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THE CRAZY OLD WHITE MAN FROM THE HOOD
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Words of Wisdom From the Crazy Old White Man From the Hood 2008 Lee Gaylord (634479912955) (format: CD-R)
I wrote the book, The Crazy Old White Man From the Hood, about life, the so called good life and the so called bad life. The book has the good, the bad and the ugly. It will make you cry and it will make you laugh. It may even show you how to help yourself out of a hole.
This is a book that pulls no punches. I do not hide things from the reader but tell it like it is. I hope that the reader will learn from my mistakes and the mistakes of those around me. It is my hope that someone who reads it will stop and think before they smoke that crack. It is my hope that someone who reads it will say no to drugs. It is my hope that someone who reads it and is an addict will decide it is time for recovery.
Life on drugs is a living hell. You may like what they do for you but you will not like what they do to you and those you love. Many can bring instant death others take longer to end your life but they all will eventually ruin or end your life. This is the message of the book.
I do not have a formal education in psychology. My education is from life and those who live it. What I say is from my experiences and my study of people and life over the past 50 years.
I made the CD to help those with problems, not only with drugs but also with life.
CD Files for Words of Wisdom from the Crazy Old White Man from the Hood:
Audio
Addiction
Disease or choice
I love life
Know and love yourself
Suicide is not the answer
Up and down the ladder
What can we do?
To do list
Coping with life, death and pain
Don't let a man drag you down
Don't let a woman drag you down
PDF file of the books
Published:
Crazy Old White Man from the Hood
Rough Drafts:
The Injustice System
Words of Wisdom from the Crazy Old White Man
Get high on life, not drugs.
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To Do List for the Addict
1. We have to look into ourselves and find ourselves. We have to rebuild out self-esteem and we have to find the love in our hearts for ourselves. We have to realize that we are killing ourselves and that we are too important to let addiction run our lives. We must regain control.
2. The power to recovery is within. The greater power helps if you believe. We have to convince ourselves that we are too good to be controlled by drugs. God gave us the ability to run our own lives. He does not want to care for us. He does not have time to care for us. He may help but we must find the strength within ourselves to beat the addiction.
3. We have to look at our morals and what we have done against those morals. Addiction causes us to do immoral things. If we look back and realize how bad we became under the influence we may find the extra strength needed for recovery.
4. If you are a religious person confession is good for the soul and will help you. If you are not religious and can not mean what you say prayer doesn't help. God does not want to waste his time on insincerity.
5. Look in side yourself and talk to yourself. Remind yourself of what you have done and seek your forgiveness of yourself.
6. Go to those who will help you with their support in your recovery. Confess your screw ups to them and ask them for their help when you are down.
7. You must remove your character defects. When God gave us our soul he gave us control over ourselves. He will not change us but we must change ourselves. We can pray for help but we must do it.
8. We must work on our bad points and improve ourselves.
9. Make a list of those you hurt with your addiction. Talk to those you have harmed and ask for forgiveness. Sometimes they will not forgive but do not let that get you down. Prove to them that there is a new you and someday they may come to you and forgive you. They will not forget and you will not forget. Strength comes from remembering.
10. We must remember the changes must come from within. God will not change you, that is up to you. The knowledge and power is within. Pray for His help and support.
11. Spread the word about your recovery and help others find the road to recovery.
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The Good Old Boy Network
I hope a lot of people read this and get mad enough to react and do something about it. There is a danger to me because there are people in jail for pissing off the good old boys.
On television you see the good old boys in shows like In the Hear of the Night and other shows that take place in the small towns of the south. It is not only there but it is all over the country and no doubt all over the world.
You have heard of dream weavers. The good old boys weave nightmares. There are many people in prison, many of them on death row. There are also innocent people who have been executed because of the good old boy network.
The death penalty is big business and prisons are big business. The call of the good old boys is, Get that SOB even if he is innocent. Instead of solving the crime they dispose of it by convicting a person whether they did it or not.
There is a murder case that the prosecutors want out of the way. If it is high profile it is a step.
