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twilight_topaz

Male, Age Private, Atlanta, GA

luvherboi21, you probably think my comment was a direct response to yours, but it was not. I actually wrote that comment without reading anything other than the first post. It's simply ironic that the post above mine was what you wrote.

Out of all the women on the planet, Black women have more in common with Black men, than any other women. Black men share with Black women, culture, ethos, and a host of other experiences that non-Blacks are not able to relate to. A Black man saying that a Black woman, whom shares so many similarities with himself is undesirable...is hardly different from saying he finds himself undesirable. This is what I mean by self hatred.

There are lots of brothers who date non-Black women and attempt to justify it by saying that the non-Black women are more sophisticated, lady-like, and cultured. At the same time these brothers will assert that Black women(not some, but practically all of them) are volatile, unstable and unladylike, using
show moree available to create a negative portrait of a Black woman. However...this is just an excuse used to justify self-hatred. Why else go to such an extreme to exclude oneself from dating all Black women? There is a difference between a brother who dates all different ethnicities, and a brother who excludes Black women. To exclude Black women in particular, a Black man has to consciously decide that they are inferior to him. Again, how can one be so superior to one who is so similar to themself? If a Black man does not want to deal with trifling Black women, then he should not date trifling Black women; He should date sophisticated, cultured ones instead. It's not rocket science. Black men who are involved in organizations and clubs are usually outnumbered by the Black women who also participate. These are the sisters who brothers should be going after, but don't. The college educated brother who refuses to date Black women won't use the college educated sister from the National Business Association as an example of Black women, he'll use the highschool drop out as his example. After, all, he needs to convince himself, and others, that there is no such thing as an educated and cultured Black woman. If cultured and educated Black women do exist, then how does he justify his exclusion of Black women? His self hatred would become readily apparent. I've heard sisters and brothers talk about how the reason why they don't date within their own race/ethnic group is because the women/men in their own group are bad/uneducated/rude, ect. However, the reality of the situation is that the ones who complain are specifically dating the most trifling people they can imagine, and are projecting their bad choice of judgment onto all Black men/women. Then these people date outside of their race and are so happy to be dating something different, they fail to realize that they have the exact same problems, but in different flavors. That's why the relationships last just as long, happen just as frequently, and the brothers/sisters who don't date Black are just as unmarried. This isn't happiness, and these Black men have not found their moral fiber. We as men have complete control of who we choose to be with. If we choose to be with women who have weak character, then we have to ask ourselves why we choose to be with these women. It's too easy to blame our poor choices on the women (in this case for being Black), rather than blaming our poor choices on ourselves. It's better to take responsibility for ourselves, then shift the blame on women. If we are never responsible for our own mistakes we will never have any control of them. That is what I meant when I said that Black men who find Black women undesirable have a self hatred complex and usually lack moral fiber.
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jealousonesEnvy711

Male, 38, Temple Hills, MD

archaicwisdom from b4 i left to go live my life from bp doin other things i see the same bw hatin fools on here now as they were then...same guys sittin at home nothin to do cause no bw want them there main m.o. is to downgrade as many bw as possible while collecting unemployment and yappin all day on bp...musicpro...watchitsucka.. .and this ootonybongoo..i just peeped in for a second havent been on here in almost a year and i see folks was still yappin on my post over a month or so after i rolled out to bigger and better things smh suppose to gain and move on these fools fall back all day still arguin over the same bs