The solution to the lack of communication is to have good communication. But the question is: *How* do we communicate with each other? In order for two people to solve problems, they've got to have discussions. How those discussions are conducted plays a vital part in how the relationship unfolds.

I now propose a solution to the communication problem. This proposal lies in 5 steps, each of which must be followed accordingly and simultaneously.


STEP ONE: The volume of our voices should be soft enough so that the other person can hear us.

For example, if 2 people are in a room by themselves together, and they are 2 meters apart, then their voices should be at a volume that covers no more than that distance. This rule applies to public settings as well. Two people who are 1 foot away from each other in a place where others are 5 or 6 feet away ought to converse in a volume that spans one foot. The consequence of speaking in a volume higher than the distance required for the other to hear it triggers a reaction to back away. Speaking in a volume lower than the distance required for the other to hear it triggers a reaction to come closer. Speaking in a volume which is the same as the distance required for the other to hear it triggers a reaction to continue listening. This is the volume that must be spoken in order to produce the most beneficial results.


STEP TWO: We never interrupt each other. Instead, use polite body language to let the other person know that you want to speak.

Assuming two people can see each other during conversation, it's essential to not interrupt while the other person is talking. Instead, use your body language to trigger their eyes to recognize the fact that you have something to say. For example, allow your hands to make a significant change in direction either by shifting them in position or raising them in a polite way. Assuming the person is looking your way (see STEP 6) that person should be able to recognize your motion for attention and intent to speak. If two people can't see each other (such as a phone conversation), then simply do not interrupt each other. If a man and woman say something at the same time on the phone, it is customary for the man to stop, say "Excuse Me", and allow the woman to speak first out of politeness. However, this custom can be reversed if the man and woman agree upon it.


STEP THREE: We listen to what we have to say, and we let each other get our point across.

This step involves STEP TWO because it may take more than one exchange for a person to get his or her point across. The other must listen to understand the point. Then use STEP TWO to ask questions and clarify the issue. Once the point is made, it is now the other person's turn. The goal (challenge!) here is for the listener to be able to understand the point without interrupting the speaker's train of thought. This is just like STEP TWO, but at another level. STEP TWO deals with taking turns speaking while STEP THREE deals with taking turns getting points across. So, while each person is letting each other get their points across, there should be no interruption of making the point as well as no interruption of speaking. Now, once the point is made, it is the other person's turn to make his or her point. This process occurs until the problem is solved or a compromise is reached (STEP FOUR).


STEP FOUR: We continue the discussion as long as it is necessary to resolve conflict and compromise.
NOTE 1: If there is an immediate deadline, we both work to compromise.
NOTE 2: If there is no immediate deadline, we both discuss as long as necessary until problem is solved or compromise is reached.
The summation of STEP ONE through STEP THREE should be followed simultaneously for best results.


STEP FIVE: We take breaks when necessary, and not necessarily when we want.

This can be a challenge for a discussion happening between one who wants to discuss later and one who wants to discuss now. The solution here would be to examine STEP FOUR and see if there is an immediate deadline. An agreement must be made as to whether or not there is a deadline, and what that deadline is if there is one. Once that agreement has been made, a discussion should occur that allows both people to agree to take a break. These two discussions (discussion of step four, and then discussing a break) is a vital step that will ease many tensions and urges to hurry up. The compromise in both discussions may not be what either wants, but both will understand that each is being flexible.


STEP SIX: We make eye contact.

Assuming both people can see each other during the discussion, eye contact should be made. There should be no obstructions (bedposts, lamps, etc. ) in the way. Other obstructions to eye contact include the back of head and a door. The two people should be facing each other and looking at each other dead on. For best results, both noses should be pointing toward each other while talking. Both noses should be viewed in a symmetrical fashion (no one side of nose more visible than the other). When this happens, it usually follows that the eyes will therefore be in a position to look at each other dead on. The consequence of not looking directly face to face is that one side of the face will not be fully seen, and therefore that person's entire expression cannot be processed by your brain. This leads to simple misunderstandings that can be easily overcome if only the two people would just look at each other in the fashion described above.

ADDITIONAL STEPS TO OPTIMIZE THE DISCUSSION PROCESS:
1. No put-downs, name calling or cuss words allowed.
2. Do not say "Stupid" or "Dumb". Instead, use words like "Not smart" or "Inefficient", or "I disagree."


The solution to the communication problem lies in reforming the discussion process. I have proposed a solution that greatly improves the likelihood of understanding between two people who are at an initial misunderstanding.

