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Disclaimer #1: I ain't mad, I'm just sayin...

A friendship shouldn't be anything you have to work too hard at. It should be almost effortless. If people connect on a certain level or some common ground then that is great for them. People shouldn't be held to our standards of what a friend should be or how a friend should treat us. We should accept people for who they are...or not accept people for who they are. If there is a person that I consider a friend and something happened that I didn't like then it is up to me whether or not to let them know what I didn't like but ultimately one of two things need to happen after that...1. I need to accept it and move on, not hold a grudge and continue on down friendship lane with this person or 2. Not accept it and determine what I need to do on my end so that situation doesn't happen again, even if it means ending the friendship. Now, a patient person will go through the first option a few times. The same thing may happen two or three times before you have to have that dreaded "I don't like it when you..." conversation. Even after that, things may not get any better and you realize that person will not change. Here is the pill we have a hard time swallowing...they don't have to change...they aren't the one with the problem. The only person I can control is Me. If someone is doing something to me that I don't like then it is up to me to make the proper adjustment. Whether I choose to put that person at arms length or push them out of my life completely, my happiness is my responsibility.

Disclaimer #2: I am only referring to relationships that are on a friendship level.