Ok blackplanet. Women here in St Louis can`t be that bad. I am changing my message into a little harsher and more concise message because I feel that maybe i wasn`t clear in my last message so ladies here it goes.
#1 What you see in this profile is what you get a nice handsome black man with a mind and that does not fit the steryotypical framework of most niggas (not black men). If you want a nigga or a thug loser then keep stepping.
#2 Contrary to popular belief %#&@$! is not gold nor will it get you far with me. It is what it is pleasure and as such no it wont make me fall for you. No it wont make me pay your bills. No it wont give you a liscense to fill my life with BS. If i wanted to pay for sex i`d get a prostitute and call it a night because at least with her i won`t have to hear the nagging and bs afterwards. I mean I am sick of meeting women that try to run game cause they think that sex is power.
#3 Have a mind i mean where are the women that have a logical thought process? Where are the women that have open minds and are willing to try new things? Where are the women that at the very least listen to music outside of Q95.5 and 100.3?
#4 Bring something to the table. I am starting to see that St. Louis is full of women that are working just to get by until a brotha with some money comes along. Or they have their hand out. I mean even if you dont have much at least want more than where you are and at least be willing to be a team player and work with me to accomplish things in life and not be a deadweight.
#5 No I do not want to sit and wait while you decide if you want a relationship or not. No I`m not your last boyfriend so quit talking about the nigga and letting his being an @$$hole in the past control your future. No i dont want to be just an internet chat buddy or just a friend. I am on a quest to find Mrs. Real woman who knows what she wants in life and in a man and is not scared to ask for it.
#6 If you look at my page and the thought forms in your heart to send me a note thats just saying whats up, hi or nice page then please send it to the guest book. I mean what i am saying is only serious applicants apply.
#7 If you reply to my add then look forward to setting up a date i dont want to just chat with you all the time cause you are scared that im some internet stalker. I am not and you can meet crazy men out and about in fact most of you already have met a crazy nigga or you have a crazy baby daddy and chances are you met him in the club or in person not on the internet.
#8 I dress casual and dressy if you don`t like that kind of a man then don`t bother replying. Throwback jersies and headbands and tennis shoes are not my pleasure. You wont, can`t and will not change that. If you make the statement "Ohh you`d look nice in jeans etc" I`ll tell you no i wouldn`t. I mean if I am accepting you and trying to appreciate you for who you are then you should do the same.
#9 Here is a big one NO DRAMA. It`s real simple I keep my life as uncomplicated as i can so if you have an issue with me or dont like something the easiest thing to do is voice it in a matter that dictates respect and allows me to look at it from an intellectual standpoint. I will not tolerate ignorance on any level nor will i give it out.
#10Love G-d and yourself if you don`t do it aint no one gone do it for you. If you are negative I dont even want you to breath my way. You wonder why you cant get a good man and lifes a %#&@$! well its cause you can`t spot one if he jumped out of your @$$ and you are so used to having dog %#&@$! niggas that you are automatically attracted to them. Heres a hint if you meet a man like me thats different more than likely thats who you should give a relationship an honest try with.
#11 I dont mind if you do or don`t have kids but understand this. I have a son and I dont bring anyone around him that I am seeing as a potential person that i am going to be in a relationship with. When and if I do find a woman that is decent and we get serious she will meet him and that way he doesnt get confused by all the deadbeats that don`t cut it. So no you aren`t meeting him on the first date. I also hope that you don`t think that your kids are going to climb all up on me and bother me without me telling you to get them. I also hope you are not looking for me to just be the dad that they never had and pay your bills and take care of them while you do whatever you want to do.
#12 To all you lesbians that i keep reading about how a man can`t give you what a woman can etc. I say Bull#@$@ there are several things a man can give that a woman never can and just cause you chose to mess with dead beat niggas that did you wrong so now you are waving the rainbow flag and yelling about how you didn`t know love till you got with some chick thats getting her knees dirty is not love at all so give me a break.
