newlife21 why is it so hard to find a real woman not a girl pretending to be a woman - May 04, 2011 add/view comments (1) |
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Sso hit me up hervell1985@yahoo.com ymsg hervell1985 WHAT IS LOVE ANYWAYS?? PLEASE READ... SUM REAL ASS SHYT!! Many people believe that love is a sensation that generates when Mr. or Mrs. right appears....no wonder so many people are single. Many people approach a relationship either consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation based on physical and emtotional attraction that magically, spontaneous generates when that special person appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the majic just isn't there anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of love. The key word is passivity. The sad consequence of this misconception is: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." Love is the attachment that results in deeply appreciating another's goodness. See what we value most in ourselves, we value most in others. God created us to see ourselves as good(hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). So, to, we seek goodness in others. Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence and talent (all of which counts for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love. Trust Me! If that person don't see the same goodness in you, love is not possible because it really takes two to love. I like to say give and receive. Remember a person can't love if they don't want to be loved. Love is a choice, if love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen--you can make it happen, love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another. If you can do this easily you'll love easily but will be varnuble to a lot fake love in return and also pain. Obviously, there is a far distance between personal love/unconditional love. See unconditional love is rooted from within....only a person who's captures your true love will receive it......because you see the true goodness in them. Actions affect feelings. How can you deepen your love for someone? Actions affect our feelings the most. If you want become more compassionate, thinking copassionate thoughts will be a start. Giving ultimately is the key. While most people think that love leads to giving....the truth is actually the total opposite, giving leads to love. The first action of giving is care, demonstrating the active concern for a persons life and growth. The second is responsibilty, responding to their expressed an unexpressed needs, esp. emotional needs. The third is respect, the ability to see a person as they really are, to be aware of their unique individuality, and consequently, wanting that person to grow and unfold as they are. These three actions all depends on the fourth, knowledge. You can care for, respond to, and respect another only as deeply as you know them. The effect of ginuine giving is profound. It allows you into anothers person world and opens you up to percieving their goodness. At the same time, it means investing a part of yourself in the other, enabling to love that person as you love yourself. In conclusion love is also a behavior, a relationship thrives when two partners are committed to behaving lovingly through continual, unconditional giving-- not only saying "I love you" but showing it! See in the end love is really overated and inexplicable anyway found this love |
