Disclaimer: Please
DO NOT consider a visit by me to your page to constitute anything
other than a visit, which I occassionally do on the Planet. I like
and admire attractive and intelligent women who live life with a
(purpose). Just because I am married, please do not make any
personal judgments about why I am on here --my wife doesn't and
neither should anyone else. Black Planet is a (networking) site,
not a dating site; although some would like to think otherwise. I
have been blessed with a nice life that is free of unnecessary
drama and sillyness. I am not looking for another wife or a
girlfriend.
Requirement for
Friendship
Please do not send me an invitation for friendship without an
explanation, unless we already know each other through chat or in
the forums. There are too many casual invitations for friendship
already on the Planet, and some people click (ACCEPT) without
thinking about who the person is. There are prostitutes running
about the Planet with the same photo and a hundred different names,
and both men and women have these people in their friends photo
archives. Also, if you have thousands of facial ornaments already
on your page, you don't need mine; nothing personal, but I do not
favor collectors.
My Attitude About
People
I enjoy meeting people and developing new friendships, which I have
done on the Planet since 1999. Since that time, I have met some of
the most incredible people from across this country, especially
women of all ethnicities and backgrounds. Although I have enjoyed
some delightful moments, I have also experienced a (few) folk with
some personality disorders. Since I am not a licensed and
practicing psychologist, please do not bring me any drama that I
did not cause.
Some times people create misunderstandings in cyberspace when they
misinterpret words or something said that may be beyond their
comprehension; that`s human. I will admit, that at times, I make
mistakes too --I`m human. If something is miscommunicated between
us let`s get clarity instead of walking away pouting, being angry,
upset, or acting ugly.
How I View Myself and What I
Think
If I have to say so myself, I can be one of the nicest persons that
you will ever get to know. If you are a (shallow person) with
issues about men or women, or black men or women specifically, I am
not the one to confront. However, we can discuss the dynamics of
that in a civilized manner. I believe in men and women getting
along at whatever the cost as long as the outcome is productive and
positive. However, I don`t condone men and women staying together
if there is (no love and mutual respect) for each other.
If your having a problem finding a (specific) man or woman of your
liking then look elsewhere; there is no harm or sin in seeking love
where ever you can find it. Don`t concern yourself with what others
think, be true to yourself, first. God created a diversity of
people on Earth for all of us, learn to enjoy his goodness. You
don't have to live a life of unhappiness --look over the horizon
for the light.
When You Are Feeling Hopeless
About Your Life, and Think that it is Passing You
By
When you are feeling down and out about your life look inward.
Meditate so that you can hear God, the Creator, talking to you.
Pray so that you can talk to God. You don`t have to be religious to
do this, but you must believe in the devine power of the Creator.
In that same vein don`t think that God is going to deliver the man
or a woman that you desire at your door, just because. If he did we
wouldn't have so many matchmaking sites, and T.D. Jakes wouldn't be
selling so many books.
When you meditate think deeply about why you are in the position
that you are. Therein you will find a lot of the answers to
questions that trouble you about your life. You cannot solve your
problem if you cannot see your problem. You can survive anything if
you believe that you can change your destiny. I am a living witness
to that belief.
Be blessed, be prosperous, be peaceful and remain encouraged.
Regards........ James W. Preston,
Sr.
ABOUT ME
I am the Director of Advocacy, Mediation & Court Process
Services for the Justice & Mediation Service Center in
Washington, D.C. The Center is my private practice, and we provide
an array of services that deal primary with matters of dispute
resolution. We specialize in representing clients who file illegal
discrimination complaints against employers of city, state, and
federal government agencies. If you are thinking of filing a
complaint of illegal discrimination and you reside in the
Washington, DC region, please feel free to contact me directly at
the following email address:
jamepreston@justiceandmediation.com.
I also teach courses and workforce development seminars in conflict
management, mediation techniques, and personal behavior for a
community college in the state of Maryland. If you have an interest
in becoming a certified mediator one day, please contact me at the
my (personal) email address: prestonjw1@aol.com.
Also, I conduct substance abuse counseling, on a case by case
basis. If you are struggling with substance abuse and (truly) want
to improve your life, please feel free to contact me. Please do not
waste my time if you are not ready and serious --this is some of my
most important life work.
Before I started my private practice as a dispute resolution
professional, I worked 37 years for the United States Treasury
Department in Washington, D.C. I worked 23 years in the Treasury
Dept. as an computer specialist. I performed just about everything
in that profession from developing computer application software,
maintaining telecommunition networks, to being a project
manager.
I gave that up in 1992, to get into human relationship development,
organizational process improvement, EEO counseling and workplace
dispute resolution through mediation. I thank God, the Creator, for
blessing me with the innate talents to be flexible enough to
rechart my life course. When I retired from the government, I was
my agency's Diversity Program Manager, wherein I was responsible
for several programs that promoted inclusion of minority and
disenfranchised employees who were African American, Women, Latino,
Asian, Gay, Lesbian and Transgendered.
There is one other thing that I gained a lot of satisfaction in
life from, and it was being a freelance substance abuse counselor
in the mid-1980s. After overcoming my own issue with substance
abuse, I transfered that blessing from God, the Creator, to others.
The majority of my clients were African American females who were
under court supervision. Luckily, I had a 100% success rate with
the people that I counseled. You might ask, how was this possible.
Simply put, I was able to penetrate their spirit and got them to
believe that they could overcome; and why not.... I did. In 1995,
the Financial Management Service, Department of the Treasury
awarded me the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Award for my community
service work. Of all the many things that I have achieved in life,
this was the ultimate gift that I could give back to God for the
blessing given to me.
MY QUOTES
Dec 1999.....I don`t regret yesterday because its made me what I am
today. Understand that the art of being wise is the art of knowing
what to overlook. Only then will you live with the knowledge that
your character is your destiny. What
you embrace is what you become"  In the
words of Rev Martin Luther King, Jr. King, -- The ultimate
measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and
convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and
controversy.
April 2000.....The only limitations that we have are those that we
place on ourselves; therefore, presumed failure is an opportunity
to succeed. An opportunity is sometimes very hard to achieve. It
has overalls on it and it looks like work. Our business in life is
not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves --to
break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today. It
is important to remember that the inner voice means to never utter
a wrong word, never think a wrong thought and never wish a wrong
wish.
MILITARY
SERVICE
I am a decorated Vietnam Veteran. I was awarded the Army
Commendation Medal in a ceremony just before I left my unit to
return to the United States after serving in Vietnam from April
1967 until July 1969. I spent 17 days in the hospital in 1968, due
to an injury caused by a roadside land mine. I discharged from the
Army out of Vietnam at the rank of E-5.