Finally here is a bit about me. I am a very real, very intelligent and very honest black man. I like to street race and can often be found on hall street or south lindberg. I also frequent the gateway race track. I am part of a car club and the people i roll with are a blessing to anyone that meets them. I listen to every kind of music but country. I like hip hop, rock, techno and rb. I also have a taste for jazz and international. I speak one other language (Hebrew). Have college experience in electronics engineering and theology. Of course being a racer I am a bang up mechanic. I also like parks, reading, and travel. I am a hopless romantic and have a very sensual side. This does not mean that I sleep with anything with breasts and a butt. I have done and will do everything but toss salads and indulge in homosexual acts. I am straight, not bi, not gay straight. I am a gentleman in every sense of the word but i am also straight to the point and bold. If you win my love there is no way that you`ll be unhappy but i don`t give it to just anyone. Bottom line WHERE ARE ALL THE REAL WOMEN cause G-d knows that I am tired of the hoes, lunies and whackos .
UPDATE TIME
There is always someone who seems to find a way to slip trough the cracks but I have to say I didn`t post it so its on me. Im putting this in caps as its highly important. I NEED SOMONE THAT LOVES TO SPEND TIME WITH ME.
I NEED SOMONE THAT DOES NOT IMPOSE THEIR OPINION ON ME OR ARGUES WITH ME AT EVERY END.
I NEED SOMEONE THAT DOESN`T INITIALLY TELL ME THAT THEY ARE SOMETHING THEN CHANGES IT.
I NEED SOMEONE WITH A HINT OF UNDERSTANDING ABOUT THE BIBLE AND G-D AND HOW THE DEVINE WORKS.
I NEED SOMEONE THATS LOOKING FOR WHAT IM LOOKING FOR AND IN THE WORDS OF BRICKTOP FROM THE MOVIE SNATCH "I AM LOOKING FOR EVERYTHING ABOVE AND I DO MEAN IT"
08/11/05 Update
Well Bp I been on here for a while and have been through my share of meeting women on here and i have arrived at a very heavy conclusion and that is I decided to no longer date black women as there is so much crap that comes with them. Since i been here i met everything but what i am looking for and as i look around in the black community i see a very crazy pic. We have the highest rate of everything bad in our communities. Most of the women on here are single moms (no thats not OK in my opinion even for myself) We have the highest rates of crime disease and divorce amongst our ranks not to mention the minor things that i have come into contact with( attitudes cough cough leave that S*&^% at home) drama and generally confused women with slave mentalities. Now i know that i will get a billion notes saying that there are good black women out there etc or im a sellout or i cant take the strong black woman. My reply is im yet to see the strong black woman and what i can`t take is the utter crock of $#@% that comes with black women in my opinion.
Update
I HAVE MET A VERY BEAUTIFUL AND SPECIAL BLACK WOMAN AMONGST THE THORNS AND THISTLES, AND THIS UPDATE IS TO HER. FIRST I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THAT I AM OFF THE MARKET, SO, TO ALL THE ONES THAT DIDN`T MAKE IT OR DIDN`T PUT TIME AND EFFORT INTO IT YOU LOST A GOOD MAN HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA. TO HER I SAY THIS, THANK YOU SHARHONDA FOR SHOWING UP AND SHOWING OUT, FOR BEING A REAL WOMAN NATURALLY AND NOT A HOE PRETENDING TO BE ONE. I THINK WOMEN NEED TO LEARN FROM YOU AND WOMEN LIKE YOU HOW TO BE A WOMAN. ITS NOT SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN ACT. IT HAS TO BECOME PART OF YOUR PERSON. I PRAISE YOU FOR BEING THERE AND WHAT YOU HAVE SHOWN ME WHEN I THOUGHT THAT YOUR KIND NO LONGER EXISTED. I HOPE YOU ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE AND KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING. LOVE YOU MUCH.
11/17/2005
Ladies of BP, allow me to introduce myself.I am Sharhonda, more affectionately, Julian`s black rose. I am the woman who has stolen, and refuses to return, this gentle giant`s heart. I am the one who has ended his maddening search for the peace he needed to be whole. I have nothing against you posting notes to him. It amuses me to read them. As a matter of fact, I like knowing that others want what I possess. I do, however, hope that you won`t begin to think that you can be anything but text on a page. Call me arrogant and whatever other choice names you like, but my confidence in the fact that "I am my beloved`s and my beloved is mine" is unshakeable. Carry on with whatever meaningless dribble you wish on BP..but badeddy and tasti_lypz are SO much bigger than that. Julian and Sharhonda are SO much more than that...enjoy your BP experience..see u in his notes -wink-
UPDATE 11/20/05
THE ABOVE UPDATE IS FROM MY BABY SO I JUST WANTED TO MAKE THIS POST TO HER. BABY THIS WEEKEND BRINGS THE FOLLOWING WORDS TO MIND TO DESCRIBE IT. HEAVEN, BLISS, PASSION, ECSTACY BEYOND WORDS, FULFILLMENT AND LOVE. YOU ARE TRULY A REAL WOMAN AND I AM EXCLUSIVLY YOURS ALL WOMEN POSTING PLEASE READ BECAUSE THE QUEEN AND KING HAVE SPOKEN. SHARHONDA YOU ARE THE TRUTH AMONGST WOMEN AND YOUR LOVE HAS SET ME FREE.