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What can we do about the Drug Problem?
Good question. I wish I had a good answer. The government can't get the drugs off the street. Every time they make a bust the people are back on the street or someone else is there in their place. We have to fight the addiction.
For this article addiction will be to drugs and alcohol.
What I am going to say is all based on what I have experienced over the years. I have no formal education. I was not an addict but I was a drunk and woke up one day with a new life and quit getting drunk. I haven't had a drink in 10 years because I don't want to drink.
We have to start with the children. My kids from my first marriage saw first hand what drugs can do. They said no every time.
I have seen children walking around with a contact high from crack. For them the contact high is like what the adult gets smoking it. What can we do for the children of the addicts? How do we keep them from following in their parents’ foot steps?
We have to do what is best for the children. As long as the parents are addicted the children are in danger. That is child abuse. Children of addicts are beaten, sold, left at home alone and in some cases abandoned.
We have to save the children. We have to remove the children from the home until the parents get their act together. If the parents are not together and one parent is clean and sober that parent should be given custody of the children. If the other parent can not or will not take the children try to find a relative. If no relatives come forward the only thing left is a foster family until the parent is clean and sober.
Once the parent regains custody they should have random drug tests for at least a year.
The schools should have continuing drug education programs starting in elementary school and continuing through college.
There should also be evening classes for parents to help them deal with the problem.
What do we do about the addict? Based on my experience the addict has to want to quit. No program will be able to get them to stop unless the want to stop. Most of the people I know on drugs that have gone to rehab went back to drugs within a month. They go back to the old neighborhood and so called friends who drag them back into addiction.
NA and AA tell you that once an addict always an addict. This gives many a defeatist attitude. Why should I quit when I will never be free of the problem? Why should I go through life worrying every day about having a drink?
I changed my attitude and I have not had a drink in 10 years. I go to bars. I tended bar. I have no urge to drink. Nothing makes me want a drink. I get high on life.
For some people AA and NA work. Some people may have an illness that causes them to lose control. I feel that in most cases you need an attitude adjustment. Hypnosis may work for some.
First of all the addict has to want to quit. If they don't want to quit they will not. Even hypnosis will not work if the do not want to quit.
Why do they have the problem in the first place? What made them start using?
In most cases they have low self esteem. They feel unwanted and unloved.
You have to find the root of the problem and try to ease the damage done by the problem. If it was a death in the family or another loved one you have to help them deal with it. Convince them that the person would not want them to be addicts. Convince them that the person is watching over them.
You have to build their self esteem. Convince them that they can do anything they set there mind to and that they can quit.
You have to make them understand that drugs can not cure any problems but will only make them worse. I do not let anything bother me anymore. If lose a woman no matter how much I cared for her I am not going to go to the bottle. Life goes on and it may get better with her gone.
Show them what drugs can do. 1. The homeless who can't find a job because of their addictions. 2. People missing arms and legs because of drugs. 3. Women who are 30 and look 60. 4. People who had strokes because of drugs. 5. People whose hearts exploded because of drugs. 6. People who fried their brains with drugs and go around on the streets talking to themselves.
You have to convince them to care enough about themselves to want to stop before it happens to them. You have to show them love and give them reasons to love themselves enough to save themselves from themselves.
They are lost souls and you have to help them find themselves. Their whole attitude about life, themselves, their loved ones and their so called friends has to be changed.
This is not an over night process before rehab it may take a year or more for them to even go to rehab. Once in rehab it may take 2 to 6 months in house and 4 to 6 months outhouse. Then you need to give them a 24/7 support line for when they need help.
You can not tell them that they are doomed to a life of addiction. You can not tell them that only God can save them. God gave us the power to reason. He gave us the power to help ourselves and he gave others the power to help us help ourselves.
The key is that the person has to fight addiction from within. The only one that can win the war against addiction is the addicted one. They may need help but in the end they have to save there own asses.
As I said I have no formal training on this subject. I did not go to school for this. I learned at the best place to learn about the problem and the cure. I learned from the streets.
