PROMISE_RANDY2 Promise & Randy Waving Hello - October 06, 2010 add/view comments (0)

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It may be easy to assume that its sole purpose is to promote and encourage the concept of Open Marriages or Open Relationships. However, my view is slightly more nuanced than that. What I’d like to advocate, here, is Open Mindedness. …I know, it has a nice ring to it, but what exactly does it mean to be an Open Minded Couple? First of all, it’s a step or two down from being what is traditionally referred to as an Open Relationship.

When we think about Open Relationships or Open Marriages, we typically conjure the notion that couples are free to do as they please with others. The idea is almost akin to relational anarchy. No rules and no boundaries. I can imagine a partner in one of these arrangements saying to the other:

“I’ll do as I will and you do the same... An Open Minded Couple should be strengthened by experiences with another person and, certainly, should never be relegated by the relationship of another person. Said another way, anytime another person is intimately brought into your relationship, this new relationship should bring something back to the Primary Relationship. If it doesn’t, then it is taking away from it.

Open Mindedness does not encourage the role of others as a means to having affairs that are sanctioned by your spouse. Open Mindedness is not about going out to others, but bringing others in. Now, to the uninitiated outsider, the Open Minded Couple may look just like the Open Couple. The Open Minded Couple may also have one who leaves with a lover, for a night, only to return in the morning. The difference, however, is one of approach and emphasis. There are three key ingredients that an Open Minded Couple must possess: Honesty. It’s hard to be open if you aren’t being honest. Openness. To be open is to be forthcoming.

It’s not simply a matter of being honest only when you are asked, but being forthcoming with the truth, even when you aren’t " remember your Priority What is done with others should be done to serve one anothe" MWAH!!