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Female, 43, Middle River, MD
Posted Jan 05
...a few women i know actually are doing this.whatever.for the women i know that is content in being number 2, and don't want him to leave his wife, think about the time when you are ready for your man to take you to the alter and jump that broom...and that other woman who is content with your husband not leaving you.but for the women who think there is a ouncey schootch of a chance that he leaves her for you, he won't. because he is content with the arrangement you are allowing. he has the wife who cooks and takes care of business at home. when he has time for you and you are willing to come from the back seat, and fuk in a car or motel or in the secret hide out bathrooms, never see the house, never get the numbers...do what you do best, just know when he does leave her if he ever decides to leave her, know there will be someone else in the same spot you were when you hooked him.i am not judging my girls though, just tired of the complaints. am i missing something here?
Female, 32, Saint Louis, MO
Maybe she can fry a mean bird :/
Female, 32, Phoenix, AZ
Sometimes they do leave the wife though. And when they don't, it's because she's puttin up wit his shyt, not neccessarily the mistress. The wife is content just so long as she doesn't have to be alone. She's afriad of what her friends and family will say if her man divorces her. How will that make her look? And the same with the man. How will that make him look to his peers and such. So she chooses to stay. Or he chooses to stay for that reason. Convenience. So your friends might actually have grounds for stayin. The mistress is often put in first place, even though he chooses to stay with wifey. I've never understood females who argue with the next chick sayin, ''bytch, he comin home to me'' And? You shouldn't even be having to have that convo with a chick whether he's comin home to you or not. It's all crazy. I don't do married men, strictly because to me, you playin with a union tied in the name of GOD. But I dunno. People never learn sometimes. That's life. Sad huh
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Female, 32, North Hero, VT
All I can say is that whatever the husband is telling the women IT MUST BE GOOD...I mean, to believe against reality, to hope against hope...That's a powerful thing right there...Either the mistress is strong, and comes and goes as she pleases using the situation to do what she gotta do...or she's in over her head emotionally and draining everyone around her for some dude who is stringing her along...I don't never see it no other way...
sheeeeeeit...aint that much pigeon or chicken head in the world for it to be unscathed or harmonious.for every action there is a reaction is all.
i see what you are saying. doesnt make it correct. i never condoned it either, but there are some women and men out there who tell themselves it is correct.i cant count on both hands on things we know or accept in american society to be considered incorrect, but we make excuses on why we are just for doing it. that is why 1/2 will say yeah, its right, and the other side with disagree.i dont do married becsuse i am a little selfish. a little more selfish than the ones who actually do it. i cant promise because i dont it, that $hit bad wont happen to me, like karma, saying if i do marry someone, doesnt mean he is not going to have a mistress, but the thing is to try and come close to perfection of not doing things wrong as possible.
yes, i agree with y'all (chantell and pp)...the women i do know who didnt want the man to leave wifey are alright, not really beat for the husband.they exchange gifts, hook up whenever he isnt with the wife, but when she isnt with him, she is on to plan b and c or whatever letter in the alphabet he isnt.my thing is this, you can be strong and independent power biotch, with plan b c to r, if this is the case, why incorporate this married man in that so-called equation?seems like he would be less drama because he can come and go with no committments which is what she may like, but when she is on the opposite end of the scenario, will she understand it when the other chick is walking that mile with her man like she once did with some other womans' husband.she should be able to, but probably wont.
Male, Age Private, Paterson, NJ
Men with wives and families look more appealing than single guys like myself to some women. You have a huge amount of women in their 30's that have never really experienced a long committed stable relationship. Someone like me have no problem declaring he enjoys being single, whereas the married guy might declare that he's looking to jump into another committed relationship, the single life can be rough for someone that's never really been single.
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...a few women i know actually are doing this.whatever.for the women i know that is content in being number 2, and don't want him to leave his wife, think about the time when you are ready for your man to take you to the alter and jump that broom...and that other woman who is content with your husband not leaving you.but for the women who think there is a ouncey schootch of a chance that he leaves her for you, he won't. because he is content with the arrangement you are allowing. he has the wife who cooks and takes care of business at home. when he has time for you and you are willing to come from the back seat, and fuk in a car or motel or in the secret hide out bathrooms, never see the house, never get the numbers...do what you do best, just know when he does leave her if he ever decides to leave her, know there will be someone else in the same spot you were when you hooked him.i am not judging my girls though, just tired of the complaints.