All of the high priced studies, all of the books, all of the classes and all of the highly educated doctors can not save the addict. You have to learn from the biggest school. You have to learn from the streets.
Yes you need the doctors to help during the cold turkey part of the process. The rest of it takes those who have been there, former drunks and drug addicts. After rehab they need support. They need someone they can talk to when they are down. Someone they can get a hold of 24 hours a day.
NA and AA will say I am full of %#&@$!. You may say that I am full of %#&@$!. I know a lot of addicts. Some never went to rehab and are now off drugs and alcohol they changed their attitude. I changed my attitude and quit using alcohol.
NA and AA have helped many. I say that an attitude readjustment program will save the souls that they can not save. They treat an illness. This program would treat the soul.
Copyright 2008 Lee W. Gaylord
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I Love Life You have probably heard people say life sucks. I guess sometimes they are right but most of the time they suck. Some people can't take the bad things that come along in life. You have to learn to go with the flow and how to change the flow when you can. If you can't go with it and you can't change it, ignore it.
The world can be tough at times. Some folks say life's a %#&@$! and it sure enough can be. You just have to put up with it. If you play the game right you can roll with the punches and come out on top, well maybe close to the top.
Frankly as long as I am above the bottom I am happy. You get to the top and it can be a long fall. The lower you are the shorter the fall.
Some say I do not have the drive and ambition. I had it. Whenever I got to the top something knocked my butt down. Sometimes that was me. In both marriages the higher I got the worse the marriage got.
There is one thing I have learned (It isn't the only thing just one of the things.) Don't sweat the small stuff and to hell with the big stuff.
I used to have heart burn all of the time. When I decided not to let anything bother me the heart burn left.
I am self employed so I do not have to take bull %#&@$! from a boss. I am good enough at what I do so that I do not have to take the bull %#&@$! from my clients.
If you realize that the material things are not important you will have a better life. I live in a small downtown apartment within walking distance of some of the best entertainment in the world. I get buses to anywhere in the city within walking distance. Life is great for me because I do not worry about anything.
I have a good life because I make it a good life. I work at all hours out of my apartment. I have time to write. (From the end of January to April 15th I don't have a lot of time to write because of tax season but I make time for it and the ladies.)
Of course I realize that many of you who are up there love your material things. If you are married the odds are that the wife and kids love them too. I am not saying this is wrong. I am saying that if something happens you may find yourself in a position where you will go down. It will probably be temporary but at the time you will not know how long it will be.
Be prepared. Not only you but your family too. Have an austerity plan. You do not know that your company will stay strong or that you will always be liked by your superiors. You may piss someone of that can knock you out of your job.
Always have an option in case you lose your job. Be involved in the organizations in your industry. If you are an automotive engineer be involve with the Society for Automotive Engineers.
A large number of people work for small businesses. The owner may be the only one that can keep it going. He may end up in divorce, get critically ill or in some other way find himself in a position where he will lose the company. He may have financing problems. You may have the orders but not the money to produce the product.
There are so many things that can burst your bubble. The wife may decide she doesn't like you any more. Everything can be lost in a short time. If you are ready for it you may not hurt so badly.
I have been talking about the man in a relationship but the same can apply to the working woman. The non-working (at a paying job) woman is in many cases dependant on her husband. She has to be ready in case he splits. Try to have a stash of money. No matter how much in love you are and you think he is it can change almost overnight. Be prepared to start over again.
Get a job. It can be a part time job that can be made into a full time job if needed. You may want to get into real estate sales. You may want to start a business out of your home. If your husband asks why tell him you want to have money of your own for gifts so he doesn't have to pay for his gifts from you. You are tired of asking him for money all of the time.
If you are prepared it will not hurt as much if you lose your position in life. DO NOT BE AN ASSHOLE because if you are when you go down no one will help. If you walked over people to get up the ladder they will step on you when you are on your way down. Your misfortune will be their happiness. Be nice on your way up and help others. They may remember and help you recover.
Try to have a nest egg, not for a rainy day but to save your butt.
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