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Yes, I do love GOD. He is my source of existence and my Savior. He keeps me functioning each and every day, without Him, I am nothing, but with Him.....I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. (Phil. 4:13)
First things first! I will NEVER compromise or jeopardize my body and/or soul (with or for another human being) for self pleasure, fulfillment, satisfaction or gratification. It takes an extremely insecure man/woman to do such a thing, and insecure I am not!! Yes, I have my wants, desires, urges and freak thoughts, but I do not act upon them and you shouldn't either unless it actually means something. NOW!
In the past I've said some very ugly things about gay men. While I try to change my way of thinking, I'll keep my thoughts and comments to myself. I'm not a mean or nasty person but I can be and I don't have a problem with that...that's just who I am. With that said, will the gay men PLEASE refrain from sending the gay messages and notes.
LADIES.....If you don't know the difference, in how to use (grammatically) the words, "woman" and "women".......PLEASE DON'T WRITE. There is a difference. If you send a note and I go to your page and your profile reads, "I am a grown women," or, "I am the type of women," etc, etc...PLEASE don't expect a response from me. Now, I'm no English Teacher...but damn it, I do know the difference between singular and plural.
Now, on to more important things. You have the capacity to choose what you think about. If you choose to think about past hurts, you will continue to feel bad. While it's true you can't change the effect past influences had on you once, you can change the effect they have on you now. Here's a little bit about: Me: I don't have a problem with telling anyone how I feel or what I think. It's just my opinion...that doesn't make it right or wrong...it's just my opinion. It's not my intention to hurt anyone or insult anyone and if, in the course of discussion, ones feelings get hurt I'll be the first to apologize, for hurting someone is not my intention...but...I will not change my opinion or apologize for my opinion until / unless I'm proven wrong. I'm not an argumentative type nor am I a closed-minded individual; I'm just passionate in my beliefs. I think we should all be passionate when it comes to our beliefs..... but that's just my opinion. What I am: I am a man!!! A grown man!!! I'm not perfect and don't want to be. I'm well educated, well spoken, well traveled, well dressed, and well groomed. I love and take good care of me and mine. If I have it and they need it, they get it!!! I'm the best friend a person could ever have or ask for. I'm dedicated to my God, my family and my friends, and there isn't anything on this earth that I wouldn't do for them. I believe in being "up-front" with people and I try not to lie. I'm not easily impressed or intimidated by anyone, regardless of their social status, their financial status, employment status or their physical appearance. Who I am: I'm that black man that I want to be. I'm that black man that I look up to. I'm that black man that I want my baby girl to marry. I'm that black man they don't interview during "breaking news." I'm that black man that my mother and father hoped for. I'm that black man that my son will want to be like, will remember, will have fond memories of, will talk about and will smile about. I'm that black man that my daughter will look for in HER man. I'm also that black man that others will want to be like, will look up to, and will want their baby girl to marry. I'm that black man they talk about during "breaking news." I'm that black man that mothers and fathers hope for, want their son's to be like, want their son's to have fond memories of, talk about and smile about. I'm that black man that their daughters will look for in THEIR men. I'M THAT BLACK MAN...that's who I am! Who I love: My God, my mother, my father, my brother, my children, my woman, my extended family and my dogs. What I love to do: See my Mama, my Grandmama, my Aunt and my children smile and hear them laugh, watch my dog run, and I love to sleep. What I do: I pray, I work hard everyday and I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. Some people can make that awfully difficult at times...but still I try. What I'm proud of: The color of my skin and the content of my character. I'm proud to be a black man. One could not bribe me with all the riches on earth or threaten me with death, imprisonment or hell, to be anything other than a black man, because I'm PROUD to be a black man. I'm proud of my family...my ENTIRE family and I'm proud of my black people (most of em`anyway). My personal heroes: My father William Dye, my