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Ahem.... Is this thing on I, am an enlightened, PROUD Black Man who is at the threshold to the next level, the next step in this journey called life, my journey, the next chapter, in this present existence. "THIS" book is not a drama. it's a mega epic "ADVENTURE/COMEDY/FANTASY , filled with excitement and wonder. I am very passionate about my career, my life, and my destiny! I am now living life on purpose, And the view is beautiful. That's a big accomplishment, because when you live life on someone else's terms, (THEIR dreams hopes and desires at the expense of your own), or you're just un-equally yoked, "Where's the fun in that"? Don't get me wrong, that it's expected for a Man (Me), to sacrifice (if necessary) for my woman, for the benefit of the whole, and I'm willing to be all that my woman needs me to be. BUT, if you constantly give and give, and you look into your pockets, and you come up with lint (metaphorically speaking, and probably literally, too), then "That Ain't Right!" If you grip an orange and squeeze it, what comes out of it? Well, of course, orange juice, because thats what's in it. (Duh) Does it matter WHO squeeze it? Does it matter what time of day it is? Does it matter if you use your hand or a pair of pliers? Does it matter where you squeeze it? Of course not. No matter what the situation is, that's ALL that's gonna come out, orange juice. How did the orange juice get in there in the first place? Who cares! Just enjoy what GOD blessed us with and drink the damn thing. Now, if someone squeezes YOU, what comes out of you? Anger, bitterness, resentment, jealousy, hostility, etc? Well, no one put that there, because it was already in you. (Well, I take that back. That probably was picked up by you as you were growing up). We're all (to varying levels) like that Pavlovian dog, bundles of pre-programmed responses into predictable outcomes, until we finally cut the strings on the puppet...then...life begins. THAT'S where you'll find me...waiting for you, and if you're not there, but WANT to be, then DAMMIT, Let's Ride or Die!!!! We'll do it together. Life is worth the struggle and sacrifice, IF for the right cause, and the right woman. Are YOU worth it? Are YOU the right woman? (Yea, you're probably saying to youself RIGHT NOW, "I know I'm the right woman!!! And if you THINK that you are, (which you THINK you do), what about you makes it so? How do you know? Based on what? Play no mind games with yourself, and claim that you are this and that. But you're gonna do that anyway, because you WANT to believe that you are the right one. The thought that you may not be, doesn't even cross your mind. I undersatand what U women go through to find a "good man". And the majority of the time, U find just scrubs. However, we "good men" go through the same thing; we find the majority of the time, just scrubs! Luckily, this BP page is not for the scrubs, but for the "real women" out there. O.K. now. You're probably asking yourself the question, "well, how does he know that he is the right man?". Good question. I'll answer that one at the end of this discussion.I have gotten a lot of responses about this page, a lot in the positive. But there are those of U that take it personal with comments such as, "How come U don't mention about the guys out there who do the same thing", and "I'm not that way, how could U criticize Black Women that way", etc. Well...i agree that most men act the same way, in addition to a whole new set of issues that Black Women deal with. However, this page is not set up to defend nor criticize Black Men. These are MY thoughts, from a Black Heterosexual Man's point of view, in relation to Black Women. If U want to get the other side of the story, then start your own page! ALRIGHT THEN.......................... .... Something just got flaired up in you to respond....it's in your throat......... I know I started something. But relax, (if this ain't you, then you have no problem with what I'm saying.)....... Let's see where this goes....... (This may be the dialog you may have in your mind, probably as you're reading this)............. "Well, I know that I am a good woman because I am smart, and pretty, and I don't take no s*^t from no man, and he's just gonna have to deal with it, and ... blah blah, blah." How do you know that you are good woman? Based on what? Just because YOU say so? Who else can validate your goodness? Your ex-man (man/woman)? Your "girls"? Who taught you that? But wait...there's more... "They couln't deal with me cause I made more money than him, I'm smarter than he is, and he can't handle that, guys were always looking at me, and he was jealous, and he was insecure and jealous", and more blah blah blah. Well...probably. Obviously, he, as well as you, had some insecuriy issues to deal with. Why even go there? He's your teammate. That's like your teammate going to the hoop to score a basket for YOUR team, and you slap the ball out of his hands, because YOU Didn't do it. Well, again, how do you know that you are a good woman? By who's definition? Is that an accurate definition? Oh... "well they were just