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Excuse Me "Sorry" always seems to be the hardest word.... The phase "I'm sorry", in any language, can have a scope of meanings. We utter these words to others if we regret having made a grave mistake, or to express sympathy in the loss of a friend, or even simply as a courtesy for a slight offense. But no matter in what circumstance, at what age, and in which era and nation, the two words that are always hard for most of us to say to another person are,"I'm sorry". I'd like to share some of my guesses about why it may sometimes take so much out of us to admit to having wronged another person. The way I see it, no matter the reasons behind the offense, I still see them as "excuses" rather than the true causes. Pride Blinds Even when we know for sure we were the ones who did something to hurt another person, it's still sometimes difficult for us to apologize to him/her. I wonder if it's because we're just too proud. Maybe we have such a high opinion of ourselves that we always thought we were above the person we offended, so it's OK to mistreat him/her. Perhaps admitting to having wronged the person we disrespect would diminish our value as a human being. Sometimes we make the excuse that it's just not the right time to apologize, when in fact we dont have the intention of apologizing at all....Pride? Or maybe we want to maintain our untarnished image in the eyes of others...Pride? Sometimes we simply dont think the person we hurt is worth it, for us to have to experience that painstaking moment of feeling uncomfortable about ourselves for the sake of someone besides self. Pride does blind our judgement. If pride is the stopper for us to behave in the proper manner, then this would hardly be anything to be proud of. Fear Not Sometimes not being able to admit to someone that "I'm sorry" maybe because we cant even admit it to ourselves first. Maybe we're perfectionists who cant bear to face that we are like everyone else, when it comes to making mistakes. Maybe sometimes it's scary to think that even we cannot have control of our own actions, and that we are also capable of doing sinful deeds. Perhaps it's the fear of the consequences that come after the words "I'm sorry". Or could it be the fear of not knowing how to mend the situation that makes us prefer to treat things as if nothing ever happened? It could even be that we're afraid of coping with the reaction of the other person once the truth is out in the open. Sometimes we could be afraid of having to relive our sin in our own minds before, during, and after the act of apologizing. If fear prevents us from doing the right thing, then the greatest thing to fear would be ourselves. Ignore Ignorance Sometimes we hurt others unknowingly; therefore, we never even know that "I'm sorry" is called for. Sometimes we may intentionally choose to turn a blind eye to what we did, but there are those times when we are truly ignorant that our action was offensive and hurtful. Perhaps we instill our own values of things onto the lives of others, without realizing that the values of self may not apply to the lives of others....Ignorance? Could it be that sometimes we choose to believe what we choose to believe, instead of seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, touching, the whole picture....Ignorance? Or what about those times when we blame others for our own hurtful action to justify the offense, and therefore fool ourselves into believing that we never committed the offense....Ignorance? If ignorance prevents us from knowing what to do, then we should ignore ignorance. ~*~Excuse Yourself~*~ Many of us like to believe that we try in every way possible not to hurt others. Sometimes we even like to believe that we tried our best to mend the situation after the hurtful act has been done, without realizing that our best is sometimes not good enough, because in our heart we dont truly believe that someone has been wronged. Every act of saying "I'm sorry" begins from the heart. The key to saying "I'm sorry" is to truly believe that we provoked ill or hurtful feelings onto someone. Then pride, fear, ignorance, and the other stoppers, would never get in the way of us putting others feelings before our own. Next time, we should "excuse yourself" from all those "excuses", because simply saying "I'm sorry" could add so much humanity into building human relationships. After all, we are no longer infants!  Hiya Blackplanet I Am Originally FromMalaysia Living In Hong 2 The Kong Right Now And Thnx 4 Always Stopped By Showing Some Love Much Appreciate It And You Want To Add Me As A Friend Let's Exchanged Some Notes First I Don't Add Anyone On My List If You Aint About Talk The Talk & Walk The Walk Dont Bother To Send Me A Notes If You Aint About Be True To Urself Then No Need To Waste Your Time Or Mine Ciao |
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