mother Azalee Dye, my grandfathers Robert Hester Dye and Hoyt Biggs, my grandmothers Genora Biggs and Carolyn Dye, Malcolm X, Huey Newton, Bobby Seale and Fred Hampton. While I don't necessarily agree with everything they had to say...they're still my heroes! My dislikes: I despise ignorance, and dead-beat parents. I most especially despise dead-beat fathers. I'm not just speaking of money. You can pay your support on time every month and still be a dead-beat parent. I despise those that don't have common sense, common courtesy and respect for everybody, and pity those that lack street sense. Several people have told me that I sound angry, bitter, and negative....they couldn't be more wrong about me. I'm a very patient person, I'm a compassionate person, I love my fellow human being (regardless of race, creed, color or religion) and I love to laugh and have fun just like the next person, but for some things there's just no excuse. Because I have decided to share some of the things that I dislike and have no respect for, does not make me an angry or bitter person. I hold myself to a set of standards, regardless of whether or not those standards fit the popular view of things. What I'm grateful for: First and foremost, I'm grateful and forever in debt to my parents, most especially my mother...the one woman that taught me, showed me, and gave me unconditional love, and taught me how to treat people. And also my father, who taught me, and demonstrated on a daily basis, what it is and what it takes to be a man. I can't forget my older brother, Elliott. Everybody should have an older brother like him, to help raise them. His patience, his tolerance, his time, and his teachings, helped make me who I am today. Good job Elliott!!! I'm a recovering drug-addict. It's been 10 years, and each and everyday I give thanks to my God, for I now know who I am not, but most importantly, I thank God, because now I know who I am, and today I love me and almost everything about me. I like the way I walk, I like the way I talk and I like the way I think, and I owe it to several people who thought enough of me, and have nothing but love for me. Need help? Want help? Holla at me before it's too late, and I'll give you the same love that I was given.
I've changed my mind (about some things!!!). So take it like you find it and leave it like it is.
One of my thoughts: Why do some (Black folks) spend so much money on material things. The black race here in the U.S. spends more on material things than any other race, but we're at the bottom of the totem pole when it comes to having a significant savings account, adequate life insurance policies, health insurance, college educations and owning homes and/or property. We will buy $40,000 vehicles, and reside in an apartment or in a house that's worth less than the car, and then have to park the car outside with a club on the steering wheel, because there is no garage to park it in. We purchase things that will, in the end mean absolutely nothing...actually, some of these items mean absolutely nothing right now!!! Why do we treat ourselves this way? Our sisters will buy $400 purses, but will only have $40, a pacifier, and some loose change in it. Our brothas' will spend $3000 on rims for a car that was built in 1975, but he only earns $10 per hour. WHAT??? Some of us leave this earth, and leave our children and loved ones to fend for themselves. I don't understand why we do this, and maybe it's not for me to understand, but I know one damn thing, I'm not going to treat myself like that, and I sure as hell aint leaving my children (regardless of their age) here with nothing. Somebody sent me a note and told me to stop "hatin".......LOL... ...well, aint no hate involved, cause I GOT MINE! Hell, I was just wonderin!! I was raised to always be a gentleman, and a gentleman I am. I can hold an intelligent, thought provoking, stimulating and intellectual conversation with anyone that wishes to engage. I can attend any formal, or "black-tie" affair at which my presence is requested, but....don't get it twisted...I can walk, hang, eat, sleep, drink and "be merry" in the "hood," if I choose to do so, and it aint gonna be no problems....Ya know what I mean? No, I'm not tough, not cool, not "hooked-up," and I don't want to be any of those things. I'm just what my mother and father expected and demanded that I be - A GOD FEARING, RESPECTFUL, AND THOROUGH BROTHA! To my children, Robert and Sydney. Be respectful, be obedient, and don`t worry about a thing because Daddy gotcha back. Whether you`re right or wrong, I gotcha back!!! I love you two more than life itself!!! Money cannot buy me, and governments cannot silence me.
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