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December 09, 2000
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41
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Vocational - Degree
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United Kingdom
Race:

Black
Zodiac:

Aquarius

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SHE DOES NOT KNOW HER BEAUTY
SHE THINKS HER BROWN BODY
HAS NO GLORY
IF SHE COULD DANCE NAKED,
UNDER PALM TREES
AND SEE HER IMAGE IN THE RIVER
SHE WOULD KNOW.
BUT THERE ARE NO PALM TREES ON THE STREET,
AND DISHWATER GIVES BACK NO IMAGES.

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HELLO beautiful people welcome to my ghetto heaven.

I am now41 years old. Yes 41.Most peeps do not believe me, but it is true. The big 41.Don't know what all the fuss is about.
But I am young at heart and with 3 children 17,15 and 5yrs(and my faith in the LORD) , they keep me youthful looking
So if you are not put off yet:

Come in and rest your feet.

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Learning to LOVE ourselves as Black Women goes beyond a simplistic insistence that "Black is Beautiful."
It goes beyond and deeper than the surface appreciation of Black beauty, although that is certainly a good beginning.
But if the quest to reclaim ourselves and each other remains there, then we accept another superficial measurement of self, one superimposed upon the old one and almost as damaging, since it pauses at superficial.
Certainly it is no more empowering.. And it is empowerment - our strengthening in the service of ourselves and each other, in the service of our work and future - that will be the result of this pursuit.

We have to conciously study how to be tender with eachother until it becomes a habit because what was native to us has been stolen from us, THE LOVE OF BLACK PEOPLE for eachother.
But we can practice being gentle with each other by being gentle with that piece of ourselves that is hardest to hold, by giving more to the brave little boy and girl within each of us, by expecting a little less from his or her gargantaun efforts to excel.
We can love him or her in the light as well as in the darkness, quiet his or her frenzy toward perfection and encourage his or her attentions toward fulfillment...As we arm ourselves with ourslves and each other, we can stand toe to toe inside that rigorous loving and begin to speak the impossible - or what has always seemed like the impossible - to one another.
The first step toward genuine change.
EVENTUALLY, IF WE SPEAK THE TRUTH TO EACH OTHER, IT WILL BECOME UNAVOIDABLE TO OURSELVES.

WHEN WE SPEAK WE ARE AFRAID
OUR WORDS WILL NOT BE HEARD
NOR WELCOME

BUT WHEN WE ARE SILENT
WE ARE STILL AFRAID

SO IT IS BETTER TO SPEAK
REMEMBERING
WE WERE NEVER MEANT TO SURVIVE

People who are honest and open are not burdened by the need to hide.
They do not have to slink around in the shadows.
They do not have to construct new lies to hide old ones.
They need waste no effort covering tracks or maintaing disguises...By their openness, people dedicated to the truth live in the open and through the excercise of their courage to live in the open, they become free from fear.

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We seldom think of CONVERSATION as commitment, but it is.
I find that expressing what i feel and telling another person what is actually important to me at the moment is difficult.
It requires commitment on my part to do so, and I sense that this is true for most of us.
It is equally difficult to listen.
We are usually so full of our own thoughts and responses that we seldom really listen close enough to one another to grasp the real flavor of what the other person is attempting to convey.
Creative Communication in depth is what allows us to experience a sense of belonging to others.
It is the force that limits the destructive potential in our lives and what promotes the growth aspects.
Life is a struggle.
Coping with a lifetime of change is a struggle, but through a lifetime of change we will experience ourselves as full persons only to the degree that we allow ourselves that commitment to others which keeps us in creative dialogue.
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Have you ever wondered why so many SISTERS look so angry? Why we walk like we have bricks in our bags and will slash and curse you at the drop of a hat? It is because STRESS is hemmed into our dresses, pressed into our hair,mixed into our perfume and painted on our fingers.
Stress from the deffered dreams, the dreams not voiced ; STRESS from broken promises, the BLATANT lies ; STRESS from always being at the bottom, from never being thought beautiful, from always being taken for granted, taken advantage of; STRESS from being a black woman in a white World.
Much of the STRESS is caused by how the world outside us relates to us.
We cannot control that world, at times we can change it but we can assert agency in our own lives so that the outside world cannot over-determine our responses, cannot make our lives a dumping ground for STRESS.

It is reported that over 90% of what we worry about never happens.
That means that our negative worries have about a 10% chance of being correct.
IF this is so, isn't it possible that being positive is more realistic than being negative? Think about your own life. I'll wager that most of what you worry about never happens. So are you being realistic when you worry all the time?

To value ourselves rightly, infinitely, released from shame and self-rejection, implies knowing that we are claimed by the totality of life.
To share in loving community and vision that magnifies our strength and banishes fear and despair, here, we find the solid ground from which justice can flow like a mighty stream. Here, we find the fire that burns away the confusion that oppression heaped upon us during our childhood weakness. Here, we can see what needs to be done and find the strength to do it. To value ourselves rightly. To love one another. This is to heal the heart of justice.

TO LIVE AND TO LOVE AND TO CREATE ARE ONE
IN LIVING, LOVING, AND CREATING WE MOVE IN MYSTERY, ALERT TO
POSSIBILTY, BEREFT OF MODELS FROM THE PAST AND WITHOUT
HINT OF ONE TO COME. IN THE ABSENCE OF MODELS WE
EXPERIENCE ABSOLUTE FREEDOM, AND IN FREEDOM, RISK,
RESPONSIBILTY AND THE JOY OF BEING OPENED TO WHATEVER
THE MOMENT MAY BRING FORTH IN US

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE SIGN MY GUESTBOOK.( She smiles seductively)
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P.S - Also drop me a note if you're feeling my Vibe.
Thank you and GOD BLESS.

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