matrixone05 WesleyWest... you will be greatly missed... RIP.... - Oct 26 add/view comments (0)

I will post and share news articles about famous individuals but I normally don't make extended comments on the life and passing of the rich and famous.

However, as I watched the funeral of Ted Kennedy this morning... I was reminded how much I admired him as a person and why. As a member of an extremely wealthy and priviliged family... He was part of that family tradition, raised in an environment that promoted service. As a wealthy priviliged man, he was exposed to a life and experiences that most of us cannot and will not ever grasp.

I look at his life and see the reflection of two teachings of Jesus, which stick out to me. One he edifies and the other...I believe he will be an exception to.

The one he edified was "Am I My Brother's Keeper?" and ohhhh was he... In his family, he became the source of strength that stepped in to be the father figure and source of support for those that were left behind by the many tragedies that struck that family. In his life of service to his community and this country, he was a champion for equality, rights, priviliges and services that should have been basic and accessible to all. His voice was strong. He fought for others with strength and passion. He used his status, wealth, connections and access to privilige not for selfish means, but to make life better for others.... What a remarkable man. How many people really try to make life better for someone else? How many people really have a genuine spirit of empathy?

I believe that God put us on this earth for the sole purpose of "Love"... To experience it and to share it. Sharing the love that is within has connotations that are as deep and wide as the oceans that surround us. When I watched his funeral, I noticed that something I frequently tell others stood out...

"When we close our eyes, what will matter will not be the things we have accumulated... But the people we have touched. Our eulogies will not be focused on what we have... But the things we have done. We cannot take things with us, we can leave a strong legacy of love... That will be passed on and endure forever."

Ted Kennedy took none of his wealth and privilige with him... Which brings me to the second teaching of Jesus that stands out when I think of his contributions to this world... "It is harder for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven, than it is for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle." This I believe he will be the exception to. His works, deed and apparent faith... Lead me to believe that when he comes face to face with our Father.... He will hear the words... "Well done."

And so with all of the deaths of the rich and famous that we have seen just this year alone, I have written of none of them. Not that they have not made contributions to this world... They have and those contributions were duly noted. But I make note of the passing of this man... Because my life and the life of all those I know was impacted in some way... By the positive contributions and sacrifices that he made....

Well done Ted Kennedy.

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Let me start by saying, I have no idea where I am heading with this yet... I just know that I read another "how long would you wait for a title" thread... and I felt a long winded rant coming on...

Why do I read so many threads from women.... attached to men... that had NO intention of EVER being anything more to them than a DYCK?
Why do I read so many comments from men that say... I won't value you less if you sleep with me on the first date and wonder... ARE you willing to tell YOUR daughter, or YOUR sister, or YOUR niece, or YOUR mother... go ahead, sleep with him... he will still value you?
Why are we in a rush for sex? Why do we throw caution to wind so quickly... knowing the danger we face ahead?
Why is it that once we know in our hearts, he doesn't want to us like that... do we try to MAKE it... that which it is not?
Why do we risk our hearts... that is attached to our v-jays... with a man whose character we do no know?
Why do we go there, let him take over our lives, break our hearts, fill our suitcases with drama.... and dammit... start over again with the next one?
Why do we think... our bodies can keep a man or make him change his mind?
Why do we f*ck you first and realize... we really don't like you at all.... later?
Why is it that we will not share our thoughts or histories with just anyone... but will open our bodies to someone we have only had 15 minutes of conversation with?

I am well aware this is not all women... and that this is not all men doing this... this is my disclaimer and acknowledgement of that fact... But I am old school when it comes to this. I don't believe that every man should have access to my body. I don't believe every man should have access to yours.

While I do believe that we were given the ability to enjoy one another physically for a reason.... I do not believe we are supposed to share the essence of the most valuable thing we own (ourselves) with anyone...

I am not judging anyone... to each his own... but I read these threads... These stories of "woe is me", "he done me wrong", "why can't I have a title" and I wonder.

Why didn't you know he only wanted sex?
Why didn't you ask in the beginning what he wanted?
Why didn't you ask if he was interested in a relationship?
Why didn't you find out if he was interested in a relationship... with you?
Why didn't you find out WHAT he wanted in a relationship first and IF you were the one that could give it to him?
Why didn't you speak up for you... and put your cards on the table and say... this is what I want? Do you want the same thing?
Why didn't you take the time to understand who he was, what he was about... if he had character and integrity?

What happened to getting to know someone first?
What happened to understanding who they were... IF they were the possibly the one for you?
What happened to wanting someone to know who you are... what you bring to table?
What happened to valuing oneself enough to wait until you understood those things BEFORE the "sexing"??
What happened to saying... you are NOT the one.. BEFORE you gave that which you can never take back..?

What happened to Relationships?

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