Rai928 Maybe not - April 23, 2010 add/view comments (0) |
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UPDATE.....Hello all, I received a lot of responses to my post, most of them positive. Some not so positive. Let me just say that for those of you who think I'm bitter and too picky. I just happen to love myself unconditionally, and I believe in love. There is no bitterness, I have been heart broken and I have broken hearts, it's just life. I have a boyfriend now, and my views have not changed, and I believe that's why he is so into me. He knows that I will not accept less than what I give him in return. He's not where he wants to be in life but he's working damn hard to get there. He's not rich, but if he only has $2.00 to his name, he will share it with me, even if it means to give me all of it. He gives me my space, but we also have plenty of fun together. The sex is the Bomb! He prides hisself on making sure I'm satisfied first. His phone is not ringing at all time of the night from so called female friends. He opens car doors, and he's always respectful. He's strong and makes me feel safe when I'm with him. He has no problem saying whats on his mind. He does not play games or beat around the bush. He's straight up, no chaser. My problems are his, although thats something I have to get use to, because I am used to handling my problems myself. He's not a thug, but has a swagger to him. I waited and I got someone who I am attracted to, someone that's great in the bedroom, and who treats me like a queen and still gives me my space. I wouldn't call it love, but I will call it strong like. If he does not turn out to be the one, I will not be bitter, I will be thankful for the time he did spend in my life and I will move on, and wait some more for someone just as strong. This is all I'm saying people. Love yourself and don't accept something from someone that you would not give them in return. Making any sense? I hope so. Live life to the fullest, don't waste time and energy into something that you know is or was not real. Holla!!!
I'm not here looking for a man. I'm single, but I am a strong believer that a man will find me, not the other way around. I can get a man, it's the man for me that I'm waiting on. I'm not going to lie and say physical appearance does not matter to me, because it does. I want to be attracted and proud to have my man. I put in the work to make myself look good and He should do the same. I'm not going to say that what he has does not matter to me, because it does. I don't want anything from you. I have my own. However, I believe a real man would not be out looking for a woman until he has his own s.h.i.t. together. It doesn't mean you have to be loaded, but you must be at least working hard to get to that goal. I'm not going to lie and say that sex is not important, because it is. I enjoy it just as much as you do, and I'll do my part, but can you do yours? I'm a ride or die chick, meaning if you are my man, I'm with you right or wrong. You are the man, so your word goes. I will play my position as your woman, but you must respect my position as your woman and not abuse or misuse it. These days men and women have reversed roles. Men are out looking for women to take care of them, and women are running around desperate accepting any and everything, just to say they have a man. I'm not going to say that all men and women are like that. Because I know some real good men that are just not made for me., but, will or are making some women very happy, and I know some women who are like me, that support there men and hold there position as a woman down, but does not make themselves easy targets to be taken advantage of. It use to be a time when men chased women, but now, women are chasing men. What is really going on? A real man does not want to be hunted; he wants to be the hunter. Now I will say this for the good men, I know that there are a lot of women out there that use and abuse a good man and then go for the bad boys. But, please understand that from my own experience, it's not always the fact that you're a good man that turns us away, but it's your own insecurities and self doubt. No woman wants a man to be up under her all day, every day, as if there is no world outside the two of you. This goes for the women too. Don't stop your life, just because you're in a relationship. Do things without each other at the hip sometimes. Being around somebody too much will make you take them for granted and you will get bored, at least I do. I want to be able to miss you sometimes. I don't want to have to get into an argument, because I spent 3 days out of the week with you and now I want to go out with the girls and not include you. I'm a person that needs space sometimes. Yes I love to cuddle and go out with my man. But trust me if you make me miss you sometimes, when we get together, our minds will be on a good level for some creative back together again love. I decided to write this because I've been on a few men's page and their all complaining about the games that women play. Well, that's true women do play games, but so do men. It's learned by both sexes when they get their heart broken for the first time. I could have easily fallen into that same category, but I see it all from a different perspective. I don't have time for games; I'm going to tell you the truth, even when it hurts. The question is can you handle the truth. Will you think of me less than a woman if I tell you straight up, I'm not attracted to you, or that I'm just not feeling a connection to you? Or will you respect me for being honest. Now there are some women that are simply no good, just as there are men, but you know yourself that there were signs exposing they were no good before you fell head over heals. We all want what we can't have and that's why not only women, but men also chase the bad ones, and then wonders why or how they could break your heart. I know this because I was that woman, but now I'd rather be lonely, but happy rather than miserable with someone that does not love me the way I love them. This is all a part of life people, so if you fall once, get up and try again. But this time, be mindful of what went wrong the last time, and look out for those signs so that you're not trapped again. Now a snake is a snake, but you can avoid a lot of them if you just look a little closer, and use your head. Listen to your own intuition; it's there for a reason. Holla.
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