the problem. All of them. It's their fault. They just can handle a STRONG BLACK WOMAN", you say. Well...probably. (I think it's more mind game B.S., but...nevertheless) There are a lot of dumb a@# people (men and women) out there. And unfortunately, we hook up with them looking for THEM to fulfill some lack within us, "He makes me happy", "He makes me laugh", and as dumb A@# Kobe Bryant said, "She Completes Me!". "WE" are responsible for OUR completion ourselves. No one can COMPLETE YOU. At best...they can only COMPLIMENT you. All of those qualities already have to be in you BEFORE you even meet him or get with anyone else to give HIM the best of YOU. But, what's in you to compliment? What's in you worthy of such high praise? Jealousy, envy, anger, baggage from old relationships, Baby daddy, etc. When those situations come up, and they will (when they SQUEEZE YOU) do those things come out of you? Who would want to drink that? Play no mind games.... Ah!!! But, here it is! Everything before this was the climax. Here comes the orgasm. The real mind game. The ultimate self mind fu#k of them all. "It was ALL their fault. They were the problem. They made me do that. the broke muthaf#$%^a","That's why it didn't work" "That's why I only date white men, the Short D%#k NI%#a" (I personally have never been told that, but anyhoo), they were this and that and whatever"., you say. BLAH... in your own mind...also, with the so-called support mechanism of your "girls"....the ones that are in worse shape than you. And you go to THEM with your man problems and for advice. Give me a Mu%$A F@#$in' break! Who wants to compliment that? There's a little saying that "Wherever you go, THERE YOU ARE!" A little hint ...You have to be "that" in which you seek. Now, I've been through that. I've had my own levels on insecurities when I was younger, immature, and unknowing of myself. Just being honest here. But NOW... I'm a Growwwwn Asssssss Maaaaaaan!!!!!!!!!! And I look back on my past life and see that I needed to go through THAT, to transcend THAT. Whoa...Who said that? I feel like Moses on the mountain top.... Give me some WAA TAA.... That's what I been saying about myself at the top of this page. I've transcended all that mess. This question almost NEVER comes up to those unenlightened ones when it comes to relationships.... "What is it about ME that attracted that person in my life?" Negativity attracts negativity......... IN ANY FORM!!!!! AHHHHH...... Now, the lights are coming on. But is anyone home? In all of those situations with different men, or women (whatever floats your boat), YOU were the common denoninator. You were there all along. Self awareness... self discovery... self responsibility... the beginning to true enlightenment... Some of you were even verbally and physically abused by these same men in those relationships.. Now I'm not saying that it was your fault. Of course not....THAT WAS WRONG!!!I'm not blaming the victim. BUT....... (and that's a big but, no pun intended) Some of you, (and I'm not calling any names, just keep looking ahead) push those buttons in men (or you know of a girlfriend, MOM, sister, etc) who push those buttons, for them to do those evil things. Then you say "see, I knew he wasn't S#$#". And at the same time your "girls" you go to, say, "Girl, I knew he wasn't S@#$, like a Hen choir, all in unison. But on the flip side of that, the so-called men should be man enough not to do those things to you either........His A@# should be fist beaten!!!!!!!! Are you courageous enough, brave enough, to see within yourself, and finally get to the root of the problem. Now we can get somewhere. But eventually, "it'll come out in the wash"! I now enjoy every day of my life. It is a joy. To be associated with me (no ego, just confidence) is to be associated with bringing into your life the beautiful and wonderful things that may have been eluding you most of your life that I have in abundance in mine. But it already has to be in you for you to understand what's being said here. I can't put that in you. And if you don't relate to this, then it's alright. Go to someone else's page; the wanna be thug, the fake wanna be rapper, the other self mind f@#ked individual.
You're perfect for one another.
As Respucia said in the movie "Norbit" "How'r YOU doin'?
However.......
If you are REALLY ready to experience love, true love, life, joy, happiness, laughter, peace and growth, (and we may even do a little traveling and shopping in between that), you'll find that with me, because that is all I have to give. If you're looking for drama, negativity, gossiping, fear, doubt, failure, etc., then I am not the one for you. I don't do those things well. That's a language that I can't speak. I forgot how to do those things. If I wanna play games, then I'll buy a deck of UNO cards, go online and play Warcraft, get a dog and throw a frisbee, spin the bottle, play horse-shoes, play PS3, Buy a Monopoly board, skip rope, play checkers, teach fish how to swim, go to the casino, bet horses, play Madden, watch Jeopardy!, flick rocks, get a magic set, ...
you get the point.....
What am I looking for?........
Well.... Nothing....
