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A POINT TO PONDER for us all (A New thought as of 11.22.05):
I hear alot of men ask the question; "Why do women pass up the good guys for a bad guy?". I can`t answer that for all women. Some women are attracted to the wild side that certain men possess. But in my experience as a woman, I ask the same of men. Why are men attracted to the women who are obviously more interested in your pockets, your car and your jewelry than your qualities? Why do men gravitate toward the women who have 2 babies, by 3 different baby daddy`s. Why are men intimidated by a woman who isn`t afraid to expresses her love, admiration, and relationship for God? It`s a two way street.. I often have seen men pass up the classy, God-fearing, down to earth woman for a loud mouth ghetto chick. That is even evident here on BP, the women who get the most attention are the ones with all their "credentials" for view. So it looks like we both as genders, have some self-reflecting to do. Fellas : Here`s some GAME for you to remember about real women. If (special emphasis on IF) you desire a REAL woman; you must stimulate the mental before even thinking about the physical. Women love communication, fellas. You can become a winner for any woman if you stop to ask how her day was, and actually listen to her hour long explanation. Get a woman immersed in a conversation in which makes her smile and/or laugh and I promise you that you will be a number one candidate. Remember fellas, intimacy begins WAAAAYYY before the bedroom. It begins with the mind. Besides that; sex is designed for marriage. I realizesex within the confines of marriage is not a popular concept with most of us these days, but when you think about the rate at which us as a people (African Americans) are contracting AIDS (especially us as AA women) as well as other STDs and the percentage of OOW children our community has compared to others, trust me: it is well worth the wait. All my brothas out there doing their thing in a positive way, be strong, be encouraged, and keep ya head up! Ladies: Not to leave the ladies out, cause we need a word too. If you want to be considered a lady, you must present yourself as such. Acting like a hoochie will get you treated as one. Offer a man more than your body, offer him your mind. As a woman you should be equipped with multiple levels that a man must stimulate before even considering physical intimacy. Allow him to stimulate you mentally, intellectually and most importantly spiritually first and foremost. Have something more to talk about than your hair, nails, and clothes or the latest 50 Cent song. Learn something about sports. Know something about him. How does he feel about family? How does he treat his mother? Connect with Him mentally first. Is God a big part of his life. He can`t lead you in a relationship if he can`t submit to God first. As much as I hate to admit, one of the biggest mistakes alot of us as ladies make is giving ourselves physically, allowing ourselves to be subject to hurt. I think it is a travesty that African American women are 65% more likely toNOT get married than any other race of women. 49% of all single parent households are African American women. That means(1) our men are not marrying us, (2) The divorce rate among us as AA is high and (3) we as women need to make better choices. Think about it ladies. A little about me? I`m 28, single, with no children. My main focuses in life consist of completing my education (1 More semester!), my career goals, family and MOST importantly my genuine desire to strive and become the woman that Christ is calling me to be. Most people say they love God and its only in word not backed by their action, my aim is tolive out my love for God. Phillippians 3:12-"Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me." Indianapolis, In.is where I reside (for the past 10 years), but I am originally from Gary, IN (G.I.) in which I rep (and always will) to the fullest! One thing I have learned and come to appreciate about Gary; is that we are some of the realest, down to earth and most beautiful city of people. Big Up to all my GI people! I won`t get into a long drawn out history of myself. Drop a line or two for any reason at all. I am not looking to necessarily "hook up" with anyone here on BP, only to converse and chat with unique individuals. If you need encouraging words, if you have something interesting to say, have comments on my "point for us all to ponder", or would just like to chat, feel free to hit me with a note or on IM yahoo at yagirlnikki77. *Side Note: "What up shortie", "Hey Sexy", or "what it do" is not something interesting. A quote that I always try to remember, that isn`t necessarily scriptural is: "The shortest distance between a problem and a solution is the distance between your knee and the floor. The man that kneels to God can stand up to anything." which helps to me remember one particular verse, Philippians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me".  You are Ephesians. Which book of the Bible are you? brought to you by Quizilla Which book of the Bible are you? brought to you by Quizilla God Bless. |
