On here to pass time at work and have a Little fun! Not here looking to Hook Up with anyone. Just good conversation and the occasional debate!
I think Male/Female relationships are deteriorating and the whole courtship is gone. Females are throwing themselves at males, following them around like little lost puppies, and allowing themselves to be used and abused by them. Females who do this are making the rest of us look bad, giving the Males hope that all women will take their crap, and upsetting the whole order of how a relationship is supposed to go.
Men are our leaders in government, capitalism, and physically. however, WOMEN are the ones with the real, most important power. We rule the home and the standards of society. For example, a society is only as promiscuous and free about sex as the WOMEN are. If Females would set higher standards as to how they are treated, males would behave better. Females give their power up way too easily. In every other species of animal the male has to court the female and show her what he has to offer her before she will give up anything. Why is it a bird can get it right and we can`t?
I have learned three things and found them to be true.
1.) If a man wants you, then he will do what it takes to maintain the relationship. Don`t cater to him if he hasn`t catered to you first. He is the leader. When you strip him of his leadership role, he won`t respect you as much. Allow him to set the tone. Men like the chase if if they don`t admit it.
2.) Never be with a man who doesn`t want you. Cause then he is only using you.
3.) NEVER...EVER...allow someone to be your PRIORITY while allowing yourself to be their OPTION!
Are women who are willing to pamper their men being played?
Speaking with some women they seem to be suggesting that if a woman prefers a traditional relationship role and her man is notpaying all of her bills, that the woman in question is being "played." That statement illustrates the deep divide between young women and mature women in outlook.
Why is it that cooking and cleaning are attached to receiving money (or "paying all your bills")? That`s the mistake that many young women make: The conversation always seems to come around to money. With all things being equal and both sexes being able to take care of themselves financially, what`s wrong with a woman who enjoys pampering her man, even if the way she prefers to do that includes cooking and cleaning? The man is almost certainly giving her something in return, even if it`s not money.
Mature adults who are in secure relationships do not quibble over gender roles because they have already made the decision to give their partner everything they have, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. That may include, but is not limited to, cooking, cleaning, and frequent sex.
Men and women in mature relationships understand that successful relationships are built on mutual respect, integrity, a healthy love life, spiritual commitment, consistent communication, the ability to compromise, sharing of household duties, and a healthy sense of humor. Younger women seem to narrow their focus on what they may find particularly distasteful in a traditional relationship (such as cooking and cleaning) without also looking at the more pleasant trade-offs that occur in a traditional relationship.
My suggestion: Focus on what you would be willing to do for the man you love. You may find that your shift in focus will help change your attitude about relationships.
***The "ghetto" is not a place, it is a mentality. It is the upgraded version of the slave mentality. It can only be eradicated by knowledge and the will and strength to make logical choices.
***There are two types of ignorance: ignorance by itself is when you simply don`t know or understand something. Willful ignorance is denial, whenyou do know something and understand but choose not to act accordingly. Willful ignorance is the worst kind.
***Give a GOOD woman what she wants and she will return the favor...and then some. Women are multipliers; whatever you give us(heaven or hell), we multiply it and give it back to you...so be careful what you give to us.
***What could be more stimulating than thinking about your own life. Introspection and self analysis are valuable tools to self improvement. Self improvement is the way out of mediocrity.
***A wife of noble character is her husband`s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Proverbs 12:4
9 Reasons Why A Man Does NOT Call You BACK!
1. She Lacks Femininity
In our gender war based society, some women have become hard, abrasive and competitive in a manly way. Dealing with these types of females is like talking to or interacting with a man. They lack womanliness and softness, those special qualities attributed to femininity.
Unfortunately, they have become so indoctrinated to be tough like a man; they don`t even realize they have adopted undesirable manly attributes. These types of females are an extreme turn off for any good man.
There`s something attractive and sensual about a true feminine woman. They don¿t talk like Lil Kim, dress like Christina Aguilera or act like Britney Spears, but they have a special essence about themselves that says to an honorable man. She must be a special lady? Women without femininity have an uncanny knack for driving away a good man.
2. She Has The, All Men Are Dogs Syndrome.
Since being with her, he has learned about all of the bad things MEN have done to her. Yes, she has had a string of bad relationships. But she altogether rejects the fact that she chose to be with jerks, pimps, thugs, players, abusers, dogs, ballers and shot callers. Since she is now convinced that ALL MEN ARE DOGS, even when a good man crosses her path, she`s going to see, smell and detect a four-legged mutt!
These type of females wouldn`t acknowledgeagood man if God personally appeared to them ina vision and said. This is my son in whom I`m well pleased! All good men recognize this sinister spirit and destructive attitude. They run from these females before they are unjustly categorized into their flippant generalizations. No good man wants to be talked to or treated like a dog!
