NathanXav Read, think, and contact. Then shout eurkea and amen - May 17, 2009 add/view comments (0)

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Am looking for online and offline platonic friendships, w/ mature (39 plus) adults who are divorced, single, or married, and who are from various ethnic communities. I am a large person or what they call a BMH, or big handsome male. And have more than a few friends and acquaintences who are BBWs and BHMs. Of course, I know there are health concerns with being large and I am on my way to becoming healthier, including getting back my endurance and strength, but I have never been, nor do I want to be male model thin.

Believe that the universe can be reduced to two basic concepts: language and culture. Am married with wife, kids, career, mortgage, and am in the continual stages of a mid-life transformation which is the next logical step to handling a midlife crisis. Not into young girls, emotional/sexual flings, red sport cars or trying to recapture my youth,including my 20's. Just plenty of reading, dialoguing, soul searching; and seeking First Contact (a Trekkie term) with kindred spirits; all activities leading to multiple transformations. Am looking to network, and have mature, intellectual discussions on a variety of topics. Self-reflection leads to a greater understanding of self and others, and does not occur in a cultural vacuum. Have found that in sharing sincerely, there can mutual intellectual, emotional, and spiritual growth. Consider myself a little more intellectual than most, a great listener, a creative, independent thinker, who enjoys corresponding, and meeting sincere people. I am also a voracious reader who reads in more than one language. I can also be a supportive, caring friend. And, yes, I am striving to be Christ-like which includes being as wise as a serpent and as harmless as a dove, and knowing not to cast my pearls, figurative speaking, to human swine. Human swine have a purpose as do all sentient beings. I have learned to show them compassion from a distance.

I am not better than you because of whom I had been, am now and will be and you are not better than I am because of you.The online universe and the offline universe are very large and contrary to some cultural belief systems can hold more than one definition of blackness. I exist and will not be treated as anything less. I know that I am not alone in my design. God willing, this beacon of mine will travel and speak to kindred spirits who are on the same frequency.

I will not be your trophy friend to hang on your page. If you wish to enter my universe, ask yourself two quesitons: What do you think I can contribute to your universe which is made up of personal universes (you call them family, community, and friends) and what do you think you can contribute to mine? I know I ask similar questions each time I meet a person who wishes to be my friend. At this point in my life, I am truly blessed that I have very few friends. I have found superficial acquaintances (those claiming to be friends by their exclusive definitions) and jello are similar: There is always room for them, they serve a purpose, and eventually pass through my system.

I am also trying to start my writing career and have information on my Yahoo 360 space. I am sure that if you stop by, you will not be disappointed. Have a few warm or cool beverages, if you do stop by. I have been told the pieces are engrossing and entertaining. And I need comments so leave feedback of any kind because, as some have said, its all good reading. http://360.yahoo.com/my_profil e-1IMiY.A_erJoBEqdqce1lMs-;_yl t=AlbT9rIHUrczFTj9WZPZ9SK0AOJ3 ?cq=1 For those not familar with Yahoo 360, go to View Blog, and then in the lower left hand side, you will see the Tag Cloud. Select whatever word you desire and be sure to have a warm or cold beverage before you start reading.

Nota Bene: If you have difficulty accepting that in a universe of possibilities that a person like me could exist, if very intelligent people scare you because of your insecurities including your personal superstions, if you conclude that males and females are incapable of platonic relationships, and that all married men are guilty of creeping, if you conclude that all there is to being black is MERELY having a ghetto pass, and if you are emotionally abusive because of your past history, which could be anything from being molested to not having your fairy tale marital expectations met, one phrase for you: KEEP IT MOVING.