squiget01 41, love being a grandma, & still feeling FABULOUS! - October 19, 2011 add/view comments (0)

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Hey there, BP! Thanks for stopping by!

I would like to thank all of those who have given me their advice, their prayers and their support. It's nice to know that there are still people out there (who don't even know you) who can reach out to you. May God continue to keep you all in his grace!!

I hate that I have to put this on my page, but I have to send a message to all the ladies who have hit me up with notes; I AM STRICKLY D*CKLY, NOT LICKY LICKY! I don't carry a LICK-HER license! Sorry, but I don`t roll like that. I hope you ladies can respect that! And to all the other "STRAIGHT" women who are on here showing everything the good Lord and their momma gave them; If you want a man to TRULY respect you.......TRY RESPECTING YOURSELF FIRST!!! Leave something for the imagination......Damn! You may actually get somewhere. There's a time and place for everything. If you're going to show it ALL, at least get paid for it! Stop giving it away for free as you are much more valuable then that! Now, that's my two cents........

Moving on ........ I have one question: Why doesn't BP have "House music" as one of the music choices?

I AM NOW LOOKING FOR SOMETHING SERIOUS!! :) I am back on the dating scene so if you're up for the challenge then I say, "All the REAL MEN please stand up or step up to the plate!" A little about me: I'm a single mother of four (4) - YES 4 - young men who are 24, 22, 21 & 18. I also have 2 grandsons, 2 & 3 years old. Never married, I'm 5'2" (shorty), 130lbs (can't believe I just put that on my page), very curvy (36D, 28, 36), dark brown/green eyes & dark brown hair. I don't smoke, don't drink, don't do drugs & would prefer a man who doesn't do ANY of these things either. I love animals, food, lots of fun & laughter. The rest is either on this page or you will just have to ask me. Some of the things I'm looking for in a mate are listed below!! (but trust me there is so much more I could add to this list - maybe later)

The top qualities I look for in a mate are: (first & foremost) 1. HONESTY - If your whole life is a lie, how will you ever know what truth is? Let`s keep it real. I don`t need a fake brother! I've had enough of those. You know who you are. OTHERS IN MY PAST OBVIOUSLY COULDN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH! (Whether positive or negative)

2. Sincerity - I need someone with a good heart & who is selfless; not someone who is judgmental. I value your opinion, not your judgment! (And know that just because I have an opinion, it doesn't mean I have an attitude!) Too many men mistake a woman's opinion for attitude and miss out on really great women. Keep an open mind!!

3. Outgoing - I don't want someone who is lazy. I prefer someone who keeps themselves up (hygiene, well groomed & physically fit- I like them built, I'm talking chiseled like the ROCK), 5'11" - 6'5" (preferably), who is mobile, and energetic and who is breathing! I don't want someone who acts like they have both feet in the grave! After all, you wouldn't expect anything less from me right? I'd really like someone who can compliment me as I can compliment him (meaning when people look at us they can say we make a great looking couple). Some people just look odd together. If that makes me shallow...Oh well, that's who I am so be it!

4. Sense of Humor - Laughter is the best medicine. You can`t be serious all the time! If you can keep me laughing & a smile on my face you definitely will win brownie points with me. Just as long as you're not corny in a bad way! (raised eyebrows) :)

5. Endurance - "GET YOUR MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER!" While that is all good in the bedroom, what I mean is "Can you stand the rain?" I wouldn`t want someone who leaves at the first sign of trouble. Be open and talk about the problems! If you're the type who leaves, you're ASAP is WEAK and definitely NOT THE MAN FOR ME! (and of course this is within reasonable circumstances that I'm referring to) Hell....I may leave your butt!! ;)

My biggest complaint about dating: Brothers don`t seem to understand or realize that I`m NOT a bootycall! I do have a brain, gentlemen, and there's so much more to me than that! And if that's ALL you're after, you might as well stop reading now and close out my page because I don't have time for you nor will I make the time for you. Also, I don`t need all the baby mama drama. I don`t mind a man who has children, but if this was to become a relationship, please don`t forget that I EXIST IN YOUR LIFE! I understand that I will have to come second to your child(ren) but I don`t have to come second to their mama(s). (Because you know some of you brothers have more then one). I don`t want or need to be at the bottom of the totem poll! It would be VERY NICE to be 1st in someone's life!! (for once) In all honesty - I would prefer someone who DIDN'T have children even though I do. But don't let that statement discourage you.

And, brothers come correct! Don`t send me notes saying something like, "Yo mah, Can I git wit u?" because my answer (if you get one) will be, "HELL NO!" You`re not sending me a text message from your cellphone. Damn!....Spell the words out; use the education that was afforded you and say something intelligent like, "Hello, how are you doing?" You may actually get a response from me. It just amazes me that there are brothers (grown behind brothers mind you) out there who can't type more then a "fraction of a sentence." It's so unbelievable what women have to choose from these days. Almost makes a sista WANT to stay single. And please....chill with all the wanna be "Player" crap! I don`t have the time or patience. Save that mess for the "chicken heads" out there who don't know any better! I`m not about the games....trust me "YOU WILL LOSE!"

