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IF A MAN WANTS YOU Posted November 26th, 2007 at 01:23pm I got this in a email more than once but it really hit home for me this time around. *sigh* If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. C hange comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you are always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT..

Today was a blur of disappointments and shape shifting abd BENDING to make things seem as they were not. Sun was out and all I could do was smile and bear it. Life is too short to get caught up in the crazy tests. They are just TESTS. I just keep telling myself that........SMH. I wish that it were that simple. Lawd knows that calgon or any other man made concoction could not take me away. and though I try wit Olay I still find the wound there. and blaring.... lol laughing even at me in my time of need. So i pray. and i wrestle with my emotions, my needs, my cravings and my soul.......my strength....

Traces and trickle- ings of raw feelings Leave stained paths of residue from a hurtful past with hope for the future. Paths mixed with yesteryear's and yesterday's scars Amid the bittersweet drops of emotion that leave me in-e-bri-ated on How lust- love-loneliness and longing have my world spinning. All the while thoughts run wild visualizing The feel of his skin and taste of his lips, the wild spirit within That challenged me to run free with him. How I long for that "reckless love." As I sit in retro-spect of the spectrum of highs and lows, The depth and width of this awesome experience of co-habitation, I wonder what would I be without the life lessons I have learned , And how would my life differ if I had take a chance on me. Facing the facts that the broken-ness of my existence Caused me to look to others for acceptance, To pages of magazines and television Astray from the teachings of my mother and my Lord In search of my own way, Finding myself in a world of temptation and utter destruction. Where will I turn to shield me from the storm? Who will I run to, to fill my empty space? When will it be my turn to exhale? How will I know if it's right? The dreams of a perfect world form the man that becomes just that, But reality has it that no not one can reach the dream, And those that have tried started the journey with ill will and selfish expectations Not armed with what it takes to last the distance. Once more I ignore intuition and lull in the blissful ignorance of my lustful thought. The magnetism of his smile just makes me weak. If he just didn't look so beautiful to my eyes, taste so good to my lips, Feel so good to my body and mind I could see clearly the intention, But flesh says take the here and now and the "at least" factor. "At least" he has a job, a car, and a space to call his own. "At least" he only has one kid and one baby-momma for all that drama. "At least" he has some home training and just enough chivalry to go with it. You know, those small things that create just enough false reality from his representative. But one more night leads me to this empty place ranting on like I lost my best friend, And I am left sitting at the vanity as traces and trickle-ings of Bittersweet and all too familiar drops of emotion that remind me of A past I thought I forgot, but confronts me once again, For a moment stealing my joy and replacing it with tracks on my satin cheeks Of mascara and Lancome flavored with Vera Wang On a BCBG sexy draping stood up by the man of my so called flighty thoughts, To look upon my frame of a strong ebony Queen made vulnerable by human emotion, Consoling my downed spirit with affirmations of self love. Remembering my worth and my beauty that should never be taken for granted. Embracing that thought of knowing that tomorrow will bring something new. I am on a constant journey of self discovery, walking alone, yet not alone. Girdled by faith and holding on to hope for another day to dream.

This We This thing that we've created surpasses words As I try to describe bliss This emotion creates a blur Of colors warm and deep Deep like I've fallen for you Each time I take the trip You catch me, never let me slip Through the journey of a lifetime Waiting and hoping that a lover's eye would catch mine Like the incense stick glowing Our slow burn of unparalleled passion never to die out Lasting through seasons of change This affair of the heart is strong and not to be taken lightly You delight me, ignite me Excite me and every time we touch so deep I chorus like Jill Unlike any other feeling Wanting only what you give Only want to love you tender, gentle sincere Exchange of heartfelt ecstasy As we hold each other near Cherish you, cherish me, none above this we None can compare To what we've built Intricate architecture intertwining fantasies come true Skyscraping ecstasy heaven waits on our love anew.

Impression A three -quarters view of me to you drew me to you like a magnet into your sphere. Near the emotion that I long for. Your smile sucked me deeper into your sweet charm. I watched your lips formulate flattering phrases and my eyes fluttered with shy amour of your charms Never before has a spirit touched me so deep on sight, colors so warming to the soul. Our embrace so full of promise I had to pinch myself to make sure I was conscious as we stood in each other's arms. A prayer for everlasting was exchanged. Let our vibe ever remain.

Black, Strong, Beautiful Tone brown, mood blue Hard outside, inside soft and true Say what you feel, do it too Percussion of the body Channeled through you Beautiful and black Strong and black Stallion of many generations Becoming to my eyes Always true to yourself Beautiful blackness Stand with pride