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iconua34

Female, 38, Memphis, TN

Yeah, you got a problem. At the end of the day, if TWO individuals lay down & produce a child., BOTH are responsilble. You can't put stipulations on your support based on what the mother does.

That BS sounds as dumb as those deadbeats that don't support their children because they can't stand the mother, keeping in mind you f(u)cked said woman naked booty style.

Don't wanna give the crackhead baby mama support but you screw said crackhead.

Bustas make me ITCH, ewwwwww!!!!!

Oh yeah, & if, IF there is so little amount of deadbeats, how & why does the Child Support Program even exist?

Get your mind right. At the end of the day, KNOW that YOUR child is being supported by YOU & you are doing YOUR part.

Bet the same so called men biotching about C.S. are the same one that have to be made to do it(I'm not making enough money, I'm not stable, my new GF is preggers, too, I ALREADY got 6 kids)

Bustas ought to be in good company,lol!!

Doing your part is nothing if the child is not receiving your part because the woman is on drugs or uses the money for everything but taking care of the said child by being and unfit mother herself and doesnt have the child best interest at heart but her own selfish wants not needs

Before there was welfare food stamps child support Black men and woman stuck together as a family unit But now since the government has stepped in Many woman will walk away because they know the system will provide yes what we have is a system that is and has been breaking down the black family unit along with other things set in place to only divide black men and black woman more I can see both sides because its dam if you do and dam if you don't if a man doesn't he faces jail if a woman don't the child lives in hell and she lives off the backs of everyone else with low self worth self respect and low self asteem

This don't apply to every black man or black woman there are those of us who truly want to do the right my now wife choose to work and take care of her kids on her own and because she no longer wanted to be with those kids father they refused to step up one owes over 45 grand and has 5 more kids Now because she worked and wasn't on state aid the state is not doing one dayum thing to help her get that money

Or the black father who doesn't make a lot but gives what the state ask for But has to beg just to see his child because he doesn't want to be with her I have see this mess play out time and time again if we were made to only depend on one another we wouldn't have all the bitterness

Then again both black men and women need to look deep before they leap into bed you need to asses how a person was raised first if they come from a single parent home in their eyes if it was good enough for them they perhaps wont see nothing wrong with it for their children also and many do want better and for their children to have two in love & loving parents all children want and deserve it

Problem was in their own thinking on what love really is and its way deeper than just having sex and thinking with whats between ya legs black men and women need to know the difference between Love, Infatuation and Lust

Which is posted to my bp blog the blame game is not the issue and only divides us more we have to teach our children to make better choices when it comes to bringing another life into this cold and sinful world Appreciation from the women is what motives men to provide

The worst thing any women can do is have a lack of appreciation for whatever a man does for her and have that thats what you should do attitude even if we should drop the attitude

Which only makes him to only want do less not more and if ya think im lying ya only lying to ya self because women often make that mistake in thinking if i show him a appreciate him or what he does he won't do more when its really just the other way around and most men who truly men will agree

In many cases thats perhaps why he or she left in the first place I don't agree with a man not taking care of his children nor do I like any women who sits back and lives off the system and uses C/P for other things she wants and not for what the child needs

Panthro5

Male, Age Private, Seattle, WA

Wow!!! I am amazed that so many people just don't get it. I hear the %#&@$!ing and complaining on both sides. When both sides have some legitimate complaints, but are unwilling or unable to see the validity of each others concerns. Women have a legitimate concern about thier body and the effect that pregnancy places on them, therefore having an abortion or giving up that child for adoption is not as simple as given up a family pet--no matter how much you love or apart of the family it has become (even though some pet lovers might disagree). It is not the same to her because of the physical properties and very nature of her being to be either blessed or cursed with the responsibility to carry (for 9 months, plus or minus a couple months) and care for (breast feeding and then some) the existence of her species.

Most men and societies know this, which is why most societies have constructed laws that were based on the common knowledge (or general rule) that has realized th
show moreat are species is contingent on making sure our females are protected from the lions, tigers and bears...oh my!!!! Skirrrt!!! (as in stop and look around). Lions, tigers and bears are among the endangered species of our world. So, we no longer have to really worry about becomming extinct by way of thier food. We have been living in an age where other humans make other humans extinct by drawing an invisible line that has been socially constructed on the basis of an ideology called race (skin color, physical attributes and culture among humans). Today, in the 21st century, are problem is not trying to survive as a human race, but as individually socially constructed races among the human race. So, we have redifined what it means to survive and that even includes the role of women. Even though she still has the responsibilty of carrying and caring for (to an extent) the human race, she now only need worry about her particular race, culture and family tree. BUT, she can also afford to worry about herself in this new age instead of just the future of the human race, because even though her body is the only incubator that is condusive to bring forth human life, she now has a choice to dicide if she actually wants to be that vessal, and if so, whether to be or not to be parentally and finacially responsible for that child. As men, we do not (contrary to popular belief) go around spreading our seeds beacause we simply like to slip, slide and hide our most sensitve demise between the devided thighs of every woman that bats her eyes (don't get me wrong, we love to have sex). But we also have a forced nature upon us that drives us to spread our seed in order to pass on our genes. We also experience an inate feeling to take care of our offspring, which entails protecting the women that carry our seed. We as humans are sexual creatures. We love to have sex, which means that, unlike the other creatues of the earth, we do not copulate (have sex) only once or twice a year (unless you've been married for awhile) just to procreate, because we enjoy the act of sex and whatever feeling it brings (gay people do not have sex to procreate). So, if we take away the physical situation of women having abortions, then why shoudn't men have the same rights as women to opt out of being parentally and finacially responsible for a child they do not want or never wanted.
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Well perhaps in the near future....males will have that right to say I don't want to be a father and if she has the child anyway knowing that he doesn't want it then she is sole responsible for that child with only an certain amount of help given in aid from the tax payers Would cause many not to bring a life into the world and perhaps that is whats needed Bruh

Reform is on the way because about half of the American public are tired of taking care of other persons children Not saying that some don't need help at some point along the way but far too many are abusing the system By having three different baby daddies or mommas at the tax payers pocket is coming to and end

Of course white people want this the most because they are only about 10% of the world pop.and truly want to slow the birth rate of other races in order to remain in control that's just one of the underlying reasons behind many reasons its not just about money

But I truly do think certain reforms need to be put in place that will force men and women to make better choices Trust me if a woman knew she couldn't get aid for an un wanted child trust and believe many would think first before having one or making one and since its really a woman's body & choice to bring 4th life

Having a child just because you want to be a mother and the man doesn't will be a father and provider will put before the courts and soon as it sits now they just want to cut the programs that will hopefully cause both genders to think it through because clearly both are not while bumping uglies