3. She Is an Angry Bitter Female
This dangerous group of females take the, All men are dogs, mentality to the next level. They seek to get revenge. They have been in risky relationships and miserable marriages and for their heartbreak and trauma, they are viciously bitter against the ENTIRE male gender.
They hold ALL MEN accountable for what some jerk or dishonorable male did to them. They even punish the men who tried to warn them to stay away from: thugs, pimps, players, users, abusers and freaks. No male escapes his vengeful wrath. With these females forgiveness IS NOT an option. Once they meet a man, their sulphuric acid emotions and hostile feelings towards ALL MALES will eventually scald him. No sane good man will call this type of female back.
4. She Has Children
This may be hard for some single mothers to swallow, but some men simply do not want to raise another man`s child. End of discussion! Whatever their reasons, (i.e., her baby`s mamma drama, misbehaved kids, furor with the baby`s father, etc.) a woman with a child needs to respect their position and leave these men alone!
Don¿t date them! Don¿t get engaged to them! Don¿t try and convince them that they will eventually love your child. And for the love of God, don¿t dare marry this type of man. When a man takes issue with raising another man`s child, he is not a suitable mate for any single mom.
I advise women to always be up front and let a man know if she is a single mother. Don¿t wait a week or a month. Do it immediately! That way, if he is the type of man who does not want toraise another man`s child, she won`t waste either of their time.Her`s, his or the kid`s.
5. She¿s Not The One
She¿s got it together: education, car, house, looks, church and the whole nine yards. But, she¿s not The One for him! She felt something, but he didn`t. Her heart fluttered, but his didn`t. Remember, it takes two to tango. If he doesn`t feel like dancing with you¿ if he doesn`t sense the chemistry, let him go and move on. Don¿t take it personally and don¿t try to force it. Know this for a certainty, True Love will find you!
6. He Perceives She¿s Desperate
Some women will do or say anything to snag a man. Once a man asks them out or once they ask a man out, it`s ON! Everything these females do and say from that point on, screams, and entrapment! They will employ their feminine wiles, manipulation, biological clock, guilt and seductive sex traps to snare him.
As cunning as these females are, their desperation comes forth as a simmering stench. Honorable men are weary of these females and run the other way when they meet them. No call back is warranted!
7. She Has a Storied Past
We live in a society in which females are tricked, pressured, coaxed and lured into expressing their sexuality. In today`s environment, it is not uncommon for a woman to have had 2, 3, 4 or more sex partners prior to getting married. Contrary to what is publicized by the media, music and Hollywood, most honorable men simply won`t take a chance with a woman who has been with a number of sex partners.
Knowing that their potential wife and mother of their children has had sex with Tom, Skeet, Pimp Daddy and King Kong, weighs heavily on a some men`s conscience. It is common for me to meet married men who are greatly disturbed about the fact that their wife had previous sex partners before they married. Regrettably, they never discussed how her past might affect his conscience prior to getting married. Believe it or not, some men refuse to marry a woman unlessshe is a virgin.
When they find out about her storied past, acall back IS NOT an option. That does not mean she won`t find True Love, it just means that because of her sexual past, certain men won¿t find her to be a suitable mate.
8. He Has Not Mobilized Himself For Matrimony
There will be times when you meet what seems to be the perfect man. The chemistry is there. You`re both attracted to each other. You¿re like two peas in a pod, but he has not mobilized himself for matrimony.
Understand this; men and women view marriage differently. When women see marriage, usually the first thing they see is the ring, gown, bride`s maids and that breathtaking glide down the aisle. When men see marriage, the first thing they see is the financial responsibility, the ability or inability to take care of their wife and children.
If an honorable man does not believe he has mobilized his career and finances to handle this responsibility, he usually won¿t call back. No matter how fine, beautiful or smart she is. Contrary to popular belief, it has nothing to do with a fear of commitment or getting cold feet.
The question on a man¿s mind is how am I going to take care of her if we get married? If he doesn`t have the answer to that question right then and there, although she may not understand it, he clearly understands that he has not mobilized himself for matrimony.
9. She¿s Easy As Sunday Morning
Some females have no morals, values or self-respect. They have no qualms about having sex outside of marriage. Including but not limited to: one-night stands, multiple sex partners and cohabiting. These easily swayed females will do and try anything: lesbianism, dancing at strip clubs, orgies, abortions, pornography and drugs. They have no shame.
Once they meet a man, it doesn`t take much for them to agree to have sex or let him know; I want to sex you up! Although these females are magnets for dishonorable males, pimps and players, they still seek out good