Female, 39, Bronx, NY
nicely put
Posted Jan 06
Male, 40, Corpus Christi, TX
I'm confused???For the women that are ok with being #2 and when the husband is unavailable she moves on to plan b or c or d,---Are you upset that they are happy or content with that? If they don't want him to leave his wife, they don't expect to go to the alter with him. It seems as if you have something against those women's contentedness/happiness of having alternatives. This group of women don't appear to be complaining.You seem to be bitter against both sets of women. Those that want the married man for herself (unhappy and complain) and those that want the married man every now and then (happy and don't complain).Help me out here...
yeah, one thing you are is confused about is my being bitter; have something against; and upset...all those terms you used to describe what you think i'm feeling.this is a life i dont lead; not my husband nor am i a mistress. i dont condone it. and just because i dont approve of it, doesnt make me any of those; and i can glady form an opinion on it.my points are exactly as i said them. to my friends who are not content, what do they expect? so why the crying or complaining. you ask me what to do, i tell you my opinion; you stay stuck on being 2nd. you dont leave so dont complain. simple.the ones i do know who are content, how do you pan out your own life wanting to settle down and expect to be happy with your own husband and not expect stuff to happen. as your name says: karma.no they dont complain, but reason why they have all those plans is because they are trying to filter tthrough until mr right comes. you know the married man isnt him, so why do him... because you can? and so what you didnt get that christmas gift. some people just want too much.what my girls do is what they do, i am always the one on the other end of that line nursing those calls.are you that married man with a mistress, or are the other man seeing that married woman. help me understand your defense of it if any.
Male, 24, Greensboro, NC
Yea that's my thing too, how strong and independent is she if she has to mess with a married man? Sounds like the woman is more full of shyt than anything. There's a shytload of men in the US who are single and looking for a committed relationship why not seek those guys out instead of messing with a married man? There's a shytload of guys in the US who are just looking to fuk again why not mess with them? There's a shytload of guys in the US who are single and just want something casual again why not date them? I just never got "I'm having an affair with a married woman/man" hell what's the point of having an affair period?
yeah, one thing you are is confused about is my being bitter; have something against; and upset...all those terms you used to describe what you think i'm feeling.this is a life i dont lead; not my husband nor am i a mistress. i dont condone it. and just because i dont approve of it, doesnt make me any of those; and i can glady form an opinion on it.my points are exactly as i said them. to my friends who are not content, what do they expect? so why the crying or complaining. you ask me what to do, i tell you my opinion; you stay stuck on being 2nd. you dont leave so dont complain. simple.the ones i do know who are content, how do you pan out your own life wanting to settle down and expect to be happy with your own husband and not expect stuff to happen. as your name says: karma.no they dont complain, but reason why they have all those plans is because they are trying to filter tthrough until mr right comes. you know the married man isnt show moreu can? and so what you didnt get that christmas gift. some people just want too much. what my girls do is what they do, i am always the one on the other end of that line nursing those calls. are you that married man with a mistress, or are the other man seeing that married woman. help me understand your defense of it if any.show less
Female, Age Private, Scottsdale, AZ
sometimes men do leave their wives, it's not the most popular thing but it does happen...I mean look at waiting to exhale...she didn't want to be alone tonight and I thought why should shediary of a mad black woman he just moved his wife out and moved the mistress init happens..I personally am selfish and I don't like to share so this is not an option for me
Male, 36, Phoenix, AZ
Like they say, "It's cheaper to keep her".Some men just only want that side dish: that number two. Makes no sense to get married in the first place to me, but whatever. If a woman is content to being in that role, then cool. Plus, maybe that's her plan...to be number two. ...in HIS life. She may have a number ONE in hers! Maybe she's benefiting from the trips, the sex, the money, paid vacations, hotel rooms, apartments and homes (in some cases). If so, be about your business. He's a sucker.However, if she falls in love with him, then prepare for the consequences. I just don't understand why each party doesn't think of the future and what may result in the end... Oh well...-Z
Female, 29, Towson, MD
When I hear women claim that they are content living that lifestyle, I really don't believe it.I think that for those women, sometimes they have such low self esteems that it makes them feel empowered to actually bring harm to another human being.
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