Once upon a time, women did not give themselves as freely to men they didn't know or barely knew. When I was growing up women did not want to be considered "a ho", men weren't jumping in line for a serious relationship with the girl that had sexed everyone around.
I was taught that my body is the most precious thing I own. I taught this to BOTH my son and my daughter. And I think, in reality, most people believe that about themselves. The ego is alive and kicking.
The thing I question is this... If you believe you are the most precious thing you have... then why are you willing to share it with anyone? This is where the biggest shift in our culture has occured. It wasn't that we weren't having premarital sex. It was that we weren't having sex with any and everybody. We were at least looking for someone to love us... or to fool ourselves that they did.
Someone's Pastor was correct, giving yourself away does empty and bankrupt us. So much so.. we draw on other people to heal us from the poor choices we have made and then we drain them too. I am trying so hard to understand the mentality that is prevelant today of "F*ck 'em first and the decide I don't like them later". I am so lost with that. This is what brings baggage.
So you go sex somebody you don't know, haven't taken the time to know and you have no idea what they believe, what values and morals they have or don't have. And then two weeks later or 3 months later, you are wondering wth you got into. How could they be so off... They called you out of your name, they gave you an std... they are crazy and stalking you... they forced themselves into your world and you cannot get rid of them...
Now what...??? You have a problem. One that wouldn't exist had you taken the time to know who and what you were dealing with (or at least attempted to). You finally get out of that bullshyt... and 6 weeks later (if then) its on to the next one. No evaluation of how you wound up there, no healing, no evaluating of the next one...
So this cycle continues and now... you believe all men/women are shyt. Or you are now the jealous insecure one, so you are stalking, because you got whipped by the sex and they didn't.
Bankrupt people... that go and bankrupt someone else.
Or... you meet someone, who really isn't the one you should be with, but you are feeling them. Damn they make the horns stand on the top of your head. Dyck hard, juices flowing...umph.. and then they teach you some things. Some things you would have never considered... and your sexual world has just been expanded.
Problem is.... this really wasn't the one for you.. But damn they stick with you... and what was once taboo is now the norm for you. "You take everywhere you have been... where you are headed". Remember that... But... let's say that now you have met the perfect person. Personality, same spiritual and mental level. That mind dance of verbal foreplay is on... erotic... intense... and you lay down and the sex is off the hook... except that "new" trick you learned... turns them off.... they are not interested in the slightest... Ahhhhh.... now what? What do you do with that last one that you are now carrying with you? That became part of your world... and should not have...
Bankrupt.. and you need to find the one that fulfills you... Will you... Will you find your "new" standard of a total package that can give you what you need now... but didn't 6 months ago???
Sex for the hell of having sex, may feel good... but later... you go home and are still empty. Your life is still missing someone. Empty sex to me is worse than no sex. When two people lay down together and the sex is about completing a bond... its sending someone off the charts because you love and care about them... and because you get fed off them being fed... that is liberating
