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I am an African American male, lightskinned, 6`0, 190, muscular built, well groomed, Family oriented, Spritual grounded, Educated and Blessed. If the ladies(Chicago area or around the Planet ) are interested(friendships or just want a good conversation) send a note or let chat.



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LIFE IS TO SHORT TO WORRY ABOUT OUR PAST EXPERIENCES. THINK ABOUT HOW GOD HAS BROUGHT YOU OUT OF BAD SITUATIONS, RELATIONSHIPS, AND POVERTY. HOWEVER, THE TRIALS WE`RE GOING THROUGH IS ONLY A TEST OF OUR FAITH. HOLD ON! THE TEST IS NEVER ENDING. THEREFORE, THE RESULTS OF YOUR PATIENCE IS AWARDING. YOU JUST HOLD ON, HOLD ON!(DMC)



"Perseverance is not one long race; it is many short races one after another."



Two Days We Should Not Worry



There are two days in every week about which we should not worry,

two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is Yesterday with all its mistakes and cares, its faults

and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our

control. All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday. We cannot

undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said.

Yesterday is gone forever.

The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow with all its possible

adversities, its burdens, its large promise and its poor performance.

Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.

Tomorrow`s sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds,

but it will rise.

Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow, for it is yet to be born.

This leaves only one day, Today.

Any person can fight the battle of just one day.

It is when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities,

Yesterday andTomorrow that we break down.

It is not the experience of Today that drives aperson mad,

it is the remorse or bitterness of something which happened Yesterday and

the dread of what Tomorrow may bring.

Let us, therefore, Live but one day at a time.





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What I desire in a Woman!



To begin with, she must be a friend with a good understanding that a relationship is built on Trust, Honesty, Loyalty and Faith.



Second, she must have an open mind for any alternatives focusing on our relationship.



Third, she shouldn`t compare me with her previous relationships(no old baggage).



In Conclusion, A woman who knows she is not perfect, but strives to be a perfectionist. (DMC)



To all my BlackPlanet Brothers and Sisters. Read below!



Here Are The Needs Of Men And Woman


Women need to RECEIVE:


1.Caring
2.Understanding
3.Respect
4.Devotion
5.Validation
6.Reassurance


Men need to RECEIVE:

1.Trust
2.Acceptance
3.Appreciation
4.Admiration
5.Approval
6.Encouragement


Men and women generally are unaware that they have different emotional
needs. As a result they do not
instinctively know how to support each other. Men typically give in
relationships what men want, while women give
what women want. Each mistakenly assumes that the other has the same needs
and desires. As a result they both
end up dissatisfied and resentful.

Both men and women feel they give and give but do not get back. They feel
their love is unacknowledged and
unappreciated.

For example, a women thinks she is being loving when she asks a lot of
caring questions or expresses concern. This
can be very annoying to a man. He may start to feel controlled and want
space. She is confused, because if she were
offered this kind of support she would be appreciative. Her efforts to be
loving are at best ignored and at worst
annoying.

Similarly, men think they are being loving, but the way they express their
love may make a woman feel invalidated
and unsupported. For example, when a woman gets upset, he thinks he is
loving and supporting her by making
comments that minimize the importance of her problems. He may say "don't
worry, it's not such a big deal." Or, he
may completely ignore her, assuming he is giving her a lot of "space"
to cool off and go into her cave. (IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER FOOT, HE WOULD BE THE ONE WHO NEED THE SPACE.) What he thinks is support makes her feel minimized, unloved, and ignored.

When a woman is upset she needs to be heard and understood. Without this
insight into different male and female needs, a man doesn't understand why his attempts to help fail. (SHE JUST WANTS TO DISCUSS HER FEELINGS
AND EMPTY HER EMOTIONAL TANK - NOT FOR HIM TO FIX IT.) This is also a good
time to be cuddling, caring and understanding. Otherwise, pointing out how unimportant her
concerns are (thinking he is helping it go away) could provoke an argument in her may even get yelled at over an over until you have no other choice but to be quiet and listen. Is that familiar guys?

By learning this list VERY WELL (it is not natural because it is your other
side), you can easily see why your
partner may not feel loved. And most important, this list can give you a
direction to improve your relationships with
the opposite sex when you don't know what else to do.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR PRIMARY NEEDS

Certainly every man and woman ultimately needs all twelve kinds of love. To
acknowledge the six kinds of love
primarily needed by woman does not imply that men do not need these kinds
of love. Man also need caring,
understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance. What is
meant by "primary need" is that fulfilling a
primary need is required before one is able fully to receive and appreciate
the other kinds of love?

A man becomes fully receptive to and appreciative of the six kinds of love
primarily needed by women (caring,
understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance) when his own
primary needs are first fulfilled.
Likewise a woman needs trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration,
approval, and encouragement. But before she
can truly value and appreciate these kinds of love, her primary needs first
must be fulfilled.

Understanding the primary kinds of love that your partner needs is a
powerful secret for improving relationships on
Earth. It's easy for a woman to give what she needs and forget that her
favorite Man may need something else.
Likewise men tend to focus on their needs, losing track of the fact that
the kind of love they need is not always
appropriate for or supportive of their favorite Woman.