See with your eyes
Smell with your mouth
Taste with your skin
Feel with your ears
Hear with your thoughts
See with your mouth
Smell with your skin
Taste with your ears
Feel with your thoughts
Think with your nose
See with your ears
Smell with your nose
Taste with your thoughts
Feel with your eyes
Hear with your nose
Think with your skin
Smell with your eyes
Feel with your nose
Hear with your mouth
Think with your ears
Taste with your eyes
Feel with your mouth
Hear with your skin
Think with your thoughts
See with your skin
Smell with your ears
Taste with your nose
Feel with your skin
Hear with your ears
See with your nose
Taste with your mouth

Willpower - knowledge - capability - time.

These are the four defining parameters that must be fulfilled for a task to be completed. ALL 4 parameters MUST be fulfilled. If one fails, then the task is not completed. The TEAM must fulfill all of these parameters. If you are a team of ONE, then you must meet all of these parameters for the task to be completed. If you are a team of more than one, then each TOGETHER must fulfill ALL parameters. The parameters are possessed or held by entities. Entities can be a person, group, business, institution, government, or a physical or virtual network.

POINT ZERO: A successful leader knows the difference between "We need to complete the task" and "The task needs to be completed".

When the first thing someone says is "I need to complete the task" or "We need to complete the task", then the task will not likely be completed. This is because the person has not expanded his or her perspective to identify the people who meet the parameters. The leader must instead say "The task needs to be completed." This thinking leaves an opportunity for the leader to identify the priorities of steps for task completion. Instead of getting a couple of people together and saying "Let's consolidate platinum mine cash flows and divert to AIDS research" the leader must say "The task that needs to be completed is to consolidate platinum mine cash flows and divert to AIDS research". The leader must complete a task using the following steps.

1. Clearly identify the task that needs to be completed.
2. Identify the sources of each parameter. (Entities are sources. Entities can be a person, group, business, institution, government, or a physical or virtual network.)
3. Identify how much of each parameter is needed. Revise the task if necessary. If revised, start over.
4. Use abundant parameters to make up for parameter shortfalls. (Example: Use excess willpower to increase knowledge.)
5. Realize that when all shortfalls are eliminated, then all parameters are met.
6. Facilitate the interaction between those who contain the parameters. (Example: Tell the willpower to convince the capability to complete the task within a specified time while using knowledge to maximize efficiency.)
7. Manage parameter dynamics until task is completed. (Example: Search for replacements in shortfalls of parameters.)

STEP ONE: A successful leader knows how to identify a task that needs to be completed.

The successful leader should be able to identify a task in the following ways:

1. Clearly state what the task is.
2. Be as specific as possible.
3. Know the reasons behind the task so that the big picture will be maintained if the task is revised.

In this example, for the sake of simplicity, we will say that this task is specific and the reasons are clear. "Consolidate platinum mine cash flows and divert to AIDS research".

STEP TWO: A successful leader knows how to identify the sources or entities that have these parameters.

A successful leader can identify sources or people who meet some or all of these parameters. A leader will be able to determine if a person has one, two, three or all four of these parameters. For example, if the task is to "Consolidate platinum mine cash flows and divert to AIDS research" then

1. The leader must identify CAPABILITY, or entities capable of completing the task. For the current example, this will be the people or company who owns the mine because it is the company who is capable of extracting platinum and producing cash flows, and it is the company who is capable of directing those cash flows to AIDS research.
2. The leader must identify TIME, or entities that have time to complete the task. In this case, time is identified when the leader sees people or firms willing to dedicate weeks or months to convince the company and its stakeholders to shift their priorities of cash flow. Note that time can also be identified by the half life of the mine, or when a threshold of humans on earth with AIDS is reached. Don't be fooled. At first, it may seem like the company has time. But remember that if AIDS research is not on the company's prioritized time schedule, then the company will therefore not have time. If you don't take time to do something, you will never have time to do anything.
3. The leader must identify KNOWLEDGE, or entities with knowledge of how to complete the task. For this example, the knowledge will be identified when the leader finds someone who knows the bureaucratic structure of the company, and what logistics must be carried out so that the consolidations and diversions can take place with maximum efficiency. This person can be the CEO of the company.
4. The WILLPOWER is identified when the leader finds those who agree that the task should be completed. In our case, these entities can be Non-Governmental Organizations (NGOs) and AIDS research foundations.

STEP THREE AND FOUR: A successful leader knows how much of each parameter is needed for the task to be completed.

