I'm an Unstoppable Woman Who Wins in 2010! Taking it to another level.:)
Travels: Austria, Belgium, Canada, China, Germany, Holland, Hong Kong, Italy, Jamaica,Japan, Liechtenstein, Luxembourg, Malaysia, Mexico, Puerto Rico, St. Thomas, St. John, Singapore, South Korea, Switzerland, and Vietnam.
Favorite Football Team: Dallas Cowboys- For better or for worse, `til death do us part, baby.
Favorite Quote: This was addressed to me: "Walk your beauty and intellect and creativity across this country my sister!"- Sonia Sanchez
Favorite Musicians: Yolanda Adams and Karen Clarke-Sheard
How to Love a Black Woman- by Ronn Elmore
1. Say "I love you" in words and deeds.
2. Keep promises.
3. Listen with the heart; share from the heart.
4. Cherish her for who she is and who she`s becoming.
5. Make sure she doesn`t need you in her life but that she wants you in her life.
Soulful Relationships
If you`re not married yet, share this with a friend.If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before
you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don`t let lust,desperation, immaturity, ignorance,pressure from others or low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don`t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren`t really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves,and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you`ve got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the
relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain. You can`t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can`t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won`t find yourself making someone else
responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation,control,jealousy, neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of a
thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in relationship. What keeps
a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor,sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children,
daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your
mate to have outside interests. You can`t always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don`t try tocontrol one another. Learn each other`s family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don`t put pressure on each otherfor material goods.Remember,for Richer or for Poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship
will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dis-honesty, and pain replace the passion. "Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will
never go any higher than you think." The grass withers, the flower fades,
But the word of God stands forever.
Inspirations from Jewel Diamond Taylor:
Relationships
To keep a relationship strong remember these points:
-try to be honest without being vicious
-be mutual without invading the other`s privacy
-be trusting without being blind
-be respectful without idolizing
-share without controlling
-love without possessing
If you trust too soon, you are probably afraid of being rejected.
If you trust too superficially, you may easily be betrayed.
If you trust too late, you may never know what love is.
If there is no trust, prayer, laughter, communication, or shared interests and planning, your relationship is on shaky ground.
If a loving and strong relationship is your goal, work on these qualities in yourself.
Learn from past lessons.
If your heart has been wounded in the past, let it heal and find yourself before you look for someone else new.
Have Faith
It`s amazing what you can accomplish when you stop listening to the wrong people. It`s amazing what you can endure when you have enough faith. It`s amazing what you can accomplish when you recognize that you are not organized. It`s amazing what you can accomplish when you stop denying your gifts, talents, and power. It`s amazing what you can accomplish when you stopsettling for less than the best. It`s amazing what you can accomplish when you see that you put limits on yourself. It`s amazing how fear,doubt, procrastination, lack of faith, and low self-esteem can rob you of so much life.
Work on the"inner you." Look inside yourself to discover and uncover your fears and vices as well as your strengths and virtues. The ancestors taught "Know Thyself". In order to do this, you must grow through denial, resistance, anger, procrastination, depression, and inconsistency in your actions. It`s amazing what a difference positive actions and a positive mindset can make. Life holds so much promise and possibilities for you.
