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This was a conversation I had with a woman online today...
HER: I read your blogs and profile and I wanted to know what makes you think you're all that where you can pick and choose who you want?
ME: I'm not "all that", I'm all ME. Never said I was all that, I just know what I like and dislike. I know what and who I'm attracted to. Is it wrong to express that?
HER: I'm just saying, you might be missing out on a blessing and it shouldn't matter what she looks like.
ME: In a perfect world it SHOULDN'T matter, but it does. It may sound superficial to you but I am a man. We are physical, visual beings. I want to be able to desire a woman just by the simple thought of seeing her again. It's not about perfection, it's about what's perfect for me. I am not the most handsome man in the world but somewhere someone finds me attractive.
HER: You said you like tall women. You also said you're 5' 8". Not a lot of women are attracted to short guys. It's gonna be difficult for you to find someone like that.
ME: Maybe and I do acknowledge that but I also said that I have a FETISH for taller women. I like what I like. I'm pretty sure you like what you like. Right?
HER: Yeah but I keep an open mind. You like women a certain way but you want to be accepted for you at your height, style, etc...
ME: I could care less about who doesn't accept me as I am.
HER: You're just not all that. That's all I'm saying.
ME: Why are you still talking to me? If you feel that way, go talk to someone who is... LOL
HER: Dang you're rude!
ME: Ooookay... You contact me after reading my stuff when you didn't have to, tell me I'm not all that and question why I like what I like? I'm the rude one? Goodbye.
THAT WAS SO FUNNY TO ME...
Y'know, I've always been a sucker for the "Damsel in Distress" until I realized she'd taken on the traits of the Dragons who would kidnap her; I'd get burned every time...
heh heh heh.
Wow...
Well, it’s nearly 2010 and I’m still single. Since many of you enjoyed the last blog, I thought I’d entertain you with another one. So… here are
5 MORE REASONS I’M STILL SINGLE
5. MY CAR IS NOT A TAXI…
I don’t understand. For some reason I meet more ladies without their own transportation. I didn’t mind at first. I made myself available because I thought it was the right thing to do and I wanted to be dependable. What gets annoying is the assumption that I’m just supposed to drop whatever I’m doing to come rescue someone or take them to work, or take them to the store around the corner, or take them by their Baby-Daddy’s house, or stop by EVERY FRICKIN’ SPOT FOR SOMETHING. “Oooh, can you stop by Burger King real quick? And can we stop by the gas station and can we stop by my sister’s house? Me and my girl are stuck at the club! Can you come get us?” I understand different people have different situations but WOW. (And folks get offended when I ask for gas money… even if we’re sleeping together.) My gasoline is for ME to get back and forth during the week. All I know is, when I was in between cars, I didn’t hear from ANYONE for ANYTHING. If you’re my wife, that’s different. Girlfriend or someone I’m just seeing? NAH.
4. MONEY IS NOT AN ISSUE (because I don’t have any)
I live a modest life but I pay rent, have a car payment with insurance and a gas tank to fill, I go to the grocery store every two weeks, light bill, water bill, cell phone bill… Bills, bills, bills. LOL I don’t have much to bring to the table when it comes to relationships and dating. All I have is love to give and more often than not, that’s not enough. The old saying goes “NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE” and sadly, these days that saying is so true.
3. BABY-MAMA DRAMA (it’s not what you think)
I am a single father. I have custody of my daughter. Her mother is still in her life. She has visitation set by the court. She is trifling and has tried to interfere in my personal relationships with women. I’m used to it because I can handle her. Women in my past found out the hard way why I have custody of my child. She feels like I have taken her right as a mother away from her, which is not the case. She just needs to step up as a PARENT. She always tries to find a way to annoy whoever I’m dating and I know that’s a turn-off. Don’t be scared… I got this.
2. I’M AN A$$HOLE
Why is it that most times, when a woman stands up for what she believes in, she’s automatically considered a “STRONG WOMAN”, but when a man stands up for himself, sometimes he’s stubborn, controlling or an a$$hole? Usually when I have to tell a woman “no”, it’s for good reason and I don’t want to control anyone. I just want to love someone. BUT, I will not allow anyone to dictate how I live my life (except the CREATOR). I have goals, dreams and desires. I’d love to share them with someone but that doesn’t mean you have to do what I do or go where I go. Just support me and I’ll support you.
1. I’M JUST NOT THAT INTO U…
I have preferences like anyone else. I find myself attracted to women who could be considered “out of my league” and that’s okay. It’s all a part of the chase. Unfortunately, there are some women who were attracted to me that I just wasn’t feeling. No offense! I know what I like, what I don’t, what turns me on, what turns me off. Just know that me being a man and you being a woman isn’t always enough. There has to be a connection and I MUST be attracted to you and you to me. Bottom line.
I get asked "Why are you single?" so often nowadays, that I actually had to sit back and really think about it. I'm not really single by choice although some may disagree, but these are probably the closest reasons I could come up with.
