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Appreciating Nature
I am a mature, intelligent, sexy, attentive, easy-going romantic. There are many things that bring joy to me, such as... reading, music, theatre, latin dancing, movies, water sports, traveling, quiet moon-lit nights on a beach, drag racing, deep conversations, surfing the web, boating and scuba diving, poetry slams, football and basketball, kissing succulent lips. :-) But, I definitely enjoy doing these things with a special someone (especially the lips part!). I am a vegetarian so I don't do very many steak houses or such.
Smoking and/or heavy drinking doesn't interest me. What am I looking for in a partner? I am looking for a non-smoking, social or non-drinker. I'm not looking for instant gratification. My dear Queen... although I am quite flattered by flirting and enjoy a mysterious woman, please take the time to send a real message and have an up-to-date photo. I have been burnt to a crisp by veracity-challenged ladies and I have no desire to be singed and o'so crispy again! PHYSICAL PREFERENCES: 5'3" - 6'1" / 120lbs - 175lbs / weight proportionate to height. I am NOT trying to insult anyone, but I like what I like! I'd like to add Ultimately, I am looking for a Ruby Dee and Ossie Davis kind of relationship! I would like for her to be just as comfortable in an evening gown as a pair of jeans. She has to not mind staying up half the night talking about everything under the sun and moon. This woman must have already done her bit to replenish the world's population. If she has children they must be at least teens who can be alone for a few hours or weekend. She must be very inquisitive and ready to learn as well as teach. She must know something about her culture and be family oriented. Natural hair is a definite turn-on. I love to run my fingers through locs, braids, naps, etc. NOTE: Although I have no problem having male
friends, those males who are seeking more than friendship...
FAHGETABOUTIT! YES... THIS MEANS YOU! Why I refuse to accept friendship invitations from people who have no information about themselves on their page If a stranger walks up to you on the street and out of the blue says "let's be BFFs" would you accept? I don't think so! Especially if they want to know all about you while giving you no information about themself. I can imagine that you would probably look at this person as if they were crazy! Because THEY ARE!!! You know absolutely nothing about this person! This is how I feel about someone wanting to be my friend but has an empty page! The woman has seen my page, read it and obviously saw something she likes! I on the other hand, have seen nothing on which to base a friendship. I choose my friends wisely and take my friendships seriously! NOTE: I check the scammer sites before I respond to anyone writing or IMing from outside the USA! If found on one of the sites I turn over all information, including IP address, to Interpol. Additionally, I do not answer messages or IMs from those who have no information or photos on their page. I am much too mature to be playing peek-a-boo! A Pledge To My Queens and Goddesses I AM a Strong Black man and as such . . .I will speak to women as human beings, not as potential sex partners, not as someone with less value than myself, not someone I must dominate in order to validate my manhood. I will not plan out how I can get a woman into bed before I even introduce myself. I will not judge a woman's beauty, worth or value by the length of her hair, the length of her fingernails, the roundness of her behind or the size of her feet, and most importantly, the color of her skin, just as I would not want to be judged by the length of my %#&@$!, the size of my wallet, the car I drive, or the amount of money I make. I will make every effort to make sure women know that they are safe when they are in my presence. I will not touch, grope, or physically intimidate them and I will not make unwanted sexual advances towards them. I will NOT strike, restrain, or threaten a woman. I will accept that if a woman says no, she means she's not interested in me sexually and that is her right. I will never force a woman to have sex with me. I will ask my women friends, sisters and acquaintances what makes them feel undervalued, unappreciated and objectified and I will listen closely and make efforts to correct those things that I do wrong. When a woman tells me something is insensitive, demeaning, or offensive, I will not dismiss it immediately as male bashing. I will take her critique just as I would expect someone to consider mine. I will find something other than a woman's looks to compliment her about. I will make note of her intellect, her personality, her ideas, her imagination, and her accomplishments. I will acknowledge that my mother, sister, and daughters are black women, deserving of respect, and I will work to treat ALL Black women as I would have other men treat the women in my life. I will accept responsibility for my wrongdoings, I will not lie in an attempt to get away with my misdeeds, I will apologize when I've done something wrong and I will deal with the consequences of my actions by facing them head on. I will not partake in conversations with other men when they are ridiculing women's looks, bodies, or opinions. I will remove the words %#&@$!, ho, trick, chicken head, and all other derogatory references toward women from my vocabulary because I recognize them to be sexist and degrading. I will not refer to sex with a woman as hitting it, killing it, stabbing it, or anything that has violent connotations nor will I diminish the humanity of a woman by referring to sex with her as getting "it" or getting "some". I will not define my manhood by the length of my %#&@$!, I will define my manhood as fulfilling promises I keep, in having integrity, in choosing mature solutions to problems and how I can be honest even when it's difficult. I will speak out when I see other men disrespecting women. I will honor my daughters as much as my sons. I will not refer to myself as a pimp, a dog, a thug, or a baller because I will not let racist stereotypes define me. I will learn how to communicate my feelings rather than deny I have them or trying to suppress them with sex, drugs, adrenaline, or alcohol. Copyright 2007 Scottie Lowe |