The identification of sources for each parameter will allow the leader to determine how much of each parameter is needed to complete the task. This is why the leader must identify the parameter sources BEFORE seeing how much capability, knowledge, willpower and time is needed. In determining the size of each parameter:

1. The leader must use each source to establish more sources. The leader can use initially identified knowledge, willpower, capability, and time to find more sources for all 4 parameter types. In our example, suppose the leader found one NGO in favor of AIDS funding by platinum mine cash flows (WILLPOWER), one mine company (CAPABILITY), and 7 months of available solicitation potential by another NGO in which the AIDS issue is not high on their priority list (TIME). Then the leader can ask the CEO (KNOWLEDGE) for other platinum mining companies that might have AIDS research high on their priority list. The leader can ask the NGOs if they know of any other organizations that support AIDS research being funded by platinum mining companies. Or perhaps the leader can broaden KNOWLEDGE by considering natural resource companies rather than platinum resource mines.
2. The leader must acquire vast sources of parameters to complete some tasks. For the sake of TIME and efficiency, the leader may consider revising the task. In our example, the leader may find it useful to revise the task to something like "Consolidate natural resource mine cash flows and divert to AIDS research" instead of "Consolidate platinum mine cash flows and divert to AIDS research". If the leader revises the task, then the steps of task completion must be restarted.
3. Establishing and acquiring more sources will allow the leader to realize just how much sources are actually needed. Let's assume that the leader stayed with his original task. The leader may find that the CEO knows of a smaller platinum company in South America willing to consider "public service" in their cash flow line item statement. The leader can talk to the CEO in South America and try to determine what it would take to replace or add "AIDS research" to their cash flow statement. The accessibility of the CEO and stakeholders will determine how much power the leader can call upon the NGOs to exert on the platinum mining company. The leader can ask the NGO with 7 months solicitation time to begin a targeted campaign promoting AIDS research. If AIDS research is not high on their list, then the leader can facilitate a compromise between NGOs with similar interests. The leader can also call upon AIDS research foundations to do a targeted campaign.

STEP FIVE: A successful leader knows that when all shortfalls are eliminated, then the parameters are met.

The parameters are met when all shortfalls are eliminated. In our case, the leader will be able to identify all met parameters based on the agenda and accessibility or inaccessibility of the CEO or stakeholders, the compromise between NGOs, and the campaign time and budget of AIDS research foundations. As a quick identification recap exercise, we see that KNOWLEDGE is held by the CEOs of BOTH platinum mining companies, TIME is 7 months or more held by AIDS research foundations and NGOs, WILLPOWER is held by the NGOs and AIDS research foundations, and CAPABILITY is held by the platinum mining company in South America.

STEP SIX: A successful leader knows how to facilitate the interaction between those who contain the parameters.

The leader must be able to have entities execute properly. The leader must use discretion when facilitating action from the parameter holders. This discretion is derived from knowing how much of each parameter is needed for the task to be completed. In the example, the leader may ask for different begin dates for each targeted campaign. The leader may also wish to monitor stakeholder agenda during the targeted campaign to determine times to implement variations in campaign strategy.

STEP SEVEN: A successful leader will know how to manage parameter dynamics until task is completed.

There seems to be a fine line between daily observance and comprehensive reflection (hereunto referred to as analysis). Daily observance involves gathering data, and knowledge rather than focused analysis. Or at least it appears to be that way to me. I seem to be holding onto this perspective because I perceive within myself a lack in ability to perform simultaneous data gathering and analysis. For instance, my eyes are aimed towards writing these words rather than focusing on my surroundings. My attention is therefore devoted to one task (analysis) more than the other (observation), correct? If that is correct, then how can I approach simultaneity? How can I perform both actions at not only 100% capacity, but at an ever-increasing, ever-improving performance level? Two things come to mind.

