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vitals: no kids, 5'7", optomistic view on life Ummm...I read some of these messages and I think to myself...some you really try to be far too profound. Just let it flow, stop thinking so hard.
I used to have a message up here about my views on male-female relationships. OOo-weee...I used to get some men mad. I merely said that in order to require things from a woman, the man has to come to the table with some pre-reqs also. But as always in life, many folks really felt what I was saying, some didn't and just didn't say anything, and others felt "some kinda way" and felt the need to leave a message. But I luv it, I like hearing varying opinions. For the past several years, I have always said to the people in my circle that I am "an advocate for black love." Not that I have anything against mixing races-I'm by no means "arian-nation-like" in my thinking, or maybe I am. I believe that as black people, we would be at our strongest if we developed healthy, giving relationships. Many times our relationships, in my opinion, have slave mentality implications. It's all about getting yours, not looking out for the next person. I haven't heard many forgiving stories about the big house vs. the field nagga relationships. But it seems to me, instead of lapping up what you could in the big house, just so you could live better, you would help the field man out too.
I'm sure that you have read the Willie Lynch letter. I have a copy of it in my family room. I ask folks when they come over to check out a couple or so paragraphs in it. The failure of the black family is by design. If you know of some one intentionally instituting mechanisms of destruction within your relationships and family structures, why assist them in their plight? But we continue to fall into the role. Black women were conditioned to believe that they were the head of the house, that they did not need a black man-or any man for that matter, to help them with shet. Black men were to become street-wise and home-dumb. The lack of strength and structure in our home and families, lead to a lack of economic empowerment. Why become a result of this successful experiment? Why not love your man, love your woman, and see that the results are endless? I believe that if you cannot fully and truly love your mate, it says more than tons about how you feel about yourself. I'm tired of the baby mammas and daddies. If you lay down with this person, and trust your life with them, why do you become stark enemies after you bring a life into the world. (I say trust your life because once you have unprotected sex, your life is in their hands.) Am I all high and mighty, no. I feel that with experience comes wisdom. I have learned a lot in my years, and I listen to the more learned individuals in my life, I seek knowledge daily. This is it for now. Not very developed, kinda rambling...but it's me for this moment, right now. Enjoy your week! Mona |
