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You Have To Feel It To Heal It
Most of us have put our negative emotions in a box and labeled it 'deal with later' at one time or another. In fact, a lot of us create life-long habits of running from these emotions. But we do not realize how emotions affect our body.
No one wants to deeply feel their 'negative' emotions that bring them pain so we immediately try to avoid or dismiss strongly negative emotions. Why is that so? Is it that we have not been taught an appropriate method for emotional release or that we believe that we do not have an appropriate outlet for our emotions? Is it because strong and negative emotions bring us pain and painful memories?
Negative, strong emotions, or negative 'energy' however you wish to label it will remain inside your body-mind-soul and become body-mind-soul issues if you do not deal with them. Dis-ease, pain, injury and all manner of negative energy will manifest itself in your cells, in your body. This is how emotions affect our body.
It is your mind that denies the emotions existence. The denial just buries them deeper into your body and into your soul. If we are our cells, and all our experiences of life are stored in our cells including our emotions, what is it that you wish to keep there forever? Negative, denied emotions? The body does not know the difference between a thought, an emotion, a hormone, a biochemical or a molecule of any type. They are all sublimely intertwined.
The very emotions that we deny in our situations all too often are expressed later as we take them out on our children. Because of our authority over our children, it is all too easy to do. And since all of us were children once, we have been the objects of emotions. In order to be loved, as children, we learn the ways of s very quickly. If, as children, we show emotions that our parents are not equipped to handle or the emotions that they are trying to suppress, we get beaten, disciplined or ignored or have love withdrawn from us.
We must accept that our emotions need an outlet. They will come out one way or another because they are part of who you are. You may believe that you have gotten rid of them, but instead your body has absorbed them, and is trying to grab your attention by expressing these emotions for you in symptoms, injuries and/or dis-ease. This is how emotions really affect your body.
Many people don't realize this but when you become stressed, your body releases a stress hormone called cortisol. This is how emotions affect our body. The cortisol or the stress hormone that is activated in our brains in response to emotional situations lasts a mere 90 seconds in our bodies, after the brain releases it. If the emotion lasts beyond 90 seconds it is because we choose to hold on to it and make it last. Now there is power and we can use this information to learn how emotions affect our body. Even though we cannot control our chemical response to the trigger, we can choose what happens next.
Some people are able to release their emotional energy through physical activity. That is why 'movement therapy' is so important in our lives for emotional release. These folks are able to feel the energy through movement and heal it by releasing it this way. They may not understand how emotions affect their body, but they do know that they feel much better if they exercise.
Meditation or Centered Prayer is also important. If we use physical activity in a meditative fashion, we can really accomplish two things at once. For those of us who's contact with ourselves is so limited, those of us who have difficulty stilling our minds, physical activity may be the only way we can access our body-mind-soul. For the rest of us a Meditation or Centered Prayer practice is also very helpful or combinations of both.
Whichever method we choose, even if it is just hitting the bed or a punching bag with our fists, we need to find a way to release our strong emotions and heal them. We need to feel them fully, release them and heal them. We need to "feel it and heal it!"
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