First, by writing these words, for example, my central eye focus is on the paper, leaving the gathering of data, knowledge, and wisdom to my peripheral vision, touch, taste, smell, hearing, and thought. This allows me room to enhance my other sensory systems, thereby giving me opportunity to increase observance performance technique. I liken this enhancement method to the book of Corinthians concerning the strengthening of the body of Christ via strengthening the parts independently. Independent strengthening of the parts yields increases in the strength of the whole, all towards the edification of God. Therefore all things strengthened must be strengthened to the glory of Christ, making the whole body Christ-like. In this case, the strengthening of sensory components (natural and spiritual) should be strengthened to the glory of Christ simultaneously, yet with independent attention given to each. How is this possible? How can I improve my components independently, yet simultaneously? If I focus on one, I perceive I lose focus on the other, so what can I do to improve myself in this seemingly paradoxical fashion? The answer seems to be the following: At least 100% attention must be given to each component at any given time. This requires omnipresence, which, to my knowledge, can only be achieved by God inside the spiritual and natural realms. Am I able to achieve omnipresence within myself? Is my mind able to achieve omnipresence in my physical body as well as spiritual body? Realizing the fact that my spiritual body must be one with the body of Christ allows me to believe that Jesus has the ability to both control these components through my mind and control these components independently of my mind. This will be true if I choose to have Jesus enter my heart, soul, and mind in the first place. Realizing these things, it is therefore inhumanly possible to perform the said paradoxical improvement technique, yet spiritually possible through the belief of Christ. If Christ is controlling my every move (by my choice), then why am I attempting to improve that which is perfect (Christ working through my body)? I study these improvement techniques because I know that I am not perfect. There is always room for improvement in my life.

How to Optimize the Learning Process

An optimized learning process will allow for accelerated understanding within relatively shorter periods of time. A human being initiates and continues the learning process by internally synthesizing data, knowledge, and wisdom (information) through natural and supernatural senses. The rate and efficiency of the learning process is thus directly dependent upon how robust the internal synthesis process is. Therefore, in order to optimize the learning process, one must enhance the robustness of internal synthesis.

So, the question is: How does an entity enhance one's own internal synthesis? The answer is to increase the ranges of expression recognition and expressive capability. This range increase must occur because expression intake and output are directly associated with communication between other entities. These other entities contain within themselves information which has been gathered over time. This information is usually transmitted between entities through a medium called expression. In order to increase the range of expression recognition and expressive capability, one must examine its properties.

The properties of expression are the same regardless of the type of entity in question (i.e. whether or not the entity is a person, group, business, institution, government, or a physical or virtual network). Expressive capability is an entity's ability to successfully transmit information such that the receiving entity is able to internally synthesize and thus learn that which is being transmitted. Expression recognition is an entity's ability to recognize an expression that is transmitted from another entity, as well as the ability to learn that information which is being transmitted. The properties of both expressive capability and expression recognition consist of intra-dimensional and extra-dimensional senses: Five intra-dimensional senses will be discussed because they lie inside the 3^rd dimension. Multiple extra-dimensional senses are most likely present, but only 1 will be discussed here (thought).

Expansion of Expressive Capability and Expression Recognition

The range of expressive capability and expression recognition can be extended using 3 main methods. The first method is to increase the combination of senses. The second method is to extend the range of each sense individually. The use of methods 1 and 2 yields enhanced internal synthesis and thus further optimizes the learning process. Method 3, which is to combine both methods 1 and 2, further optimizes the learning process.

Method 1 Increase Combination of Senses

This section lists all of the possible combinations of senses 1 through 6. Senses 1 through 6 can be combined in 2s, 3s, 4s and 5s. Number and label your 5 natural senses, and label your 6^th sense thought. Now combine the senses using the following combinations - The 2s combinations are: 1 2 & 1 3 & 1 4 & 1 5 & 1 6 & 2 3 & 2 4 & 2 5 & 2 6 & 3 4 & 3 5 & 3 6 & 4 5 & 4 6 & 5 6. Total number of 2s combinations is fifteen. The 3s combinations are: 1 2 3 & 1 2 4 & 1 2 5 & 1 2 6 & 1 3 4 & 1 3 5 & 1 3 6 & 1 4 5 & 1 4 6 & 1 5 6 & 2 3 4 & 2 3 5 & 2 3 6 & 2 4 5 & 2 4 6 & 2 5 6 & 3 4 5 & 3 5 6 & 4 5 6. Total number of 3s combinations is nineteen. The 4s combinations are: 1 2 3 4 & 1 2 3 5 & 1 2 3 6 & 1 2 4 5 & 1 2 4 6 & 1 2 5 6 & 1 3 4 5 & 1 3 4 6 & 1 3 5 6 & 1 4 5 6 & 2 3 4 5 & 2 3 4 6 & 2 3 5 6 & 2 4 5 6 & 3 4 5 6. Total number of 4s combinations is fifteen. The 5s combinations are: 1 2 3 4 5 & 1 2 3 4 6 & 1 2 3 5 6 & 1 2 4 5 6 & 1 3 4 5 6 & 2 3 4 5 6. Total number of 5s combinations is six. Hence 55 possible combinations exist for senses 1 through 6. Knowing how and when to use each combination as well as knowing which combinations to recognize is an art which must be perfected by the entity. Awareness and application of these combinations is the key to optimizing your learning process. It is left up to the reader to imagine examples pertaining to expressive capability and expression recognition in regards to these sense combinations.