The most powerful and practical aspect of this new understanding of love is
that these different kinds of love are
reciprocal. For example, when a Man expresses his caring and understanding,
a Woman automatically begins to
reciprocate and return to him the trust and acceptance that he primarily
needs. The same things happens when a
Woman expresses her trust - a Man automatically will begin to reciprocate
with the caring she needs.

1. SHE NEEDS CARING AND HE NEEDS TRUST When a man shows interest in a
woman's feelings and heartfelt
concern for her well-being, she feels loved and cared for. When he makes
her feel special in this caring way, he
succeeds in fulfilling her first primary need. Naturally she begins to
trust him more. When she trusts, she become
more open and receptive.

When a woman's attitude is open and receptive toward a man he feels
trusted. To trust a man is to believe that he is
doing his best and that he wants the best for his partner. When a woman's
reactions reveal a positive belief in her
man's abilities and intentions, his first primary love need is fulfilled.
Automatically he is more caring and attentive to
her feelings and needs.

2. SHE NEEDS UNDERSTANDING AND HE NEEDS ACCEPTANCE When a man listens
without judgment but
with empathy and relatedness to a woman express her feelings, she feels
heard and understood. An understanding
attitude doesn't presume to already know a person's thoughts or feelings;
instead, it gathers meaning from what is
heard, and moves toward validating what is being communicated. The more a
woman's need to be heard and
understood is fulfilled, the easier it is for her to give her man the
acceptance he needs.

When a woman lovingly receives a man without trying to change him, he feels
accepted. An accepting attitude does
not reject but affirms that he is being favorably received. It does not
mean the woman believes he is perfect but
indicates that she is not trying to improve him, that she trusts him to
make his own improvements. When a man feels
accepted it is much easier for him to listen and give her the understanding
she needs and deserves.

3. SHE NEEDS RESPECT AND HE NEEDS APPRECIATION When a man responds to a
woman in a way that
acknowledges and prioritizes her rights, wishes, and needs, she feels
respected. When his behavior takes into
consideration her thoughts and feelings, she is sure to feel respected.
Concrete and physical expressions of respect,
like flowers and remembering anniversaries, are essential to fulfill a
woman's third primary love need. When she
feels respected it is much easier for her to give her man the appreciation
that he deserves.

When a woman acknowledges having received personal benefit and value from a
man's efforts and behavior, he
feels appreciated. Appreciation is the natural reaction to being supported.
When a man is appreciated he knows his
effort is not wasted and is thus encouraged to give more. When a man is
appreciated he is automatically empowered
and motivated to respect his partner more.

4. SHE NEEDS DEVOTION AND HE NEEDS ADMIRATION When a man gives priority to
a woman's needs and
proudly commits himself to supporting and fulfilling her, her fourth
primary love need is fulfilled. A woman thrives
when she feels adored and special. A man fulfills her need to be loved in
this way when he makes her feelings and
needs more important than his other interests-like work, study, and
recreation. When a woman feels that she is
number one in his life then, quite easily, she admires him.

Just as a woman needs to feel a man's devotion, a man has a primary need to
feel a woman's admiration. To admire
a man is to regard him with wonder, delight, and pleased approval. A man
feels admired when she is happily amazed
by his unique characteristics or talents, which may include humor,
strength, persistence, integrity, honesty, romance,
kindness, love, understanding and other so-called old-fashioned virtues.
When a man feels admired, he feels secure
enough to devote himself to his woman and adore her.

5. She Needs Validation and He Needs Approval When a man does not object to
or argue with a woman's feelings
and wants but instead accepts and confirms their validity, a woman truly
feels loved because her fifth primary need
is fulfilled. A man's validating attitude confirms a woman's right to feel
the way she does. (It is important to
remember one can validate her point of view while having a different point
of view.) When a man learns how to let a
woman know that he has this validating attitude, he is assured of getting
the approval that he primarily needs.

Deep inside, every man wants to be his woman's hero or knight in shining
armor. The signal that he has passed her
tests is her approval. A woman's approving attitude acknowledges the
goodness in a man and expresses overall
satisfaction with him. (Remember, giving approval to a man doesn't always
mean agreeing with him.) An approving
attitude recognizes or looks for the good reasons behind what he does. When
he receives the approval he needs, it
becomes easier for him to validate her feelings.

6. She Needs Reassurance and He Needs Encouragement When a man repeatedly
shows that he cares,
understands, respects, validates, and is devoted to his partner, her
primary need to be reassured is fulfilled. A
reassuring attitude tells a woman that she is continually loved.

A man commonly makes the mistake of thinking that once he has met all of a
woman's primary love needs, and she
feels happy and secure, that she should know from then on that she is
loved. This is not the case. To fulfill her sixth
primary love need he must remember to reassure her again and again.

Similarly, a man primarily needs to be encouraged by a woman. A woman's
encouraging attitude gives hope and
courage to a man by expressing confidence in his abilities and character.
When a woman's attitude expresses trust,
acceptance, appreciation, admiration, and approval it encourages a man to
be all that he can be. Feeling encouraged
motivates him to give her the loving reassurance that she needs.

The best comes out in a man when his six primary love needs are fulfilled.
But when a woman doesn't know what he
primarily needs and gives a caring love rather than a trusting love, she
may unknowingly sabotage their relationship.

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