A good thing to know about me is: I am a simple person, meaning, I don`t need all the glitz and glamour some people feel they NEED to have. I've just had too many guys enter my life & made it seem like they were trying to buy me & my affections or trying to "overly" impress me with what they had. Frankly, that was a big turn off. I like nice things but when it's appropriate. I`m not a gold digger & nor am I a chicken head who falls for that kind of stuff. I`m not impressed by the flashy cars, big houses, or the other bling, bling you may have or WISH you had! IF I HAVE TO ASK FOR IT.....IT`S NOT MINE AND I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT! I have my own (however little it may be), but I would prefer someone who can bring (at least) as much as I can to the table. If you can bring more then me....."I ain't mad at you!" It's all good. I`m very independant and NOT INTO THE CONTROL FREAK TYPES NOR THE NEEDY TYPES! Being affectionate is one thing but NEEDINESS AND ALWAYS HAVING TO BE UP SOMEONES BUTT is something totally different! If you're one of those guys who "constantly" needs attention, either move back with your momma or find a shrink! Get a backbone if you don't have one!

I would prefer someone who I can enjoy spending time with doing whatever, however, whenever time permits and still have the understanding that we each will need our "ME" time away from each other, even if that just meant we were on our sides of the bed; me reading a book and him watching his sports game. In all honesty, if it's football, basketball, boxing or motorcycle racing I would be acting like I'm reading that book!! (big cheesy grin). I'd prefer someone who has mpst of the same interests as I have & a few differences as well (that way we can learn from each other). I love someone who knows how to cook as well. If you cook better then me....GOOD! You can teach me what you know & help a sister burn it up in the kitchen (and of course I don't mean that literally). :)

SO AGAIN, I AM LOOKING FOR SOMETHING SERIOUS AND EVERLASTING and hopefully, this will be the LAST time; for keeps....If God's willing! But please understand that I am far from perfect. I've made many mistakes in my life & have many regrets due to bad decisions. I am a woman who has been hurt many times by those I've loved. I am delicate and very sensitive to many things; it doesn't take much to turn me off! I'm one who's been battered, bruised, used and abused and many times unappreciated; at times I feel BROKEN! I do carry the scars. I may have been mistreated....but NEVER defeated. I have an inner strength given to me by the Grace of God and from the woman who raised me. But even with that strength, I am still only human and have my limits too. I have VERY little tolerance for BS now, when before I may have put up with plenty. I do have a wall up & not many have been able to break it down. It just seems like every time I let someone in, they disappoint me.

I DO WANT EVERYTHING GENTLEMEN! I WANT IT ALL! REAL LOVE, HONESTY, TRUST, FORGIVENESS, RESPECT, PEACE of MIND, HAPPINESS, SAFETY, SECURITY, LOYALTY, PASSION, ROMANCE, & TRUE INTIMACY (which doesn't always mean penetration....feel me?) ; a man who can stimulate me not only physically, but mentally, emotionally & spiritually. I want our souls to intertwine, be one & be everlasting. I truly miss the little things! I DON'T want a man who wants to sleep with a hundred women. I WANT a man who would find a hundred ways to love me and ONLY me! I want a man who's not afraid to show/express his feelings or love for ME. I DON'T EVER WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP (EVER AGAIN) WHERE I HAVE TO GUESS OR WONDER HOW MY MAN FEELS ABOUT ME!!! And if you're a good, (Hell) great kisser (meaning you can make me weak in the knees or give me butterflies in my stomach just from a kiss) that would help too.

I've settled for less then all of that and ended up with nothing but a bunch of disappointments, hurt, pain & a ton of regrets and now, I just refuse to settle for anything less then what I feel and know that I want, need & definitely deserve. As the saying goes..... "THE MINUTE YOU SETTLE FOR LESS THEN YOU DESERVE.....YOU GET EVEN LESS THEN WHAT YOU SETTLE FOR!" - author unknown ...I'm tired of settling. And I know a lot of you will read this & think I'm asking for a lot or being too picky but ask yourself; Would you want anything less from me? If I'm willing to give all that I have and then some, why can't you? If you're not willing to give your all......THEN KEEP ON KEEPING ON!!

Now, if you feel that you can contribute to my life of happiness (as I will strive to be happy no matter what) and you are capable of taking me on (damaged goods, flaws and all), willing to pamper me and love me (unconditionally) for the woman I am, then feel free to contact me, but remember.......... "If you are NOT part of the solution, you are part of the problem!" And if you're part of the problem........YOU HAVE GOT TO GO!!! "THOSE WHO HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE, HIDE NOTHING!" - Dr. Phil .....and with that being said, I believe that "THE TRUTH ALWAYS COMES TO LIGHT!" One way or another; so what you may think you're hiding, I may already know or will eventually find out! (wink, wink) Because I make it my business to know. Remember, I'm not about the games........ Now, some of you don't believe that I'm the age stated. I was born in 1970 (do the math). I hope I didn't age too much..... ;) Then again.......... BLACK DON'T CRACK!! :) I hope you enjoyed your stay! Take care, BP & may TRUE LOVE find you & God bless you always!