Women are quick to say, "I want a good man. Somebody who is gonna love me for me!!" Well some women get men who are truly good to them and treat them as the queen they are. The only problem is the woman that had him 1st did not appreciate him for that. She never took time out to pay attention to the best friend she ever had. They were too busy trying to OUT DO and PRETEND to be more than their friends were. This in turn cuts off the blessings that the MAN is trying to bestow upon his women. Then over a period of time that man transforms into what women are quick to say all men are. that's right, "A DOG!!" (I am a victum of the name calling. But I have learned from it and have become a better person towards men. Continue to read please!!. . . LOL!!)

For example, He may have cooked her dinner knowing she had worked hard all day long. Instead of her taking time to appreciate HIM she runs, eats, cuts on the tv and gets on the phone. She makes sure she has sex with him and thats a wrap.

Next example, A MAN offers a woman to take her and do what ever she wants to do. First thing she wants is to go shopping or out to eat at a high ass restaurant. she pulls out the cell and calls her girl to let her know that HER MAN did this and he did that for her. She makes sure she has sex with him and thats a wrap.

Next example, You both have a disagreement and he gets ready to leave. The woman in turn jumps in front of him and TELLS him what he is and is not going to do. Then she tells him that she loves him and cries and they end up having sex. she has sex twice that night and its a wrap.

Last example, The man has a bad day at work, has alot going on in his life at the time. He calls her cell but she dosen't click over because she sees its him and assumes he his just calling like normal. The man gets home and they have a argument. That is because she didn't answer the phone. Now the man feels pushed to the back of her list of what is important in her life in HIS EYES. She is quick to hollar out "That's my Man" when he doing what she wants. But at the same time she was not investing in her man by appreciating what he was doing for her from HIS HEART when she was having her way!! Now comes trouble. . . . . .

Ok, Now as you know time passes and the man is yet single. Well what do you know. . . .the same scorned man has crossed my life. I am willing to be that woman that he TRIED to cater to before but the only difference I am not the EYE CANDY that tore his heart. You see I say EYE CANDY because everything that looks good to you is not best for YOU!!So that makes it harder for me to get close to him because now there is a wall around his heart and a curse on his train of thought. But I pray and ask God to help me get thru to him so that we can accomplish what he never had with his past relationship. . . that is a FRIEND!

Now we have become friends and we have bonded with each other. He has told me his story. I have inturn told him mine. Now WE are basically on the same page. Now lets recap the examples he went thru with his "EX" and you tell me "Am I Wrong' on how I handled the situations.

Example: I get home and my FRIEND has dinner cooked for me. I go in, eat, cut the tv on and I ask my FRIEND to come sit with me. I tell him to lay his head in my lap and i rub his head. I let him know that I appreciate what he did and I follow his lead from there. AM I WRONG!!??!!

Example: My FRIEND offers to take me to do whatever I want to do for the day. So I know my FRIEND like to shoot pool. (But keep in mind I also know that my friends last name is not "Smith". . . . you feel me!! LOL!!) So I suggest that me and my FRIEND go eat at the buffet and shoot some pool. I call my home girl and tell her that i will hollar at her TOMORROW. I lethim know i appreciate him and I follow his lead from there. AM I WRONG!!??!!

Example: We have a disagreement! He says he is going to leave. I push him away and tell him fine!! Just leave then if that makes him happy. But the TRUTH is all I want is for him to be happy. I really DON'T WANT him to leave. I am really hoping that my FRIEND loves me enough to stay. I am hoping in my heart that MY FRIEND grabs me and hollars at me. And when he dose I intend to hold him so tight that he can feel my heart beat in rythmn with his and that what ever WE DID to get to this point is worth making it thru. (You see I said we because you can't argue by yourself. That's a TEAM sport!! LOL!!) We calm down and then WE make LOVE! AM I WRONG!!??!!

Example: My FRIEND has a bad day at work, alot is going on right now in his life. He calls my cell but I don't click over because I see that it's him. I call him back shortly. He talks to me and fusses about what happened al the way home. When he gets home I have his favorite meal cooking! I fix his plate and then I TELL him to come go with me. I TELL him that things are going to get better. I TELL him that WE are going to make it thru whatever it is. I let him know the reason that WE are going to make it is because HE IS MY MAN!! Now I ask you AM I WRONG!!

My thing is if you are in a relationship then that is between you and whomever you choose to be with. Now if you git someone that is willing to give as well as take then you should be proud. When you are going with someone you should not have to report what you are doing with your friends. Thats how you loose your blessings. you see if you shinning your friend is gonna want to shine as well REGARDLESS of what they have to do . Hell they may even still your joy! but if you advertise how good your life is to people. I mean hey. . .IT PAYS TO KEEP SOME THINGS TO YOURSELF! I feel that as long as my FRIEND knows in his heart that he is MY MAN. I could care less about what anyone thinks! So again I ask. . .