a "Deep Thinker". I dont ask much from anyone as long as he is honest and a caring person who has a job!! I am very easy to get along with and very understanding. What I am looking for is someone who can make me smile, treat me like a woman should be treated and I am looking for a serious relationship. If you just want a "BOOTY CALL" then I am not the one I play for keeps!! I am looking for my SoulMate.
How to Love a Black Woman
1. Reality-check your expectations of her.
2. Give her your love in her language.
3. Expect to have to earn her trust.
4. Don`t start what you won`t continue.
5. Accept her for who she is now (not who you think you can make her into).
6. Don`t require that your every move be applauded.
7. Tell her exactly what your committment means.
8. Never compare her.
9. Initiate physical affection that doesn`t always lead to sex.
10. Remind her daily of why you love her.
**"A black woman flourishes when the man in her life consistently demonstrates that he treasures her above anyone else and is committed to her well-being. When she`s confident that he`s truly there for her, she feels secure. She relaxes. She exhales."**
The Strength of A Man
The strength of a man isn`t seen in the width of his shoulders. It`s
in the width of his arms that encircle you.
The strength of a man isn`t in the deep tone of his voice. It`s in
the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn`t how many buddies he has. It`s how good a
buddy he is with his children.
The strength of a man isn`t in how respected he is at work. It`s in
how respected he is at home.
The strength of a man isn`t in the hair on his chest. It`s in his
heart, that lies within his chest.
The strength of a man isn`t in how hard he hits. It`s in how tender
he touches.
The strength of a man isn`t how many women he`s loved. It`s in being
true to one woman.
The strength of a man isn`t in the weight he can lift. It`s in the
burdens he can carry.
-Author unknown
imikimi - Customize Your World! The Death of the Black Woman
While struggling with the reality of being a human instead of a myth, the strong black woman passed away. Medical sources say she died of natural causes, but those who knew her know she died from being silent when she should have been screaming, smiling when she should have been raging, from being sick and not wanting anyone to know because her pain might inconvenience them. She died from an overdose of other people clinging to her when she didn`t even have energy for herself. She died from loving men who didn`t love themselves and could only offer her a crippled reflection. She died from raising children alone. She died from the lies her grandmother told her mother and her mother told her about life, men & racism. She died from being sexually abused as a child and having to take that truth everywhere she went every day of her life, exchanging the humiliation or guilt and back again. She died from asphyxiation, coughing up blood from secrets she kept trying to burn away instead of allowing herself the kind of nervous breakdown she was entitled to, but only white girls could afford. She died from being responsible, because she was the last rung on the ladder and there was no one under her she could dump on. The strong black woman is dead. She died from being a mother at 15 and a grandmother at 30 and an ancestor at 45. She died from being dragged down and sat upon by un-evolved women posing as sisters and friends. She died from tolerating Mr. Pitiful, just to have a man around the house. She died from sacrificing herself for everybody and everything when what she really wanted to do was be a singer, a dancer, or some magnificent other. She died from lies of omission because she didn`t want to bring the black man down. She died from tributes from her counterparts who should have been matching her efforts instead of showering her with dead words and empty songs. She died from myths that would not allow her to show weakness without being chastised by the lazy and hazy. She died from hiding her real feelings until they became hard and bitter enough to invade her womb and breasts and became angry tumours. She died from always lifting something from heavy boxes to refrigerators all by herself. The strong black woman is dead. She died from never being enough of what men wanted, or being too much for the men she wanted. She died from being too black and died again for not being black enough. She died from being misinformed about her mind, her body & the extent of her royal capabilities. She died from knees pressed too close together because respect was never part of the foreplay that was being shoved at her. She died from loneliness in birthing rooms and aloneness in abortion centers. She died in bathrooms with her veins busting open with self-hatred and neglect. And sometimes when she refused to die, when she just refused to give in she was killed by the lethal images of blonde hair, blue eyes and flat butts, being rejected by the OJ.`s, the Quincy`s, the Cuba`s & the Kobe`s. Sometimes, she was stomped to death by racism & sexism, executed by hi-tech ignorance while she carried the family in her belly, the community on her head, and the race on her back! The strong black woman is dead! Or is she? I know I`m not!
Your Birthdate: July 4
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You have an extraordinary character - moral, responsible, and disciplined.
Your sincerely and honesty shine through in almost every situation.
Driven and focused, you rarely let your emotions get the better of you.
You're level headed and rational. People count on your to look at things objectively.
Your strength: Your unwavering loyalty and ethics
Your weakness: Your rock solid stubbornness
Your power color: Navy blue
Your power symbol: Shield
Your power month: April
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