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They say that at some point in life you stop learning but that's
not I recently turned 50 and realize i'm still learning. Il'm
learning to be human is to era or still make mistakes. I'm learning
that there may not be things that you can change and sometimes you
have to accept that. I'm learning you need to not take thing 's for
granted like you really have friend's you're , your only friend.
There are people who say there is no God but I believe that there
is a GOD. But he or she is held within us, and it's about belief.
What do you believe?
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A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others.
She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the
person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She
is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman is
hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She
knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love
has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for
granted, it soon disappears. A good woman has a dash of
inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at
times, have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them.
A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves
toward the future. A good woman knows God. She knows that with God
the world is her playground, but without God she will just be
played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of
her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are
merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and
unconditional self love. A good woman understand what her man needs
and will let him lead she will also walk beside him as he take the
lead. She also understand in order to get respect she must give
respect and respect herself as well. A good woman is one who can
cook, clean and be a mother, wife, lover, friend. nurse, doctor,
lawyer, preacher, teacher and more to her family without losing
herself. A good woman believes all of the above so I believe that a
good woman is me.
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An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved
and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation,
immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem,
make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't
fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as
faults aren't really important. Once you decide to commit to
someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerary-abilities, pet
peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your
mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to
learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional
needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two
unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life
together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each
other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment
and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and
control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past
relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take
someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone
love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem,
spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making
someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your
pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness
are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting
relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the
wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship
strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humour, sharing
household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and
daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a
note). Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow
together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow
without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest.
You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging
and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents
regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods.
Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing,
the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse,
neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion. The difference
between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.
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