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Why cant people fine happiness? Can it be that happiness is a paradox? How do we define such profound words, like love, happiness, and hate? These words are all subjective but inter connected. I am happy because i am blessed to wake up each day. I am happy because i am very aware of the fact that know matter how bad i might think things are for me, their are millions of people who are in conditions far worst than anything that i can imagine. I am blessed because i have a great daughter who means more to me than life. This whole country is so full of drama. Its is so thick you can cut it with a knife. Most of us have been throughly indoctrinated into the hate and drama, that they dont know they are crazy and deranged. You cant fix it if you dont know its broken. I have spent many years trying to pruge hate out of my existance. For this reason I simply refuse to allow anyone to dictate or define the parameters of my happiness. If you like it  i love it, what ever floats your boat as long as you are not hurting anyone. Every where you look there is constante drama. Everywhere from TV news with their negative stereotyping of black men, to Nancy Grace tripping about missing white girls. Its all over the talk shows, and reality tv.

     We wonder why we cant seem to find the right mate. We have unrealist expectations. I hear women on the talk shows making blanket statements about there are not any good black men available, or they are all in jail, or gay. Whats your difinition of a good man? Make a list then number everything on the list from most important to least. Your list will tell you what your problem is. We all suffer from the same juvenile tendacy of wanting the eye candy. What is amazing to me is why we tend to keep running our heads into  the same rock again and again? You would think that after 10 or 15 yrs you learn from your mistakes.  Well i have,lol I  really dont care how good a woman looks, thats not paramount as far as i am concerned. I dont care how much money she has, i dont care if she can suck start the space shuttle, if baby is crazy and deranged i simply keep it moving. This comes with maturity some of my brothers can only see a sexy body ,thats it and thats all. If a woman acts  Pro jectified well thats a red flag. I got to keep it moving. I know that she is nothing but drama, i am violently allergic to drama. Now i am not hating on all those people who love it. I simply dont have the time to committ to that sort of ignorance. Now there are a lot of projectified people out here who dont know it. Both men and woman have the same issues.

    What is most important to me in a relationship is the ability to communicate. This sounds like something very basic after all we all speak the same language right? Hell Knawllll we speak in one language and hear in another? Whats up with that? When people can talk to each other then you can solve any problem. If i say one thing and you hear something totally different from what i said, thats a red flag. You know i was watching a movie with a woman as she asked me if i thought the woman on the movie was cute? I told her yes she was cute, then baby snapped saying, so i guess you want to sleep with her? lol I got my butt up grabbed her coat and put her crazy and deranges behind out of my house.   She called a few days later trying to apologize, i was done. Another time i met a nice woman at work, she worked in the lunch room it was cool she was sexy and nice. We talked when ever i went in there for lunch. One day i came in there with my lunch box and only got something to drink, she gave me the cold shoulder. I mean she acted as thought i did something wrong. So after about 3 days of this crap i asked her why she was tripping all of the sudden? She came to my table then told me that i had lied to her. So i sitting there wondering what in the hell she was talking about. She told me that i lied to her about having a woman and being single. I assured her that i was single and that i did not have a woman. This chick told me that because i had a lunch box i had to have a woman fixing my lunch. So she simply put 2 and 2 together and come up with 5. All i could see was a big X right in the middle of her fore head. How dumb is that? I am a grown man when i get tired of eating the same food i pack a lunch when it get tired of packing a lunch i go out for lunch. Thats crazy and she was fine enought to stop air traffic, but i had to keep it moving. She showed the crazy signs, and i got off at da next stop.