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 THE RIGHT ONE First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one. 'What about love? Shouldn't that be the third? you ask. No, and I'll tell you why. 'The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9). The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: 'Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well spring of life' (Proverbs 4:23)! Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage. Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage. Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together. Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively -it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage. But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts. 1.Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinksabout his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of God? You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues. You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together. Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and yourdreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time. Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order.So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his word seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one. 2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends. Scripture says: 'He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord' (Proverbs 18:22). Note -who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together. At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy! Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested. Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: 'We love him because he first loved us' (1 John 4:19).Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself. You need only one man - your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me; the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker.Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you -this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship . 3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart . A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you . 4.Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body! 5.Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat y ou. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife. 6.Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation. 7.Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom?Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments --including the jobmarket? Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff. 8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. I s the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be amost miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life. A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever. Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement. 9.Complimentary.Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way? This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wr ong. This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable,undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive! God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind,body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in you life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals . 10.Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you. A man's relationship with God is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ. If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from yourcommitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive. So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less f rom a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired. The truth of the matter is everyone knows that anything worthhaving, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free. . A prayerful response Faithful One, so unchanging. Ageless One, You re my rock of peace. Lord of all I depend on You. I call out to You again and again. I call out to You again and again. You are my rock in times of trouble. You lift me up when I fall down. All through the storm Your love is the anchor. My hope is in you alone. A wonderful message for single women. And for married women to pass onto their single friends, enjoy it... In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking "Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said "Yes." She began to expound..." As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can`t do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household with out the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to! ask "What can you bring to the table?" The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated "I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don`t need a simple minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don`t need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don`t need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn`t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a help mate for man. I can`t help a man if he can`t help himself." When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said "You are asking a lot." She replied "I`m worth a lot." Ladies, always remember your WORTH! LITTLE THINGS WOMEN LIKE: Ladies, print this out and give to your man, or e-mail it to him. Men, take a tip! Women love little signs of affection ALL DAY LONG. Not just cuddling at night that leads to, well, you know where I`m going. A women once said that "Affection and undivided attention to your wife of girlfriend is the best Aphrodisiac of all"... Women love to be held for no reason. Women love the forehead and the nose kisses, the movie "Best Man" obviously knew something about this. Women Love the idea of being paged with little secret codes only you and your lover know about. Women love e-mails, yes e-mails. This makes a woman`s day and it doesn`t cost you a penny. Women love voicemails. Just a little reminder that you still love us and appreciate us. Women love bubble baths when we first walk in the door after a hard day of working. (Don`t forget to throw the towel in the dryer and have it heated when we get out). Women love deep conversations, not business talk, not sports talk, just discussing the ways of the world, dreams, goals, etc. Women love massages, temple massages are the best... Women love to be listened to, no matter how senseless it may sound, just grit your teeth and bear it. Don`t forget, it`s free. Women love for men to attempt to prepare a meal. It`s awesome if a man can cook, but it`s so cute when a man can`t cook very well and he burns up the entire meal. (A+ for effort).... Ladies don`t forget to commend him on a job well done. It can be spaghettios and kool-aid, just be thankful he tried... Women love seeing men play with their children. There`s nothing more attractive than a man who isobligated to his children and will do anything for them. This is an awesome way to a women`s heart. Last but not least, women love gifts. Not just any gifts though. Promise nothing that will be over $10. A single rose, this represents to a women that she is the rose of her man`s life and she`s number ONE. A trip to Chuckie Cheese or some other off-the-wall kid`s activity that you and your man can share to take you back to your childhood years. Who knows, he or she may have never experienced real childhood, you may be surprised how exciting it could be.... A trip to a museum or to an art gallery. Act interested whether you`re interested or not. Try different things, if for no other reason but to say you did it, and did it together. Go on a drive holding hands in the car listening jazz in pure silence. Just enjoying the music and seeing the sights with someone you love can be soothing to your soul. Sitting at the park on a park bench holding each other. Packing a basket and having a nice time in the park. Setting up a tent in your backyard or going camping. Scary, but fun!!!!!! You don`t always have to spend your life saving to make another person happy you can be just as happy with a few materialistic things, but you have a lot of love in your life. Don`t lose focus on what really matters in life, remember when your job in gone, when friends are gone, your family will still be there. Don`t take them for granted!!!!! I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me Phillipians 4:13 "A Word from T.D.Jakes" If a woman feels like a lady and is able to celebrate herself, she will attract into her life people who reflect her own opinion of herself.There are moments when even the strongest woman can appreciate there enforcement of a man who is comfortable with who he is and who can be an anchor in the storms of life. He will be the warm hand touching the small of her back, giving her the stability to go forward. He will give her the feeling of uncompromising love as she faces the various stages and ages of life. He gives her body release, her mind a melody, and her spirit a gust of Wind that makes her able to soar. When the lady has a lover, her eyes sparkle, her smile is bright and her voice is calm and passionate.With her lover at her side, her heart is peaceful, for she feels secure and can close her eyes and rest her head on his shoulder.But in the stillness of the night, when he has gone to sleep and there are pending issues on her mind, it is her Lord who works the night shift and watches over her in the dark. He is the one whom she can talk to when her words cannot explain what she is feeling. Her husband may understand what she says, but the Lord understands what she feels."I hope you enjoyed this, if so pass it on. CELEBRATE A STRONG WOMAN - don`t fear her |