Method 2 Extend Range of Each Sense Individually

The range of senses 1 through 6 can be enhanced. This section lists various ways to enhance the 6 senses.

Sight - For Expressive Capability, improve upon the language outputted by the body, hands, and face. These three areas are places of greatest observation. For Expression Recognition, consume foods containing Vitamins A B C D E, Quercetin, Pantothenic Acid, Lutein, Zeaxanthin, Beta Carotene, and Omega 3 Fatty Acids. Have plenty of relaxation and exercise. Observe others body language, facial expression, and hand movements. Those three are areas of greatest visual expression.

Hearing - For Expressive Capability, learn and perfect your skills at new instruments of sound. For Expression Recognition, Reduce earphone use because such activity increases bacteria count near the cochlea and drum. To achieve lower frequency ranges, listen for anomalies in atmospheric pressure. To achieve higher frequency ranges, listen for silence.

Taste - For Expressive Capability, extend the permutations and combinations of tastes you find attractive to you, and present them to others. For Expression Recognition, drink water and brush tongue to cleanse taste buds. Consume antioxidants to increase life and healing process associated with abrasions received by buds during chewing. Moderate the strong spices to preserve sensitivity. Avoid foreign objects and foods that dull flavor recognition. Consult your doctor before beginning a diet plan.

Smell - For Expressive Capability, smell good. For Expressive Recognition, avoid breathing extreme temperatures. Combine this sense with thought in order to enhance event association and memory.

Touch - For Expressive Capability, get plenty of exercise. Consume antioxidants, especially Vitamin A E and Omega 3 Fatty Acids. Use appropriate topical applications in moderation. Consult your doctor for topical medication plans. Natural lotions are usually the best to use. For Expression Recognition, drink plenty of water so that the skin becomes supple and conducive to pressure. J

Thought - For Expressive Capability, establish a solid value system deeply rooted in love and compassion. Ask questions to expand your comfort zone. For Expression Recognition, measure the meaning of questions asked and things said with reference to love and compassion. Simultaneously observe the intra-dimensional senses individually or in combination to reinforce received thoughts.

Method 3 Combine Methods 1 and 2

To combine the suggestions in Method 2 with the 55 combinations of Method 1 will yield tremendous increases in expressive capability and expression recognition. The result will be enhanced internal synthesis of information which will ultimately lead to an optimized learning process.

Expand your reality. Look beyond your dreams. Increase your strength in hope, and increase your hope in strength. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.

Asking yourself the hard questions is the process of peeling back the tough layers of your heart. Therefore, ask yourself the hard questions. Try to answer them. Ask God to help you answer those questions. Remember to talk with God, not at God. Prayer is a conversation between you and God. One must listen as well as talk.

There is a distinction between saying the same thing a different way, and saying something different the same way. Know that distinction, and expand your mind to encompass this understanding.

Strengthen your strengths with weaknesses and strengthen your weaknesses with strengths. Do not neglect your weak areas. Use your surplus talents to strengthen your weak areas. Also, do not take for granted the strengths you have. Take the lessons you learn from your weaknesses and apply them to your strengths. When you do this, you will improve upon your strengths.

Gain strength by looking to the future. It is possible to go beyond your dreams. Therefore, look beyond your dreams. Look for the miracles. They are all around you. See the opportunities that you are going towards, and notice the opportunities that are coming towards you.

Fear not the pain going towards your heart, and fear not the pain already inside your heart. Smile because the good will outlast the pain in the end.

Do not worry. Do not frown. Smile always inside yourself. Care for people. Come to an understanding of the pain of others. Always talk with God, and God will talk with you. Always walk with God, and God will walk with you.

Do not be afraid to ask for help.
Do not be afraid to be asked for help.
Do not be afraid to help another.
Do not be afraid to be helped by another.

If you don't take time to do something, you will never have time to do anything.

Welcome the possibilities of the future with open arms because you are the one who can make them wonderful. The possibilities of the future will become wonderful if you make them to be so.

Gaining happiness during your journey is just as important as gaining it after. Never be sad in your travels, but be happy about where you are going.

The golden road to success is paved with compassion for others. Say I love you to those whom you love, and love those whom you do not love.