I asked myself the question "Who am I?" And I have discovered some really great and wonderful things about myself. Whoever that "one" is, you'll also clearly see those things, too. I can't wait to discover those in you, too. Self examination can be the most challenging and liberating experience in your life, because if forces you to possibly take responsibility for what comes into your realm of existence. What will you find in yourself? What will I find in you? We're all traveling upon the level of TIME, to that undiscovered country, from whose born, no traveller returns. WOW... Who said that again? That was deep!!!! That's something to think about! Question, "How are You spending YOUR time in this existence?" Playing those mind games (there's that again), to try to manipulate someone to be what YOU want them to be, instead of improving yourself, and ATTRACTING to YOU who YOU are. Well then, WHO ARE YOU? Answer that question honestly, and then you'll finally understand why you've been getting what you've always got. GOOD OR BAD!!! I am all about experiencing all that this life has to offer, and be the ABSOLUTE BEST THAT I CAN BE..... Spiritually, Intellectually, Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically, Because when I get to the end of it, I want to reflect back on it and smile and feel great that I have made the right decisions over the course of my life. If you finally want positivity and blessings for yourself, then we can achieve these wonderful things together. If not, You're actually doing me a favor, and I'll continue on without you replace you, and enjoy them anyway!!! I am all the Man that you will ever need!!!!!!! ..
Inspirational Quotes....
"As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others" Nelson Mandela "On this day I pledge neither to shy away from growth in myself, nor to require perfection in order to like myself. I will recognize through self-love that I am in a continual state of renewal and evolution" Eric V. Copage "If you have no confidence in self you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence you have won even before you have started" Marcus Garvey "What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always come through. we cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. the emotion is the energy that motivates!" Iyanla Vanzant "the amount of people that fail is directly proportionate to the amount of people that give up" Joseph McClendon "He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life" Muhammad Ali "Give your brain as much attention as you give your hair and you'll be a thousand times better" El-Hajj-El-Malik-El-Shabazz (Malcolm X) "I wasn't as smart then, than as I am now. But, who ever is?" Tina Turner "No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow" Alice Walker "Nothing can dim the light which shiles from within" Maya Angelou" "I live my life be these simple principles, these five L's of fulfillment and happiness: LIVE your life fully, LOVE as many people and as much as possible and then some. LAUGH hard at least three times a day; you'll live longer and happier, LEARN all that you can about as much as you can, LIGHTEN the @%$# up! Take it easy, don't be so hard on yourself and everybody else" Joseph McClendon "Gray skies are just clouds passing over" Duke Ellington "It's time for every one of us to roll up our sleeves and put OURSELVES at the top of our commitment list" Marian W. Edelman "We don't have an eternity to realize our dream, only the time we are here" Suzan Taylor "If people could make me angry they could control me. Why should I give someone else such power over my life?" Ben Carson "I spent years crying in my diary. But I finally stopped finding fault with myself. We're all different yet the same" Jasmine Guy " Anytime you see someone more successful than you are, they're doing something that you aren't" Malcolm X
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My college psychology professor At Tennessee State University once told me that ... ... "The Question Determines The Answer"
Well.... here are some questions for self reflection.....
What am I most excited about NOW? How can I choose to think about myself that will empower me? What are some of my greatest advantages in this life? In what ways can I be even more grateful for the gifts that I see in my life? what are some of the things that I am proud of overcoming in my life? In what ways am I a good example of what is possible for others? Where do I REALLY want to go? How can I be more forgiving of myself? What powerful identify can I hold for myself NOW that will excite me to be, to do, and have more in my life? What fears have I already conquered in my life? How can I be even more creative and enjoy the process? What is one great thing that I learned today? In what ways am I certain of winning in my life RIGH NOW? In what ways have I loved myself lately? What do I love most about myself about who I am? Who can I share my unanswered questions with? In what fun ways can I be more childlike today? What is the greatest gift in my life RIGHT NOW? In what ways am I pursuing greatness? How can I best foster even more desire, creativity, and imagination in myself NOW? How can I look for the good in others even more in my life? What new experiences and/or adventures do I look forward to doing and having in my life? How can i include others in those endeavors? What am I most thankful for in my life RIGHT NOW? How can I become more forgiving of myself and others? What dreams do I have for my destiny? What is no longer a struggle in my life now and how can i help others through their struggles now? What great things have not yet happened yet in mylife that I can get excited to look forward to?
End of self reflection questions.....
See what I mean? This is what I'm about. I'm not playing games here. This is my life. I didn't come 2000 miles from Detroit, MI, just to play UNO! I've been through this... I'm playing to WIN!!! These are the questions that I had begun to ask of myself. And I had to confront myself. Hope these can start the road to freedom for you, too. If you are not about THIS, then you're hopeless, just move along! KICK ROCKS DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!! I like to laugh, and I was a bucket of chuckles as I was typing some of this, but also being truthful, too. Now, I have visited some of YOUR pages on BP, and all I see is "I want this, that, and the other". "You gotta be this, that, and Oh yea, the other!" Like you're at Burger King or some sh#t. And "I Don't Play No Games" or something like that. Well.......I say to you, as you visit my page..... "Then YOU Don't Play No Games,Too!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you got something out of this. Give me your opinion Please sign my guessbook God Bless You!
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