10. At My Age, I Have Become Very Picky... This isn't necessarily a bad thing but it does place limits on my choices. Why would anyone settle for less than what they truly desire? I don't. I know what I like, what I don't like and what turns me on and off. To go against this, just to be with someone most likely would result in me being unhappy. It does backfire on me from time to time. For example; I'm the type of man who will attempt to talk to or dance with the most attractive woman in the club while ten other women who are probably sweet and sexy have been waiting for me to talk to them all night. I don't know... I'll get it right one day.
9. I'm Not The Average Guy... My tastes in music and entertainment, clothes, books and whatnot are slightly different than the next man. I take pride in being an individual. For example, I am the type of man who puts a suit on just to go to a nightclub (or a nice shirt and pants). I like music from the 60's, 70's and 80's and get weird looks when I'm pumpin' Isaac Hayes or Rene' and Angela from my car. LOL I can be found reading Spider-Man or a Michael Baisden book instead of the latest XXL or Source. Now, for some reason, none of this seems to be appealing at all to the ladies. I don't do the "thug" thing but because that seems to be the current standard of Black masculinity, I'm often overlooked (even though I strive to stand out!).
8. My Sexual Appetite Is Quite Large... Some women in my past were actually startled at my bedroom antics and all-nighters. I can't help it; I'M A FREAK!!! When it comes to sex and intimacy my objective is to make US feel as good as possible (and beyond!). Not just me and not just her. The key to it for me is that I've accepted myself as a sexual being. I'm a big show-off and I like trying different and fun things. Perhaps my libido scares some women?
7. Nice Guys Finish Last... We do. It's a fact. I've been in countless situations where I've been dumped or cheated on by women who end up with these losers. It no longer pays to be a gentleman in these days and times which is sad. I was raised to be this way and I cannot betray my nature or pretend to be someone I'm not. ...And yes, maybe a little too nice sometimes but I'll never let anyone walk all over me.
6. I'm Set In My Ways... The only things I may change from time to time are the foods I eat, the TV channels and sexual positions. (LMAO) I'm quite comfortable with the clothes I wear, the places I go and my outlook on life itself. If the Creator has a different plan for me then He will let me know.
5. Cheat On Me Once, You're Gone... I used to believe in second chances but just how many second chances do I have to give? I had to stop that because I was inviting toxicity into my life by accepting infidelity as "just a mistake". A few have tried to come back but I won't tolerate the mindset of wanting to see if the grass was greener on the other side. YOUR GRASS WILL BE JUST AS GREEN IF YOU TAKE CARE OF IT!
4. The Games Are Getting Old... I'm 37 years old. I don't have time for games and I don't like being tested. Playing "phone-tag", "I don't know what I want yet" and crap like that is not my thing. Either you will or you won't. It's just that simple to me.
3. Damn! A Height Requirement Now? I am 5' 8". When exactly did being a guy less than 6 feet tall make you less than a man? There is nothing wrong with personal preference but many women (even those fewer than 5 feet themselves) seem to make this a requirement rather than a choice. I can understand how a woman between 5'5" and 6"0" would need a man taller than them but GEEZ COME ON! Shouts out to TOM CRUISE, KATT WILLIAMS, AND JERMAINE DUPRI...
2. Maybe It's A Regional Thing... I live in the South. I meet more women from up North (where I'm from) and out West who find me attractive regardless of my car, clothes, height or skin color (or shade). In my area, it seems that the males of choice are drug dealers or super-professionals. My lifestyle is quite modest and that seems to be unattractive but I refuse to apologize for wanting to save money for my daughter's future or driving a $10,000 car without rims or for not looking like I just stepped out of a music video. I KNOW there has to be more than a few women in my area that are looking for a stable, responsible, grown-a$$ man. Where are you?
1. My Child Comes First... This should be self-explanatory but it really isn't! I understand that we all need attention, especially when it comes to relationships, but I'M A FATHER FIRST AND A LOVER LATER. This means I won’t tolerate pouting or attitudes if I tell a woman that I have to help my daughter study or I have to take her to practice or even if I just want to sit and watch TV with her. What really burns my butt is when a woman has the nerve to want me to send my child to her grandparents or her mother's house so she can have my time and attention! I HATE THAT. NO, YOU CAN'T SPEND THE NIGHT WHEN MY CHILD IS HOME! NO, I DON'T SMOKE OR DRINK AROUND MY CHILD AND I EXPECT THE SAME FROM YOU! NO, YOU MAY NOT MEET MY CHILD UNTIL I'M READY FOR YOU TO MEET HER! NO, I WON'T TELL YOU HOW TO RAISE YOUR CHILDREN, SO DON'T TELL ME HOW TO RAISE MINE! If I meet a woman with children, she better believe that her own children will come first along with mine. We have a responsibility as parents to love and spend time with our children so that they will know love and responsibility to become positive adults. Right? |
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