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she said that's when she said to him see that's why I don't move fast because you never know when people's attitude change or when they are on something they pretend they are not. Then she said she don't understand why black men try and push her to move so fast , she said the idiot said "its because women want them too and they are lying when they say they don't"

kids, he does work on construction but they haven't had a contract in a while although he has a new one now. She fixed him breakfast every morning , even brought him cigarettes and a t shirt but he still had the nerve to comshe said that was it it was the last straw, during their days of spending time together after he begged and begged her and after claiming it was God who had put them together, she provided the transportation because he can't afford it after child support is taken out for his 10 plain about the static in her phone....smh because niggas always trying to blame black women for the ills of the black community. She said she gave him the luxury treatment and he didn't know how to appreciate what she was doing for him but she notices when he was around white folks he was soft as cotton

not just to women he acted like he wasn't in to them but just whites in general, she said a white guy stopped abruptly in front of her as she was driving to let a another car into traffic and she almost hit the car from behind he argued it would have been her fault for hitting the guy because they guy was just being courteous she said she asked him "was he kidding"? and apparently he was not because she says he went on and on about how it would have been her fault eventhough he admitted that she was paying attention but then try to change it and says it depends on what she was thinking about...she then realized he was a habitual liar

they were at a restaurant and she guess this white lady was behind her trying to get a set that she had turned down he saw the woman behind her and acted like my friend was in her way when she didn't even see the lady behind her. She said she ignored these things for a while to make sure she wasn't tripping but when he complained about the phone that was the last straw

I don't see where she did anything wrong,or him being screwed up being her fault.

Sounds to me like she did everything right and she even said she had no regrets

she didnt jump into a relationship with him they were actually going into one so she would test him out at first she is a giver anyway that wasnt her concerned her concerns lay in the fact that he thought he needed to change her????

She admitted it turned petty she even said she don't think he could help his thinking and she could have even respond different.... she was just glad she didnt give into his advances and take it any father, the story isn't about mooching she is a giver, she don't think he was mooching, she just did what she normally does and treat others the way she want to be treated,

instead he had a problem being unappreciative and blaming others for it and trying to change her,

he was really mad she wouldn't give him her regular phone number, she said she was only testing to see if he was the man he was portraying to be, but he didn't fail to be the typical.

CLOSED

Female, 29, Indianapolis, IN

In order to learn from her situation she has to take partial responsibility, they are both to blame because they rush into things.

There is a fine line between being a "giver" and being taken advantage of.

She should have learned over the years that she doesn't have to give to men in order to be treated right.

She sounds very immature.

The part about letting a man sleep in her bed while she slept on the sofa was plain crazy, he could've been a serial killer.

She didn't even want him to have her regular phone number but let him sleep in her bed???

It seems to me that your friend enjoy's unnessary drama in her life or is very naive.

She needs to do some soul seaching and make better decisions.

That wasn't a relationship that was a dysfucational mess.

I dont feel she thinks she got used thats not her issue she does take responsibility for her part and when did i say she didnt know him she called me when she had first met him a yr ago, i just didnt go into details of them just coresponding between then, but when she called me she called and said he said everything right up tp that point but she wanted to test him farther she did know he was too good to be true thats why she NEVER slept with the dude besides she lives with several members of her family two happen to be adult males....not that I needed to go there besides she knows where he works and lives again shes a giver not stupid if you dont like her giving thats on you but to call her immature and accuse her of what you dont know sounds a bit typically harsh, she knew exactly what she did she is grown and did what she wanted just the way she wanted

NotHereToPleaseYou85

Female, Age Private, New York, NY

I dont feel she thinks she got used thats not her issue she does take responsibility for her part and when did i say she didnt know him she called me when she had first met him a yr ago, i just didnt go into details of them just coresponding between then, but when she called me she called and said he said everything right up tp that point but she wanted to test him farther she did know he was too good to be true thats why she NEVER slept with the dude besides she lives with several members of her family two happen to be adult males....not that I needed to go there besides she knows where he works and lives again shes a giver not stupid if you dont like her giving thats on you but to call her immature and accuse her of what you dont know sounds a bit typically harsh, she knew exactly what she did she is grown and did what she wanted just the way she wanted

No need to get defensive NotHere,

I don't know the whole story on your friend but the stuff you posted made your friend sound like a immature drama queen.

A drama queen will put themselves is foolish situation just so they have something to talk about.

Drama Queen's enjoy having unnessary drama in their lives.

If she was my friend I'd be much harsher with her because the whole situation sounds foolish to me.

She's a grown woman agruing over petty stuff like, a man asking to borrow her bike, her driving skills, him skyping his friends on a cell phone saying "he hit it"???

Come on...all that stuff reads as very immature.

Honestly, when I first read all of that I thought your friend was in high school.

I couldn't believe this was a grown woman you were talking about.