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I had to make a few "additions" and "deletions" to my page, only because I have grown within myself over the last several months, and my last page really did not depict the present "ME" I am not going to attempt to s-p-e-l-l every detail out, but I am willing to give a crash-course. Care to come along?



I would like to begin, by saying thank you to all the people that FAITHFULLY keep in touch with me, and I would like to apologize to those I have FAILED. I hope that when you make your journey around the planet that you take the time to REALLY look deep into the mind of the person you are visiting. I can tell by the notes that I receive that several of you neglect to read and absorb the entire "ME."



I need to STRESS that I am not Bi or even curious. I love my sistah s, but only in a Godly way. I am a heterosexual woman. I desire the touch, smell, comfort and firmness of a man. I do not get down NO OTHER WAY. So please quit asking.



I really need to say this for the present and those that are not quite certain if they want to entertain a woman such as myself. Plain and simple if you cannot deal with the fact that I have three children that NEED me to be their mom all day everyday. Then continue your search elsewhere. I am not about to mistreat or neglect my children or get on an emotional roller coaster for a man, that only wants his needs met. I understand that dating a woman with children is not an easy task however, it is what you make it.



With any relationship (platonic or intimate) it takes time to work out the kinks and to find a comfortable fit. I am willing to give what it takes to have a man and KEEP him, but do not put all the work on me.



I need to address this next topic for myself, as well as other women that I am sure have had this same issue.



Men if you do meet a woman here on the planet. That you vibe with and she has kids. DO NOT I repeat DO NOT be making plans to move her in to your home, or vice versa until you learn some key things like:



1) Her real name...not her BP name

2) Her favorite foods

3) Her food allergies

4) Her favorite color

5) The name of her "three" not "two" children

6) Find out if she likes you

7) Find out if she knows your real name...and not your BP name

8) Explain to her that you have "three" children, but only know the whereabouts of "one"



I had to beak it down because I have met some really fine gentlemen on here and they were ready to make me their "bride" at least that is what their mouths were saying, but they had not learned a darn thing about me. I DO want to be married!!!!



However, I think some people are just excited by the whole act and not really evaluating it. Being a single parent is so very difficult; you cannot just up and make a life changing decision like that without careful planning. I want that man to be a good fit for me, as well as my kids. We are a COMPLETE package I cannot be selfish and make just myself happy. SO PLEASE give that woman some space because if she has been alone for some time like myself. She is going to be overwhelmed by the fact that a man has looked at her twice, not to mention that he sees her as wife material. Trust, that I believe that men should "seek" their bride, but do not be turned off by her taking her time to weigh all the scenarios that comes along with being a mother.



On to another lil sumtin that works my last stable nerve. Men, men, men...I know there are a lot of beautiful women that make you lose your mind. Be careful, not to pass a good woman by because your heartstrings are being tugged, by an image.



That goes for the sistah`s too. I just do not understand it! Do you not realize that there is much more to love? Make sure you put all things in perspective. Yes, he or she may "talk" a good game, but can they really compete?



Are you compromising what "feels" good to you? Are you hoping that all the flaws that you have expressed will go away? Do you have comfort that what you have shared with this person is regarded on high? Does that person take time, to make you feel SPECIAL?



If you said sort of...or you had to coach them...then you have placed your heart on a skewer to be roasted! I hope you have plenty of band-aids and a whole lot of antiacid.



Ok, YES!!! I am guilty too. Nevertheless, I have learned to place value in other things such as:



1) Does he believe in God, and what it means to be a MAN?

2) Is providing for his family PRIORITY?

5) Will he raise a hand to me?

6) Will he honor his vows?

7) Does my opinion matter?

8) Does he have an opinion?

9) What are his goals?

10) Will he be my strong arm?

11) Does he realize gravity will have an impact on "ME?" *smile*



I am not here to find my life partner. If I happen to meet a man that is: loving, in-love with the commitment of family, if he is ambitious, kind, supportive, patient, relaxed, excited, spontaneous and above all GOD FEARING!!!! Then, I will seize the moment! I was told some years back, that I am the PRIZE...and I deserve to be won. That has stuck with me over the years. Now please do not mistake my honesty for arrogance or conceit. I am far from any of those things. Just knock on my door if you would like to know more about "ME"



Nothing else about "ME" has changed. I like basketball, my favorite basketball team, is the Knicks (my friend and I argue over this constantly, he is a Lakers fan) Yuck! My favorite football team is the Cowboys!!! I know I know they got issues, but don`t we all? In my spare time (which doesn`t happen often) I read novels, I try to read one per week (this has not happened in some time). I love to try new recipes. Trust that a sistah can cook!!!!! That would be why I am on a constant diet.



While I wish I could take credit for the quotes on my page, I cannot. So, please feel free to copy whatever you like! I feel that God uses us at times, to speak to the spirits of others.



I am happy to report that I have met several kind people since I joined BP! However, there are some that don`t follow their own advice, ya know the ones always yelling "keep it real" BP in my impression was developed as an informational spot, a meeting ground and a place just to chill for ALL. Some of you really trip me out. We all should take more responsibilityfor the messages we display on our pages. If you are not sure, what I mean. Well let me explain (if I come anywhere near your username, don`t trip. I just want to make a point). Luv4u2cumNme! Posting naked pictures and telling people how much you want to F**K them! C`mon what in the heck is that about? If you are here for the soul purpose of selling yourself short, then do it elsewhere. Nothing is more degrading than putting your "shethang" or "hethang" up on the auctioning block to the prettiest or most handsome bidder!



Now I am sure I will catch a lot of chit because I am "keeping it real" but in all honesty, I don`t care! So leave me a note expressing your views on my "views."



"The `BE` Attitudes"



Be understanding to your enemies.

Be loyal to your friends.

Be strong enough to face the world each day.

Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.

Be generous to those who need your help.

Be frugal with that you need yourself.

Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.

Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.

Be willing to share your joys.

Be willing to share the sorrows of others.

Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.

Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.

Be first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.

Be last to criticize a colleague whofails.

Be sure where your next step will fall, so that

you will not tumble.

Be sure of your final destination, in case youare going the wrong way.

Be loving to those wholoveyou.

Be loving to those who do not love you; they may change.

Above all, be yourself.



"Believe in yourself and what others think won`t matter." "Forgiveness is the fragrance that the flower leaves on the heel of the one that crushed it."



"Remember you are needed. There is at least one important work to be done that will not be done unless you do it."



Talent is God given. Be humble.

Fame is man-given. Be grateful.

Conceit is self-given. Be careful.



"Know in your heart that all things are possible. We couldn`t conceive of a miracle if none had ever happened."

h "When you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere."

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