11/28/2005
I feel the need to profess my love for my sweetheart, Julian, yet again. We spent another wonderful weekend together. I can`t say enough how wonderful this man is and how unfortunate it is that women have passed up the opportunity to be a part of his life. The fortunate thing is, while others slept, I ended up with this incredible man in my life. I love you Julian.
12/05/2005
ALL I CAN SAY IS WOW ANOTHER SUPREME WEEKEND SHARHONDA YOU ARE THE BREATH I BREATH AND IF THERE WAS EVER A SOULMATE YOU ARE IT. I LOVE YOU BABY AND I HOPE THAT WE LAST FOREVER.
12/23/2005
Some said we wouldn`t last. Others said it was just an online fling. Fortunately, both were wrong. Here we stand, stronger than ever. Our love is one of strength forged by God himself. What we have can`t be tainted by man. I love you baby.
07/19/2006
It has been MONTHS since I have updated these pages. I would just like to update the people who send notes and are actually happy for us. We are STILL together, STILL standing strong and planning a wedding. We have been together almost 9months now and we figure...we know what we want...why waste time? Life is short. When you find someone who makes your soul happy, stick with them, stand by them and make that lifetime committment. G-d honors that. Thank you all for the notes of encouragement and even thank you for the criticisms. They criticised the Messiah. Why would lowly us be any different. Be blessed.
Sharhonda
02/08/2007
Update!!...The wedding date is fast approaching. It's April 28, 2007. Last night was the final fitting(I hope so anyway lol) of my dress. Julian, being the master photographer that he is(a woman must sometimes stretch the truth for her man lol) took a LOT of pics. Some of the silly ones are posted below. The night was fun and that's what we want to portray...Elohim has blessed us with peace and joy and that is what we celebrate. Thank you for the kind notes and congrats. May Adonai's face shine upon you all and give you all that your heart desires...Shalom!!
Sharhonda
05/02/2007
We did it!!! On April 28, 2007 at 5:00pm at Beit Bresheet in St John, Mo, Julian and I pledged our lives to each other "for as long as we both shall live". As I look back, it's still hard to believe that I met my life mate right here on the pages of Blackplanet. It's difficult to see that through all of the nonsense found here, love exists. We are living proof that it does and that it can be found if you take the time to search with your heart and with the guidance of Elohim. I posted a few of the 300+ wedding pictures...more for me than for anyone who will view them. These represent memories that I want to cherish for a lifetime...to have all around me all the time...to remind me of the day that I became one with my beloved...Shalom!
05/02/2007
This page will now stand as my testimony to what I dealt with to find the woman that completed me. I hope that it inspires anyone that is looking for love and is or has been discouraged by all the mess that is out there in the dating scene. Me and Sharhonda will be making another page that talks about what true love is and our experience together in hopes that maybe someone out there needs to hear from someone who actually met online and is in a successful relationship. My wedding to sharhonda on april 28 2007 was the most beautiful thing that i have experienced in the 32years that G-d has blessed me to be here. I love her dearly and i now know what it means in the word when it says that a husband shall love his wife as himself. I not only found true love in my wife but i also found myself and the love i now know is what G-d refers to when he says" perfect love casts out all fear".
11/09/2007
Today is a blessed day for us. Today signifies the 2nd anniversary of our relationship. Many said it wouldnt last...many said nothing good comes out of meeting someone on the net. We take pride in proving them WRONG. We are not only still together, but we are one. We are husband and wife and more in love each and every day. G-d has blessed us to know and understand the kind of love he has for us and the perfect love he wants us to have for each other. I have never been more spiritually or physically happy and fulfilled than I am right now. Praise G-d for my life...my love...my husband.
