SxyTam28 Talk to Me.. - June 16, 2009 add/view comments (0) |
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Welcome GENTLEMEN........ Thank you for stopping by..... Let's get to know each other a little bit more........Respectively. A....Strong Black Woman.......beyond definition.......NO EXCEPTIONS! "If Its OUR time to LOVE... then let's make it OUR time."........MsTam Few words for the Strong Black Man, Being a strong black woman myself, I think its safe to say that every heterosexual strong black woman needs a good black man. I may get shunned from the Sisterhood of Strong Black Women for going here with you, but were all in this love thing together. So here are six tips for loving a strong black woman. Seriously, these tips will help you to love her for the strong woman that she is, strengthen your bond with one another and resist the urge to allow petty jealousy and competitiveness to ruin your relationship/friendship. Tip #1. Dont Believe The Hype Strong black women want to be in healthy, committed relationships with strong black men. We want men who are good to us and for us, who are purpose-driven, not afraid of commitment, respect themselves and women in general, gainfully employed or at least hitting the pavement daily looking for honest work. The media tries to make us believe that we can do without one another, but we cannot. I dont care if the woman you are jonesin for is a CEO with a PHD and a summer home in the burbs. At the end of the day, shes still a woman with needs, dreams, desires and insecurities. Tip #2. Know the Difference Between A Strong Black Woman and A Misguided Man-ip-ulator A strong black woman will build with you. A misguided man-ip-ulator will try to tear down or take what youve worked hard to build. What kind of woman are you dealing with? Many men say they want a good woman, just as women say they want a good man, but they only go for Halle Berry or Vivica Fox look-a-likes without knowing anything about the womans character. The woman youve got your eye on may have it goin on physically, but is there any depth to her once you get above the sheets? Or, are you caught up in the glitz and glamour trying to prove your worth? Tip #3. Be Grounded In Who You Are Know your value and worth as a man. Not according to the worlds system, but according to Gods system. What are your gifts and assets? How do you contribute to your job, family, community, humanity? What intellectual, social, spiritual and emotional currency do you bring to the table? Knowing the answers to these questions will keep you grounded in who you are. And there's nothing more sexier or stimulating than a confident brother who knows who he is, whose he is and where he's headed. Tip #4. Champion Her Success A strong black woman needs to know that youve got her back, that you believe in her dreams, and will support her in her mission. Her success does not diminish yours. It enhances it. Become part of her dream team. Listen to her ideas. Give her feedback. Support her as she pursues her goals. If you do this for her, she will do the same for you and together you will be unstoppable. Tip #5. Lead and She Will Join You Strong black women, need visionary men. Even if all the pieces arent clear yet, if she sees you have a vision for yourself and your family and you are serious about living your vision, she will get on board. Tip #6. Make It Safe for Her To Take Off the Super Woman Cape Every woman needs the space to be vulnerable. Black women havent had the luxury of being able to be vulnerable because more often than not we have to fight to get what we want, work harder to be considered half as good and shout in order to be heard. And if were raising our children alone, we have to be strong so our children can get what they need to succeed. We strong black women would like to take off our capes, but we have to be certain that the men we share our hearts, our lives and our beds with, wont exploit our vulnerabilities, rub our issues in our face, betray us or use our insecurities to keep us from believing and dreaming. I LOVE MY BLACK MEN........... Please men......start LOVING AGAIN and DO IT RIGHT!! Respect your BLACK WOMAN!!..........WE GOT YOUR BACK!! I'M A BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMAN.......FIRST..LAST AND ALWAYS....RESPECT THAT!! IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO KNOW MORE ABOUT ME.....SEND ME AN INTELLIGENT NOTE.... THANKS, MSTAM....   Too Black!! TOO BLACK
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