I`m socially and politically conscious and about being an asset to others its definitely not all about me. As people of color we have to learn that we`ve been given the gift of a "unique self" ... that the beauty of others is not seen with the eyes but with the heart ... that the value of life is best measured not by the years spent accumulating possessions, but the moments spent giving of one`s self - sharing wisdom, inspiring hope, wiping tears and touching hearts...
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MEAN what you Say and Say only what you mean and never make someone your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option!
If I Could Have...
A true friend who could go toe-to-toe with me mentally and emotionally. Someone who doesn't feel they need to place serious demands on there partner to be happy. A women that could vibe with an independent soul who prizes a lover that understands and embraces the value of ones on space and time. She would know mental stimulation is as exciting as the act of making love itself. She would demand truthfulness, honest, loyalty and open communication because she knows these are the elements that develop and grow lasting, meaningful relationships. A smile would come across her face as she thought about my sense of adventure. Lastly the lady would be an equal in the bedroom which would prove to be the final irresistible lure for me. I`m truly a philosopher, wanderer and explorer who insists on living life to the fullest. If I could have this women......
I Would Never Let Her Go!!!!!
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In response to a couple of notes I`ve received
I m as ready as one could be for something you've expected to happen all of your life. She will feel my love without a touch and she will know my love without words, she helps me breathe.......You asked, CAN YOU PUT HER TO SLEEP WITH THE MELODY OF YOUR VOICE? ....Baby what s wrong? Don t worry I ll handle it. My manly voice will sooth her fears and comforts her mind as she listens to the prayers of a righteous man. She will feel the security of my arms and know the greatest feeling of safety as we snuggle in......You asked, ARE YOU WILLING TO SURRENDER A LITTLE OF YOUR TIME AND SPACE FOR HER, ARE YOU WILLING TO LISTEN TO HER THOUGHTS OR VIEWS AND REMAIN OPEN MINDED WHEN SHE`S SPEAKING ON ANY SUBJECT ....This is a question of respect one way conversations are for dictators. I think its important to make time for each other, how could I call her my queen in one breath and my actions show me treating her like my doormat? Her thoughts and opinions are her own which are just as important as mine, everyone wants to be heard. Listening is the key and it must be a primary element in laying a solid foundation when building relationships.
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YOU STATED: YOU MAKE IT SOUND SO EASY. WHY HAVEN`T YOU BEEN SCOOPED UP YET? YOU`VE BEEN ON THE BP A WHILE?
I don t claim to have it all figured out; I just know what it takes to make me happy. You could only be scooped-up if you want to be. We re all human looking for some of the same things well most of us anyway! No one person has it all figured out. Even when people seem to have it all together they really don t. They need just like everyone else we just assume they don t have problems because they re the ones usually giving all the advice, WRONG . Truth be told the words are on-loan. I ll need to hear some of the same words I write about back from someone else when it s my turn to go through the storm. We re all trying to figure it out I just happen to put it out there the way I see it.
Thank you, for sharing.....
What are your thoughts?
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"Deep N the Corner"
Teach your mind to be quiet...
This simple concept contains great wisdom. How many times have you had to face the negative consequences of a job poorly done? Our actions, words and thoughts all have an effect, positive or negative. Thoughtless words cause emotional pain or lead to physical violence. Thoughtless actions may even haunt you forever. Negative thoughts affect our health and well-being.
Choices seem overwhelming. There`s always something new or on sale. If we try to do too many things, for example, develop computer skills, work, look after the family, cook, build a new meaningful relationship, etc., our time and energy are spread thinly across these activities. Quality of time and effort will naturally be compromised and the results may be mediocre at best.
We all must learn to focus fully on what we are doing in that moment. This ability to focus completely on the task at hand enables us to gather and concentrate all our available physical, mental and emotional resources to achieve the best outcome.
Our minds tend to be clouded with thousands of seemingly random thoughts. We are easily distracted and become reactive, instead of pro-active. Bad news and difficult problems tend to depress or intimidate us. We become controlled by what is out there, instead of what is happening within. By learning to strengthen our focus and sense of purpose, we become more stable and resilient.
Use these thoughts to strengthen your essential energy. It will improve your mind and build confidence. Work on self-control which will gradually help you to calm the mind. The ability to keep the mind still and remain centered helps us to deal with problems more effectively. When you are able to quiet the mind, you`ll begin to think more clearly and deeply. Dwelling on negative events which have long passed indicates a lack of self mastery. Most people find themselves turning over their problems again and again,even though no new insight is gained from this vicious circle. Turn off the constant chatter of the mind, give it a rest!
Many of us live out our lives in a routine, almost trance-like state, to a point where we are no longer living, but only existing. Do something for your self start developing your mind and body. Challenge your habitual conditioning and perceptions of what you are capable of. Most of us do not know how to overcome our weaknesses. We are constantly underestimating the tremendous unrealized potential of our minds. Everyone wants happiness. Most of us spend endless amounts of energy and time looking for it. If we are able to appreciate the moment and focus our minds on what we do, we will find greater enjoyment and fulfillment in our daily lives.
Tools to help you focus:
Confidence - believe in your own ability to learn and to accomplish.
Determination - if you are determined to enjoy life, you will achieve it. Once you have mastered determination, practice it according to the goals you set for yourself. Use thoughts of "living in the moment"
Diligence - practice every day. Don`t make excuses. This is the way to develop your mind and body.
With the right attitude and effort, we can all develop. I wish you all the best and stay on the path! Remember that it`s quality, not quantity, that counts.