05/22/2008 It's been a long time since I've been to this page. Julian and I have celebrated our first wedding anniversary and we are even more in love now than we were that day...if that's possible. I feel so truly blessed to have found him, so fortunate to have such a loving, kind, gentle soul in my life and in my heart. I can wholeheartedly say that we are one. We have the kind of love that makes you long for that someone even if you're only away for a short time and know you'll see them in a few hours. Love is a wonderful thing, when G-d is in the middle of it. Thank you all who continue to leave encouraging notes. They are greatly appreciated. For those who continue to send the negativity...try doing what we did...it will relieve you of some of that bitterness...open your heart first to G-d and love will follow...
11/15/2008 I suppose it's time for another update. It's been months since I've even been to this page. Life has been a bit hectic in a GREAT way. We are living a blessed life filled with the peace of Yah. Mind you, we've had the usual amount of haters...the ones who call us liars if we profess our love and faithfulness to each other...but their disbelief isn't our issue. We know who we are and what we have and that's all that matters. We have moved. We now live in St. Charles and are more in love each and every day. I'm sometimes still amazed that I found such a beautiful, wonderful black prince on blackplanet. With all of the ignorance going on on this site...it makes our meeting that much more special..because we overcame the nonsense and found something beautiful and lasting. To all those who send encouraging notes..dont think they go unnoticed. Thank you for the kind words...for those of you who send spiteful garbage...dont think they dont get deleted..because they do. It is our prayer that everyone passing through our little spot on the planet who is in search of what we have..finds that. It's so good to love and be loved equally, if not more. I am truly blessed..of this I'm sure. May all who read this be blessed...
03/27/2009 Well people, here's another update. I've been REALLY busy these days so I haven't been to the page much. We're both working a lot and I've(this is Sharhonda, by the way) gone back to school. We're doing WONDERFULLY. Yah is continually blessing us(our love for Him grows moment by moment) and we're at peace with our lives(though hectic), loving our family(5 boys TOTAL) and adoring each other. I love this man more and more each day and sometimes I can't fathom what I did to deserve such a beautiful blessing. I'm sure I've said that somewhere on here before but so what! lol...It's the absolute truth. We're approaching our SECOND wedding anniversary with excitement. November will mark our FOURTH year together..my how time flies! Well, I have matters to attend to. I just wanted to leave a brief update for our online friends who come to this page. Thank you all for continuing to stop by! I pray that each and every one of you is as blessed as we are right now!..
04/28/2009 Today marks our 2nd wedding anniversary!! I can't believe how fast the time has gone. I guess what they say is true, time flies when you're having fun. It has been an absolutely blessed time. We've learned so much more about each other which has only caused our love to grow. Our love and obedience to G-d has grown during this time as well and we are truly, truly blessed beyond belief for it. I can honestly say that I've never been happier or more fulfilled in my life and if G-d were to take me from this earth tomorrow, my only prayer is that if we are to be mated in the kingdom, that He allow me to continue to love and be loved by my beloved. I wish that I could give a portion of this joy to everyone. When you have something this good, you want to share it with others. I wish everyone could feel what I feel...the love, the sincerety, the companionship, the complete fulfillment of my heart's desires. Be blessed and pray for our continued growth in each other and in G-d...
11/06/2010 Well bp in 3 days Sharhonda and I will have been together happily for 5 years and married for 4. My life with her has become such a testimony in G-d and to think that it all started here on bp. We are both prospering hand over fist when it comes to money. She is wrapping up school to be a flight paramedic while still working in nursing. G-d blessed me with a high paying Job at U.S. bank and we are looking to step out on faith next year if it be G-ds will into a new house in Lake St. Louis or further west of were we are now. All of our children are doing wonderful and I'm in school to become a licensed pastor. Yahweh is truly good and a keeper of his word to those that seek him diligently.
11/15/2011 It has now been 6 years since me and the woman of my dreams met right here on bp as of 11/09/2011. We have been happily married for 5 years now and together for 6. It is amazing how time flies and how beautiful our relationship has become. Yahweh has truly blessed me and nothing that i have asked him for has he denied me. My page here now stands as a beacon of hope and encouragement for those that feel lost in the sea of dating and not being able to find mr or mrs right. She is out there and all things are possible with Yahweh even meeting your special someone right here on bp. I love my wife more than words can express and i cannot help but wonder what the future will bring for us.
