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Just know, I am writing this out of worry, honestly. Black men, I know that you hear about ya'll needing to get it together over and over. I'm not going to speak on the same ole, same ole of taking care of the kids, getting a job, etc.... My worry about you just rose a level because I love soul, I love your sensitivity (some of you), even your passiveness (to a point). I just went through some issues and it did not seem that one of you were willing to really help out, I even tried to get help from the "pro black" black nationalist type. My jaw just dropped at the reaction I received in looking for help in the black community mainly amongst black men. It gave me a real reality check as to the state we were in.

As I said above, summed up, I love me some black men, there is nothing like Otis Redding and Al Green to me, however what you had and have that make you unique, you seem to be losing and men of other races seem to be learning your "swag" which was unique to you and put you over even as the under dog in white America; main problem is that they're getting good at it (have suggestions / possible remedies toward the end). I was looking at a Dr. Phil Valentine (metaphysicist) video the other day and he was saying the same thing. He called it a type of osmosis where if you hang around, watch, or just be around someone or something long enough, you can begin to take on its energy (swag, dancing, singing), if nothing else they learn or feel that spirit; best example is music. Elvis, Eminem, Jon B, Robin Thicke, etc... Justin Timberlake can dance good as any brother.

I'm a black woman raised in Mississippi and somewhat naturally do not look "that way" at white guys like most black women I knew however after looking at a white guy with some genuine, swag like realness and this new commercial they have out about some white guy strippers where the white guy is dancing just as good as any black male would (Magic Mike) even I, (at this point on the verge of dislike for certain people because of what I've seen them do) had to look like "well"; gave the same look I would normally give to a black man for having the same kind of rhythm. Point is, if I, as set in my ways as I am, am looking differently and seeing only what I saw you to have in someone else, others are probably also. This particular issue has nothing to do with my looking to you before for assistance, it just compounds it.

I am worried about what will set you apart, what will make you greater on at least some level. One of your last strong holds seems to be slipping.

Good news is, there's almost nothing left but up. The black community is desperately in need of good black men. There's a lot you can do on many levels to help remedy the situation. As far as solutions, my personal favorite (although it will take work and thinking power, ya'll have gotten kind of lazy and thoughtless which helped to get you in this position) is sovereign communities (unofficial) where you can take back some power and put it into your own hands. Even if it means moving back to Africa with family and/or trying another country where you feel like you'll be listened to and get some respect when trying to move up and run things as you feel they should be ran (with intellect and morals please). Get some balls, motivation, and meaningful goals. If you want to succeed as a race, as a man, it has to be more than about "getting paper" and selling your brother out if necessary. You have to reprogram your minds as to what is important, reprogram the way you think; get your priorities straight or else you'll continue to get lower and lower in the ranks of men until you become mundane or below where even a Chinese man may be seen as more desirable because of what he has to offer intellectually and economically (China is doing it economically). Continued passivity, non real planning for your sons and people, laziness, non motivation for the right things, and inactivity is going to phase you out as being a player in the game of manhood as a whole. Please meditate on this, pass it on, and make a do-able plan for your sons.